I am in a relationship with a man who is not a Christian anymore. We used to go to church together and study the bible, but over time he has shown that he has some issues with Christianity - It's not a simple matter. I actually appreciate his open mindedness, his intellect, and that he is seeking the truth. I prefer someone who is genuinely seeking truth and understanding than someone who calls himself a Christian and does the actions but is stagnant in his faith and does not care to learn and understand. I disagree with blind faith. Real faith is relying on what you have reason to believe is true and trustworthy. 1 Peter 3:15 says "...make a defense (apologia) to everyone who asks you to give an account (logos) for the hope that is in you..." Proverbs many times advises to seek knowledge and understanding.
My boyfriend really has a lot of insight and great understanding of things and if he doesn't agree with something then he will not believe it. That is a good thing I would think. Believing something just because it can make us feel better or because our friends and family believe it, is not good and not honest, but believing something because we know it to be true, through seeking and searching is good and honest.
My boyfriend doesn't have blind faith and he has some founded issues with the bible. I have struggled myself over some of these issues and still do. For example I really do struggle with the fact that God commanded the Jews to kill so many people in the Old Testament including women and children. Couldn't there have been another way considering it is God? Some of the acts of the Old Testament commanded by God in all honesty really do appear horrific and even evil.
Although I appreciate his seeking mind I do question if we should remain together. I have prayed a lot for him that God would really reveal himself to him. We have been together for 4 years now so it would be really difficult to just give up our relationship and I don't even know if God would want that. I do believe that if someone seeks the truth they will find it, and so I believe eventually he will come back to it. I pray that God will speak to him so strongly and I believe that he can be used by God in tremendous ways, especially because he has such a deep intellect and understanding of things. So I am not sure if I should break up with him because he is not a Christian. If I do break up with him, what should I tell him. Also how will I cope with the grief of the break up? I will be very sad - it will almost feel like experiencing a death- the death of the one I loved.
My boyfriend really has a lot of insight and great understanding of things and if he doesn't agree with something then he will not believe it. That is a good thing I would think. Believing something just because it can make us feel better or because our friends and family believe it, is not good and not honest, but believing something because we know it to be true, through seeking and searching is good and honest.
My boyfriend doesn't have blind faith and he has some founded issues with the bible. I have struggled myself over some of these issues and still do. For example I really do struggle with the fact that God commanded the Jews to kill so many people in the Old Testament including women and children. Couldn't there have been another way considering it is God? Some of the acts of the Old Testament commanded by God in all honesty really do appear horrific and even evil.
Although I appreciate his seeking mind I do question if we should remain together. I have prayed a lot for him that God would really reveal himself to him. We have been together for 4 years now so it would be really difficult to just give up our relationship and I don't even know if God would want that. I do believe that if someone seeks the truth they will find it, and so I believe eventually he will come back to it. I pray that God will speak to him so strongly and I believe that he can be used by God in tremendous ways, especially because he has such a deep intellect and understanding of things. So I am not sure if I should break up with him because he is not a Christian. If I do break up with him, what should I tell him. Also how will I cope with the grief of the break up? I will be very sad - it will almost feel like experiencing a death- the death of the one I loved.