My brother died and I am struggling

[madison1101]

I just found this thread. My 40 year old brother died suddenly a month ago, and I am numb about it. I hate seeing my mother cry, or my sister cry. I loved him, and feel like I am betraying him because I don't cry anymore.

He was a believer, and he loved life and people. I don't understand why God had to take him away from us.

I just need to know that I am not a horrible person for this.

Trish

 

[Pasat_14]

The way I heard it put once is that God loved your brother so much that He wanted your bro home with Him. That really makes me feel better when I think of the people I've lost in my life.
You're definately not a horrible person though. Just by writing that post it showed that you weren't. Just because you aren't crying doesn't mean you aren't sad about what happened. We all handle grief in different ways. Just keep being yourself and don't conform to the ways of others, it can sometimes make you feel worse.
I hope I helped. I'll be praying for you too.

 

[ezylemon]

I too, lost my brother and my dad 6 years ago. My brother was my best friend besides my husband, who has gone to be with God also.
It's all right to be mad at God, He can take it. We will someday understand.
A person helping me through said God put eternity into our hearts. That is why we grieve death.

 

[HolyGhostFilledMama]

I'm so sorry about your loss. your in my prayers.

 

[Amin]

I just found this thread. My 40 year old brother died suddenly a month ago, and I am numb about it. I hate seeing my mother cry, or my sister cry. I loved him, and feel like I am betraying him because I don't cry anymore.

He was a believer, and he loved life and people. I don't understand why God had to take him away from us.

I just need to know that I am not a horrible person for this.

Trish

Hi Trish,
I don't think you're a horrible person.
I'm sure God can handle your questions.
My mother was in a nursing home for 4 yrs. I was mad before she died.
I didn't think it was right that she suffered, God and myself had some interesting coversations.
Now that she's gone, I still miss her,
but she knew Christ and is now with him.
I think God knows we're going to question things.
As far as not crying, I cried once after mom died.
I don't know if that's good or bad.
I just don't feel like i should cry right now.
You're not a horrible person.
Bless You.
Chuck.

 

[angelkiss]

I too lost my brother suddenly Jan of this year. As I have posted in a different thread, I did heal quicker than my biological mother and sister, but I always try to stay focused on the good memories rather than dwell on the loss.
If you read my thread called holidays, it explains a little more about it.
So sorry for your loss!
Praying for you,
's and es!!

 

[drifter5]

After my sister died i felt guilty if i even went a day without thinking about her. This lasted for 19 years. It is only since i have allowed myself to let go of this guilt, that i have started to move on. I remind myself that she would want me to be happy, and to move on. I will never forget her of course, and will always have many special memories. I know that friends have been praying for me that God will bring healing in my life from the intense grief that i have felt for so many years. God is SO GOOD and is able to bring healing where others can not. I will pray for you

 

[rushingwind62]

I just found this thread. My 40 year old brother died suddenly a month ago, and I am numb about it. I hate seeing my mother cry, or my sister cry. I loved him, and feel like I am betraying him because I don't cry anymore.

He was a believer, and he loved life and people. I don't understand why God had to take him away from us.

I just need to know that I am not a horrible person for this.

Trish

I don't think you are a horrible person for this. We all tend to ask God why, when we lose someone. Many of us even get angry at God for a short period because we don't understand. But as it was said by another poster.....God wanted him home....is the best answer many of us have found. Just be glad he knows the Lord and realize you will see him again when your time comes.. I also don't think you are betraying by not crying all the time like your mom and sister. We all grieve differently and some grieve longer than others. To me it sounds like you are in the anger stage of grieving. If your anger doesn't pass then I WOUld recommend seeing a counselor to help you through the process....God Bless You and you are in my prayers.