Hello everyone!
I want to share some of my story now. This is from several years ago, but when I was younger and I lived at home, my brother was sometimes sexually abusive towards me. I'm shaking now cos this is the first time i've "told" anyone new about it while completely sober. I won't go into precise details cos it's a bit much for me and probably not appropriate. I find it hard sometimes that my brother is younger than me. Very few people know about this, and among those who don't are my parents. I know this has to change sometime. I need to get confirmed sometime soon, but I'm scared I'll have to give testimony. I don't know how many Christians practice confirmation, so just to explain, I was baptized when I was a baby and my parents and godparents made the baptismal promises for me, and confirmation is when you make them for yourself later. God has been so amazing through all this, He was always there, He found me a way out, He is still working to sort out the mess as fast as I can bear (which is actually very slowly) and I don't want to leave that out of my testimony, but telling my parents is made worse by the fact that my Mum is not a Christian, and my brother I'm not 100% sure about, but most likely not. I see God bringing some positives out of this, but I think I will make them suffer more by hearing it than me by saying it because they won't be able to see that. Obviously I'm not going to break it to them on the day, I know I have to warn them before that, but I wondered if anyone had some ideas on less destructive ways to do this. It's taken years but I've forgiven him, so I don't want to create knee-jerk reactions in my parents. I can't wait forever, because I wanted to do it while my godparents were still around and one of them has cancer - though I think is in remission now.
sleepygirl
I want to share some of my story now. This is from several years ago, but when I was younger and I lived at home, my brother was sometimes sexually abusive towards me. I'm shaking now cos this is the first time i've "told" anyone new about it while completely sober. I won't go into precise details cos it's a bit much for me and probably not appropriate. I find it hard sometimes that my brother is younger than me. Very few people know about this, and among those who don't are my parents. I know this has to change sometime. I need to get confirmed sometime soon, but I'm scared I'll have to give testimony. I don't know how many Christians practice confirmation, so just to explain, I was baptized when I was a baby and my parents and godparents made the baptismal promises for me, and confirmation is when you make them for yourself later. God has been so amazing through all this, He was always there, He found me a way out, He is still working to sort out the mess as fast as I can bear (which is actually very slowly) and I don't want to leave that out of my testimony, but telling my parents is made worse by the fact that my Mum is not a Christian, and my brother I'm not 100% sure about, but most likely not. I see God bringing some positives out of this, but I think I will make them suffer more by hearing it than me by saying it because they won't be able to see that. Obviously I'm not going to break it to them on the day, I know I have to warn them before that, but I wondered if anyone had some ideas on less destructive ways to do this. It's taken years but I've forgiven him, so I don't want to create knee-jerk reactions in my parents. I can't wait forever, because I wanted to do it while my godparents were still around and one of them has cancer - though I think is in remission now.
sleepygirl
