My brother

[Keturah Nikole]

Biologically, he wasn't my brother and society would probably say that he wasn't my brother. But I grew up with his family, his parents are my 'parents', his sister my 'sister' and he/his brother my 'brothers'. We've been through everything together. He was less than 3 months younger than me, so we literally shared our whole lives together.
Monday night he was with some buddies and they were coming home and were in a bad wreck and died, most likely instantly. I got the call early the next morning from his/my sister. I feel like I'm in a terrible dream right now - just waiting for him to update his status about it all being some horrible prank. My life has been turned to auto-pilot, hours pass by without me realizing it.
My family has been hit pretty hard, but I feel like other than his biological family, I'm taking it the hardest. Everyone else is just going along like things are ok and almost as if it was expected and they've just embraced it. My world has been turned upside down. I just saw him Monday afternoon and got to hang out with him for a few minutes after work just joking around and having fun like normal siblings do - teasing each other and such. Then less than 6 hours later, he had slipped into eternity.

Thank you all for letting me come here to grieve and let out my thoughts/feelings. I don't have anyone else to turn to right now.

 

[sidelined]

thank you for posting. it has helped me to handle and understand more about a situation at home that I am having to deal with. Will pray for you

 

[blackribbon]

We each grieve differently and on different time lines. Some of your family members may just be numb and on auto-pilot. And others need to save their grief for when they are alone. I am so sorry that your family is going through this. Grieve the way that you need to and allow the other people who loved him to grieve their own way.

Many hugs to you.

 

[thetorncloak]

I know you posted this in February, however, your description caught my attention.
A verse that had always been in mind was Proverbs 18:24:

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.​

Yet, with your own situation, there is also Proverbs 27:10, which relates to the personal intimacy we fall into:

Thine own friend, and thy father's friend, forsake not; neither go into thy brother's house in the day of thy calamity: for better is a neighbour that is near than a brother far off.​

I'm sure you have visited the parents, yet you may be a light in the Holy Ghost to them. You surely must have an immense pain inside, and themselves as well. While a grieving process will take time and never potentially fully go away, there may be something that supersedes such a thing with yourself and his parents... God.
This won't take away the pain completely, yet you will learn more about God's ways in the process. And you have even said so when "he had slipped into eternity".
Yet, I assume he is not lost.
In Christ you will be united.
And such a meeting of those who have passed in Him, is central to myself as well.

May God bless you and your thoughts on this matter.
I apologize if I brought this matter to the forefront again with my wording; but if you take anything from this besides my flawed opinion, then rely on Scripture.