Please everyone pray for my (daughter) Hanna's father. He was sober for a month and fell off the wagon last night. I know he can do it. But he has struggled with this all of his life. Since he was 12 years old and he is now 33. He wants to do this and I know with Gods help he can. Thank you so much for keeping him in your prayers. I love you all.
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I will remember this situation. If I may offer a piece of advice. I do not know where this man stands with the Lord, and to be quite honest it is really not any of my businees. That is between him and God. However, he cannot beat this alone. He needs the help of God. He needs to commit his heart whole heartedly to God, make having a relationship with God the top priority in His Life. Then turn this addition over to God, and allow Him to take care of it. Perhaps couseling such as AA or something would be beneficial. I don't have any first hand experience with this sort of thing, but I do belevie in living for God, and allowing Him to take care of the things we cannot manage in our lives.
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Blessed-one
a long journey ahead
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Hanna's father has been back sober for 5 days now. Please everyone keep him in thier prayers. He is my best friend and I want to see him do good in life. I know that with God's help he can do it. Thanks!
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He started drinking again this week. Please everyone keep him in your prayers. I know that he can still do it if he trys and I know that he wants it. It is so sad for me to see him drink his life away. He was just in a really bad car accident and got hurt bad. I thought maybe that would be enough to snap him into reality but it hasn't. If he is not straight by the time I graduate I am taking me and Hanna away from here. I don't know how much more of this I can stand. It is not fair for me but even more so for my daughter.
Please bless
the children of earth,
mine and all others,
the precious angels in out midst.
Send all darkness away from them.
Than you, God.
AMEN
-Marianne Williamson
Please bless
the children of earth,
mine and all others,
the precious angels in out midst.
Send all darkness away from them.
Than you, God.
AMEN
-Marianne Williamson
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Direct him to AA. They have the tools and the love that can get him off booze permanently. Millions of drunks have recovered their lives because AA was there for them. Look in your local phonebook for the number. They'll be able to tell him where and when the next meeting is.
AA works when willpower can't.
AA works when willpower can't.
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Thank you everyone for praying for the father of my child. He really is a good man when he is sober, he is just never sober.
Since I have last posted he has been in a car accident and almost died (was in a coma for a week) and has been to jail for 45 days and he is still at it witlh all the drinking and drugs.
I will always love him because he is the father of my child, and even though we have been seperated now for 2 years I had been hopeing that things in his life would chance. I have finally come to realize that they are never going to.
It is hard for me because I never wanted my daughter to have to grow up knowing that her father is a drunk and a drug addict.
He will always be in my prayers but the time has come to wash my hands of the whole situation. My question now is; What do I do about my daughter? When she asks about her father what should I tell her? She is only 3 and she loves him. She sees no wrong with him. I don't know how to handle it.
He still calls me wanting to see her all the time and I know that I can't trust him to have her. I can't have her spending time with someone who is not even responsible enough to take care of himself, and he surely can't take care f her. I don't know what to do.
I was meeetting him in public places so that he could see her but now I can't even do that. He doesn't care where he is, he will be drunk. And when I am around them, he spends more time fussing at me for this and that then spending time with his daughter. I am sooooo confused.
Since I have last posted he has been in a car accident and almost died (was in a coma for a week) and has been to jail for 45 days and he is still at it witlh all the drinking and drugs.
I will always love him because he is the father of my child, and even though we have been seperated now for 2 years I had been hopeing that things in his life would chance. I have finally come to realize that they are never going to.
It is hard for me because I never wanted my daughter to have to grow up knowing that her father is a drunk and a drug addict.
He will always be in my prayers but the time has come to wash my hands of the whole situation. My question now is; What do I do about my daughter? When she asks about her father what should I tell her? She is only 3 and she loves him. She sees no wrong with him. I don't know how to handle it.
He still calls me wanting to see her all the time and I know that I can't trust him to have her. I can't have her spending time with someone who is not even responsible enough to take care of himself, and he surely can't take care f her. I don't know what to do.
