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My family dont like me being a christian

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Everytime I talk to them about God they get mad and scream at me and don't want to hear it. I read the word alot and they say I'm obsessed and all I'm doing is trying to grow in the Lord and learn more about him. They took my bible and I try to get other ones and they trash them...I don't know what God would think I'm a child of his and his word means growth..I need his word. They say I'm obsessed and I won't do normal things..but the word says don't be friend with the world and thats what I'm doing...I need help I love God..but it seems if I was to go back in my old ways and curse alot and be rude to people they would be fine with me...they say the reason they are doing this because they care about me and love me...but how is that if they trying to destroy my relationship with God
 

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There are Bibles that you could read online, sorry I'm not very good at advice but this verse always helps me when I feel lost/scared/ in trouble:
Psalm 46

1 God is our refuge and strength,
an ever-present help in trouble.

2 Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way
and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea,

3 though its waters roar and foam
and the mountains quake with their surging.
Selah

4 There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God,
the holy place where the Most High dwells.

5 God is within her, she will not fall;
God will help her at break of day.

6 Nations are in uproar, kingdoms fall;
he lifts his voice, the earth melts.

7 The LORD Almighty is with us;
the God of Jacob is our fortress.

8 Come and see the works of the LORD,
the desolations he has brought on the earth.

9 He makes wars cease to the ends of the earth;
he breaks the bow and shatters the spear,
he burns the shields with fire.

10 "Be still, and know that I am God;
I will be exalted among the nations,
I will be exalted in the earth."

11 The LORD Almighty is with us;
the God of Jacob is our fortress.

Will for you brother!!!
 
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This is the reason why the act like this towards you:

John 3:20
Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that his deeds will be exposed.

Pray to God for strength, set yourself as a good example as if you do this and keep a good testimony, you may turn others to God:

1 Peter 2:12
Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.

Matthew 5:16
Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.

Titus 2:8
sound in speech which is beyond reproach, so that the opponent will be put to shame, having nothing bad to say about us.

1 Peter 2:15
For such is the will of God that by doing right you may silence the ignorance of foolish men.

1 Peter 3:16
and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.

1 Peter 4:16
but if anyone suffers as a Christian, he is not to be ashamed, but is to glorify God in this name.

For encouragement:

Luke 6:22-23
Blessed are you when men hate you, when they exclude you and insult you and reject your name as evil, because of the Son of Man. "Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, because great is your reward in heaven. For that is how their fathers treated the prophets.


P.S. You can read the bible online!


Just remembered this scripture too:

John 15:20
Remember the words I spoke to you: 'No servant is greater than his master.' If they persecuted me, they will persecute you also. If they obeyed my teaching, they will obey yours also.
 
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Jesus said he came not to bring peace to the world but a sword to divide families. The Jews who became followers of Jesus truly lost everything family, jobs, even their identity. This life we live now is only but a tiny speck when considering eternity. When we endure hardships such as losing family, being ridiculed, always remember it is because we are his, bought and paid for. He was crucified for his beliefs and we also must carry our cross. You do need his word to study and mature in. It is our shield against the evil one. Call around to the are churches and see if they have any extras. Keep it hidden. Don't try to witness to family anymore it just keeps them inflamed against you. You've planted the seed let someone come and water. God Bless!
 
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hey....you have some good advice here....i like the one about how you can read the bible online (they do have full bibles online, if you need a website you can pm me and i'll find one for you)....and you can join small groups at church. i would say pray for your family every nite (each one, by name). they might be hostile to talking about it but, you can always pray for them in secret. i want to tell you something about myself....my family were believers in Jesus and i grew more and more hostile to it in college, i was very mad to have to go to church, didnt want to hear about the bible....i was extremely closed to it. but that did change one day when i had a realization out of the blue. i think that a lot (all?) of that had to do with prayers that i'm sure my family was praying for me in secret. we got to a point where we didnt talk much about it because i would get upset but...that doesnt stop prayers. i had gotten hostile towards "religion" because of 2 main factors: that i was taught evolution in school and i believed it and because i wanted my sins (i didnt want any morals).
you are doing the right thing....you are trying to learn more about God and you are fighting your sins? well done.....keep going....
 
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I will tell you a short story - I was 16 when I got saved - I use to try to talk to my parents about my new life in Christ. My parents did the same thing your are. So I decided they knew where I stand and they knew the truth so.... it was not up to me to cast my pearls before swine.
The best thing you can do is like rachel said find a place to hide you and your Bible
And just be a good example in their presence live your walk aways, and they might just see your changes and begin to ask questions. And AWAY"S keep them in prayer.
 
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Do you think they might have problems with the particular church you belong to, more than your faith? Sometimes churches have reputations in the community for being controlling or cult-like.

People change themselves, and faith is between God and the person. You have shown them the good news ... now let it settle inside them. Keep praying. Resist any temptations to compete, prove them wrong, or demean the way they have raised you. Just be grateful for the years you've had together, and show them God's love. Give of yourself in ways that help them. Be willing to walk the extra mile.
 
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It all depends on how you talk to them about your faith.

Are you doing it in a loving gentle way?

No-one likes being told they are going to hell.

I think you have told them, now is the time to back off a little, and show your faith through your actions.

Before I became a christian I would of been angry at someone telling me I was going to hell, but in the end I still came to Christ.
Your family have to come to that decision by themselves, even if you mean well. I know what it is like when you feel so alone being a christian, but it is your faith that matters, you can't change other peoples minds.
Jesus called you to be his son, ~ He will call them if it is meant to be, try to live at peace with all men (including family). This is what God has commanded us to do.

