My daughter

[CoolMom6]

I will begin this thread asking for prayer for a small child who has to go to daddy's because the courts could not prove or believe that he is abusive.
They do not know or believe because he is so good at pretending otherwise.
He fooled me into marrying him and having a child.
He then proceeded to hurt me, my other children and mentally berate and tease and demean us all.
He did so many things and took our things and used us and everyone around us, I thought I was finally getting over and he was being a good dad to her.

I won't go into all the details here for now.
Two years ago, I began a thread for the divorce and custody proceedings and I believe the Lord has His hand in it from day one, because there was so much prayer over it all.
But sometimes he "tweaks" out, drugs or no; I don't know what it is...mood swings, or whatever...have no clue. He just turns and gets mean and ugly.
He calls and leaves messages or comes by or has to lie about something or tell some story.
This child is 3 and goes to him and a houseful of men, who he lets live there to work and hang out.
I fear for her, but am at my wit's end on how to stop it.

It goes smoothly and then something weird happens.
I have talked to her and asked her questions. She loves him of course, for he is a fun daddy most of the time.

Please, prayer, mostly for her.
And over him for a heart/soul change. He calls himself a Christian, but his heart and actions show otherwise. He was the scariest person I have ever known in my life, how quickly he could turn from nice to evil.
And any help, ideas, clues.....anything I can do to make this right.

He had supervised visitation for a few months, and now
she has had bad dreams since she goes overnight for a year now.

Thank you, I am so shook up as I type this, as he woke up all my old fears again tonight.

 

[Paladin Dave]

I'm praying, definitely! I've heard too many situations like this, and I hope with everything I am that he won't continue to hurt your family!

 

[Surviving]

You are all in my thoughts and prayers, especially the little one. May God keep her safe.

 

[lavenderskies]

Praying for this child's safety and comfort. A heart to open to the Lord.

 

[Surviving]

Please keep us updated on this.

 

[CoolMom6]

Ok, well, there are times of peace with him, now that we are not living there full-time.
He gets her for today until Wed. morning.
I have not sensed anything up with him, other than it will be my Easter holiday with her, and I may let her go egg hunting with him, only because I know he will be around the church and family all day, and she will have fun.
I may be going out of town for that day, not sure.

So...
All is well right at the moment.
I know from the pattern it is not always going to be smooth.
But I do believe prayer works.

And the father is not going to be able to continue through life hurting others at the rate he has done all his life.
Not if God has anything to do with it!!

 

[UnitynLove]

I will pray for you sis!

 

[CoolMom6]

I will pray for you sis!

Thank you, honey~~

 

[CoolMom6]

I am currently courting with a gentleman who would love to take my children and me under his kind wing and love us and have a family but we would like to live in his state, which is so very beautiful and cool. Not so hot like NV. Also, he owns a nice home and land and it is out in the country, not the city as we live in now.

I would like prayer concerning my kids and I moving; esp. where it concerns the custody and visitation of their dads. I do not know when we will begin paperwork, but I would like it covered beforehand. I am praying now, daily.

 

[Paladin Dave]

Will do.

 

[CoolMom6]

Will do.

Thanks Brother. I believe we will finally get our blessings, but of course, the enemy will fight about it.

 

[VioletLady]

Hi Coolmom, I SO relate to your story. Really.

How are you? And how are the kids? I have a six year old daughter and we are in the same position. My ex husband did all the same things (where do they learn this stuff???!!!!???) I moved away from my home city when my daughter was a baby, he had threatened violence against her as well as my son and me.

I am fully aware of how manipulative these people can be and the courts were quite charmed by him at first.

Whatever you do, do not let this man ruin your trust in mankind, be wary of course, we have to be these days - but you deserve love and happiness in your life.

God bless you and your family

Violet xxxx

 

[CoolMom6]

Hi Coolmom, I SO relate to your story. Really.

How are you? And how are the kids? I have a six year old daughter and we are in the same position. My ex husband did all the same things (where do they learn this stuff???!!!!???) I moved away from my home city when my daughter was a baby, he had threatened violence against her as well as my son and me.

I am fully aware of how manipulative these people can be and the courts were quite charmed by him at first.

Whatever you do, do not let this man ruin your trust in mankind, be wary of course, we have to be these days - but you deserve love and happiness in your life.

God bless you and your family

Violet xxxx

OH, thank you, Violet, and thank YOU, Lord, for this is the confirmation I needed to hear that it is okay. I have been letting him have her fairly often, and praying over it, but I really want to move my children to a better climate, emotionally, too, if you know what I mean.

I am only a bit afraid of how it will go in the courts. I am trusting that the Lord would not have put my future husband in my life if He did not have a plan. I do have much peace for the overall picture, but I do not look forward to having to deal with him all over again.

Meanwhile, his house of cards is wobbling and may just fall of his own doing and then my situation will look so much better, thanks to God and my hubby-to-be!!!

 

[Saucy]

God is so amazing and every child needs their father. Don't give up on him. What he needs is God and seeds to be sown into his life. If everyone leaves him and you take his child away...how much more will that devestate him? I AM NOT taking his side, but this guy needs some tough love and help. If he has violent mood swings it sounds like he's on drugs or gets into heavy liquor. Videotape his behavior or find out what he's on and get the cops on him. You think some jailtime is harsh, but I've seen it sober people up and make them realize their mistakes. Or...confront him! Tell him that he's going to lose his daughter if he doesn't straighten up his act. He's got a problem and it will take tough love to get him clean.

 

[CoolMom6]

Actually, my brother, that is very good advice, but TBH, I don't believe it is drugs or alcohol, but possibly prescription drugs making him moody, although, I did not see him be like this until behind the same doors with him. He is not like this in public or at church.
Only at home, in private.
So that tells me it is a spiritual condition; one which he is able to turn on and off at will apparently.

 

[VioletLady]

OH, thank you, Violet, and thank YOU, Lord, for this is the confirmation I needed to hear that it is okay. I have been letting him have her fairly often, and praying over it, but I really want to move my children to a better climate, emotionally, too, if you know what I mean.

I am only a bit afraid of how it will go in the courts. I am trusting that the Lord would not have put my future husband in my life if He did not have a plan. I do have much peace for the overall picture, but I do not look forward to having to deal with him all over again.

Meanwhile, his house of cards is wobbling and may just fall of his own doing and then my situation will look so much better, thanks to God and my hubby-to-be!!!

How are you doing hon? xxxxx

 

[UnitynLove]

I will

 

[CoolMom6]

Hello Violet;

I am fine. God gave me a ton of His peace, and an answer. I will not be leaving Vegas anytime soon.
I am going to stay close to my kids, and He is leading in every way.

Thanks for asking; PM me sometime, OK?
Love ya~

 

[CoolMom6]

Thank you!!

 

[VioletLady]

Hello Violet;

I am fine. God gave me a ton of His peace, and an answer. I will not be leaving Vegas anytime soon.
I am going to stay close to my kids, and He is leading in every way.

Thanks for asking; PM me sometime, OK?
Love ya~

U betcha!! xxxx

Stay close to God hon, and it'll all be fine.

Big big hugs xxxxx