I was meeetting him in public places so that he could see her but now I can't even do that. He doesn't care where he is, he will be drunk. And when I am around them, he spends more time fussing at me for this and that then spending time with his daughter. I am sooooo confused.
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This is a tough situation. But sometimes tough love has to step in. Maybe taking yourself and your (and his) daughter out of his life is what it will take for him to realize that he needs to get well in order to have you (or at least) his daughter back. Right now, he is a danger to her. He is a danger to himself. Your daughter will not understand now, but as she grows older she will. I would tell your daughter that for the time being daddy is sick (because alcoholism is a sickness of the spirit) and is unable to see her right now. And maybe the both of you could pray for him. Pray that he will find the desire and boldness to let go of something that has taken priority in his life, priority over you and her and his ability to think straight it seems.
And I would tell him the same thing, until he straightens himself out and sobers up and stays that way, you cannot entrust the care of your daughter to him. It will be hard, but her life depends on it.
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And I would tell him the same thing, until he straightens himself out and sobers up and stays that way, you cannot entrust the care of your daughter to him. It will be hard, but her life depends on it.
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Well, I still have not spoken to Hanna's father, but I have heard that he is working. I hope that is a good thing, but there is no telling with him.
His father called me last night and told me that he has gotten a job and is planning on catching up his child support. That would be a big help for me and Hanna. I just hope that this means that maybe he is starting to realize what he is doing to himself.
Well, only time will tell. Thank you to everyone who has been been praying and please keep us all in your prayers. I have faith that things will get better. [but I am still not going to speak to him till they do]
THANK YOU ALL!!!!!
His father called me last night and told me that he has gotten a job and is planning on catching up his child support. That would be a big help for me and Hanna. I just hope that this means that maybe he is starting to realize what he is doing to himself.
Well, only time will tell. Thank you to everyone who has been been praying and please keep us all in your prayers. I have faith that things will get better. [but I am still not going to speak to him till they do]
THANK YOU ALL!!!!!
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It has been a long time since I have posted about this, but I thought I would just let you all know that Hanna's father is doing much better. His brother is in prison and his mother died. He pretty much hit rock bottom when these things happened. He really is turning his life around. He is living with his father now and has been sober for over a month. I let him keep Hanna as long as his father will be home. He understand why I still don't want them to be alone. I still don't fully trust him. He has been working and has finally started paying some child support, not as much as he is supposed to -- but some is better than none. I want to thank everyone for praying for us and I ask that you please keep praying. The battle is not over yet. Addiction is a hard thing to overcome. Thank you all, I love you all!
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Hanna's father's mother died. It was a sad time for all of us, but at the same time has done a lot of good for him. She was an enabler for Hanna's father. Now he really doesn't have anyone in his life that will put up with the way he lives. He is living with his father now, which is good because I trust him (his father) totally with Hanna, so she is able to go over there. He has also started paying his child support, which is a first even though he has been court ordered to do so for over a year. I guess, all in all, things are going pretty well. I will miss his mother. She was a good woman with many problems of her own. I loved and despised her at the same time, if that makes any sense.
Hanna's father has now started this kick with wanting to try and get back together with me, and he really has cleaned up. It is so strange. I had finally given up and moved on and now he comes back and it is just to late. I kinda feel bad about the whole thing, but I have totally moved on. I have a great boyfriend that loves me and my daughter. Things always happen to me at the strangest times. I am just happy that Hanna might get to have a real relationship with her father. She deserves that.
Hanna's father has now started this kick with wanting to try and get back together with me, and he really has cleaned up. It is so strange. I had finally given up and moved on and now he comes back and it is just to late. I kinda feel bad about the whole thing, but I have totally moved on. I have a great boyfriend that loves me and my daughter. Things always happen to me at the strangest times. I am just happy that Hanna might get to have a real relationship with her father. She deserves that.
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