Don't take this post as a critisicm, I don't know your relationship with your relatives.....It's just some friendly advice brother.

hope it goes well for you at home...
 
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If God can listen to our prayers and thoughts, you can be a Christian on the inside while acting as an athiest on the outside. No human can read minds except God. They won't attack you if you pretend to be an athiest. Right now I believe there are many athiest pretenders because of fear of being kicked out and becoming homeless, or worse become a victim on the news.

 
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Religion can be scary at times to those who either don't have it or who are not all that serious about it. They have made themselves clear on this point and as a person you should respect their decision. I know this is hard, they ARE your family, but just pray for them and hopefully they will see the error of their ways. You do not need to hide your religion from them...but it's also not healthy if it's EVERYTHING you talk, do, think about. You are still an individual and God loves you as you are...so you don't need to give up on the things you love...eg. Fishing or baseball or football or even nascar. You can still enjoy other activities with your family that you used to...just find other people to fulfill your spiritual needs as well...but choose carefully so that they aren't people who are truly obsessed...best of luck to you mate
 
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Psalm 68:3 But may the righteous be glad
and rejoice before God;
may they be happy and joyful.
4 Sing to God, sing praise to his name,
extol him who rides on the clouds [a]—
his name is the LORD—
and rejoice before him.
5 A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows,
is God in his holy dwelling.
6 God sets the lonely in families, [b]
he leads forth the prisoners with singing;
but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land.

Psalm 68 - Passage[wash my mouth]Lookup - New International Version - BibleGateway.com


Matthew 10:37 “If you love your father or mother more than you love me, you are not worthy of being mine; or if you love your son or daughter more than me, you are not worthy of being mine. 38 If you refuse to take up your cross and follow me, you are not worthy of being mine. 39 If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it.
Matthew 10 - Passage[wash my mouth]Lookup - New Living Translation - BibleGateway.com

You're a grown man. It's time to start thinking about leaving the nest so that you can soar with the eagles
You've spent enough time scratching with the chickens
 
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I dont post here often...but this is just plain unbiblical. A man is saved by grace and is trying to live out his faith before his family. Your advice is to live as the world and be a closet Christian. God tells us we will face trials and be persecuted for His sake and to count is as a blessing.

"If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you" John 15:18-19


"Whosoever therefore shall confess me before men, him will I confess also before my Father which is in heaven." Matthew 10:32

Romans 8:31 says "If God Is for Me, Who Can Be Against Me?"

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything" - James 1:2-4

Seek the strength of God to carry you thru your family's persecutions. Remember they do not hate you, but Him. Pray for the Holy Spirit to work in their hearts that they might be saved.
 
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I too wonder about the "normal things" you are not doing. If you are refusing to use your skills as a pickpocket with them, that is one thing; the Bible clearly tells us not to steal. But if you are abstaining from, say, watching football with the family, you are creating a barrier where one need not exist.

You have before you the toughest job of all - living out your faith in front of them with love, without preaching to them. They have head what you have had to say... now live it out day after day.
 
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Sorry to hear this. I was in a similar situation when I first converted too! My mum and two sisters thought I was nuts, being too extreme, and had been brainwashed. The darkness is afraid of the light. Today, they are alright with it thankfully as I have prayed for them. I would suggest praying to God about this, ask for him to work through their minds and bring them closer to Him.

Being a friend of God, means that we are in enmity with the world and vice versa. James 4:4 Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. Those who do not believe are blind to the goodness of God and they will turn against you as people do with things they do not understand.

Your faith is too important to lose. Do not let your family drag you down, for when salt loses its saltiness then it is useless.

All you can do is pray and be an example of Christ. Turn the left cheek. Let them mock you. That is what Jesus had to do.

OR you could move out!
 
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Wow. I am very shocked that you believe this to be okay!. This is completely unbiblical so I am going to disagree with you and use scripture to back up what I say.

Do not be ashamed of God; do not deny Him.It is better to be a friend of God than to be a friend of the world. Matthew 10:28 Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell.

Also!!! Luke 9:26 "For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words, the Son of Man will be ashamed of him when He comes in His glory, and the glory of the Father and of the holy angels.

Persevere because your seat in the Kingdom is too important to lose for the sake of friendship with the world. Oh and welcome to the body of Christ!
 
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What you need is the Armor of God.
The Armor of God

10Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. 12For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. 18And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.

Ephesians 6:10-18
 
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Hey brother,

I want to reassure you, many people are in the same type of situation you are in, some even worse. My parents feel the same way about me and Christianity as yours do, although luckily for me, I don't live with them so I have plenty of religious freedom here on my own and I only get mocked/insulted by them when I visit them or during phone conversations sometimes. Here's one great practical thing you can do: do you work? Do everything you can to be humble at work, and to improve your skill set as much as possible to excel at your job. Do you go to school? Give it all your effort, raise your grades and do as much as you can in that. Whatever you do in life, follow it passionately and work hard as would be pleasing to God. Then when your parents persecute you, you can tell them that even if they hate God, they should at least be happy for what He's done in your life. Then you can list all the great changes that have come about in your life because of Him.

That's what helped me a lot. My parents really don't like God or even the idea of Him, but when I told them all the great things God has done and is doing in my life, they can't really argue with it and it got them to back off a little bit.

I also want to share a Bible verse with you that might help.... I posted this in another thread with my comments below it, I think it will apply well here too so I'll just copy/paste it as it was.

 
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You're past the age of being a minor ... if your home situation is truly bad, you might start planning for how you can set out on your own. Figure out if you can make enough money to share an apartment (with someone who will not trash your faith the same way).

It might seem early, but the situation might get worse instead of better. Just start making real plans... you will move out eventually anyway.
 
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