My Best Friend's Wedding

[Supplanter]

So, stick with me here because this could get interesting. Has anyone seen this movie? The basic key to the plot line is that these two friends have decided that if they are not married by the time they are 30, then they will marry each other.

Now, what if two Christians did this? Would it be wrong for two Christians to say, ok, if we have not met someone and gotten married by 30 (or any age), then we will marry each other.

Is their Biblical support for or against this? What do you think the repercussions would be of such an endeavor? Do you think they would be happy or do you think the marriage would be doomed to fail?

 

[Elijah2]

So, stick with me here because this could get interesting. Has anyone seen this movie? The basic key to the plot line is that these two friends have decided that if they are not married by the time they are 30, then they will marry each other.

Now, what if two Christians did this? Would it be wrong for two Christians to say, ok, if we have not met someone and gotten married by 30 (or any age), then we will marry each other.

Is their Biblical support for or against this? What do you think the repercussions would be of such an endeavor? Do you think they would be happy or do you think the marriage would be doomed to fail?

Well have they made a vow or an oath. So what does HIS WORD say about them?

 

[Child of JC]

Love is a choice we make. If it was a feeling, all marriages would be doomed. So if they sincerely stood before God, and made a vow that they were committed "until death", then the feelings would come, and some days they would go....just like the rest of us.

 

[Supplanter]

Thanks for the responses. So, is it safe for me to say that the score is 2 for this being ok and 0 for it not?

Score: 2-0

 

[Supplanter]

Come on, people. I need some answers here.

 

[nephilimiyr]

Come on, people. I need some answers here.

Um, I hate to say it but you got some dumb friends.

It seems to me that these two people place way too much importance on having to get married. Whether christian or not, they don't seem to know the value of marriage at all but is more of a score for them, a bench mark.

Just tell them both to grow up and be done with it!

 

[Supplanter]

Um, I hate to say it but you got some dumb friends.

It seems to me that these two people place way too much importance on having to get married. Whether christian or not, they don't seem to know the value of marriage at all but is more of a score for them, a bench mark.

Just tell them both to grow up and be done with it!

So says the married man.

I never said they were friends.

so, the score is now 2:1

Any scriptural support about why this would be inappropriate? And what if marriage is extremely important to them and they value it highly, something to enter into with much consideration and this deal was made with much considerration?


Would it be difernt if the age was 60?

 

[Charles L. Blackman]

What is the purpose for getting married?

Is it from loving a person so much you want to spend the rest of your life with them, or because you looked for x number of years and couldn't find the right person so we settled on each other.

 

[Charles L. Blackman]

I can just hear the conversation with your little girl -

Daddy, how did you and mommy meet?

Well honey, mommy and knew each other for a number of years and couldn't find anyone we loved enough to marry, so we decided to get married.

 

[Supplanter]

I can just hear the conversation with your little girl -

Daddy, how did you and mommy meet?

Well honey, mommy and knew each other for a number of years and couldn't find anyone we loved enough to marry, so we decided to get married.

LOL

What if it isn't a settling scenario? These two people could already love each other, but for whatever reason can commit to marriage with one another right now, so they don;t want to hold each other back. And I would argue that the purpose of marriage is not to be so much in love with someone that you jut have to spend the rest of your life with them? What about all the arranged marriages in the Bible? They wouldn;t have met the purpose of marriage then.

 

[Hockey_Fan]

People get married for all sorts of reasons: Money, politics, family, etc. i once saw a movie (can't remember the name now) where a wealthy bachelor inherited multi millions from a deceased loved one, one condition was he got married by a certain date, and stay married for at least a year. He never could click with any gal and so he held auditions for a bride so that he could collect the money (and give her a share). It was quite hilarious.

Plenty of people get married strictly for immigration purposes. The two never even see one another except for the official business (usually at a courthouse) and divorce as soon as legally allowed. Probably not the stuff of romance novels, but, hey, it does happen.

I don't see any Biblical stipulations one way or the other, but you get what you put into it. So, if both sides want to be married badly enough, they can try to make it work. It DOES present the underlying theme that marriage is always superior to being single, which I personally do not agree with (topic for a separate thread).

 

[GrapeGirl]

in the movie, she did love him. and he did love her but it was a brotherly love. it's one of those "dont know what you got till it's gone" movies. I love it.

 

[Supplanter]

in the movie, she did love him. and he did love her but it was a brotherly love. it's one of those "dont know what you got till it's gone" movies. I love it.

I like the movie, too. I wonder, do we need all the bells and whistles of romantic love to have a happy marriage. Would not a Christ-like love be sufficient?

 

[Cassidy]

Umm I really don't know what I feel about this. I have heard that those who got married without being 'in love' with their spouse 'learn' to love them over the years. But I really don't know. Love the movie though....funny as!

 

[GrapeGirl]

I think that your spouse SHOULD be your best friend.

 

[BenAdam]

Love is not a prerequisite for marriage, it is a requirement in marriage.

 

[Supplanter]

Love is not a prerequisite for marriage, it is a requirement in marriage.

Yep. I agree with this statement, Ben. Can I steal this and quote it to people?

 

[Supplanter]

I think that your spouse SHOULD be your best friend.

I think that would be a favorable thing.

 

[BenAdam]

Yep. I agree with this statement, Ben. Can I steal this and quote it to people?

Use it to your heart's content. I claim no copyright on the truth.

 

[Supplanter]

Use it to your heart's content. I claim no copyright on the truth.

Thank you, good sir.