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My 2015 Resolution

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Do you know how many people DON'T have a toolshed and DO store their gas cans and gasoline mowers and stuff in the garage?...and yet, garages across American don't blow up daily. The difference is to know not to put the can next to or near the open flame. I think maybe you ought to stick with the stupid women who will think you know everything and are in awe of your incredible intellect. You are very demeaning to someone you once thought worthy of asking you to marry. I personally question which person lacked basic sense in the above scenerio.

(PS Did you store your car in the same garage?...that is a much bigger "gas can" to be exposed to the gas appliances on a regular basis.)

Yes,I do know that cars have gasoline in their tanks,and that cars are kept in the garage. However, I did not knowthat there was a gas can in the garage. What if I went into the garage at night,not knowing that the gas can was there,and accidently kicked over the gas can? Then we would have had a fire.
 
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If you considered this an appropriate way to have a discussion with your wife (even if she was in the wrong), I can see why the intelligent women don't want to have anything to do with you.

When it comes to saftey,yelling is appropiate.People,who see something buring,do not speak softly,and gently,by saying,"Fire." No,people yell,"FIRE!"
For example,my co-worker was working with ether in our lab. One sailor,who out ranked my co-worker,came into the lab while smoking a cigarette!

My co worker yelled at him,"Get the H out of here with that cigarette!!!". The sailor told our supervisor that he wanted to write my co worker up,for yelling at someone with a superior rank. My supervisor did not reprimand my co-worker,as my co-worker had every right to yell at him.

Well,we men are used to getting yelled at,when we mess things up.For example,we do not want to mess up on the football field,because when we do mess up,our coach will yell at us. One time,as a young,kid,I had trouble trying to memorize the first five books of the Bible. My father,a Deacon,would yell at me for messing up.( I had difficulty pronouncing ,and remembering the word," Leviticus".) Our Company Commanders, in Navy Boot Camp,would yell at us whenever we messed up. But,women,are not used to being yelled at for messing up. I surmise.
 
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Do you know how many people DON'T have a toolshed and DO store their gas cans and gasoline mowers and stuff in the garage?...and yet, garages across American don't blow up daily. The difference is to know not to put the can next to or near the open flame. I think maybe you ought to stick with the stupid women who will think you know everything and are in awe of your incredible intellect. You are very demeaning to someone you once thought worthy of asking you to marry. I personally question which person lacked basic sense in the above scenerio.

(PS Did you store your car in the same garage?...that is a much bigger "gas can" to be exposed to the gas appliances on a regular basis.)

here is some info on garage fires. Satisticaly electric fires are the most common causes of garage fires.
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Attached Garage Fire Hazards


by Nick Gromicko and Kenton Shepard





The purpose of this article is twofold. First, at InterNACHI, we’d like you to take measures to keep your garage free from fire. Fortunately, there are ways this can be done, some of which are described below. Secondly, garage fires do happen, and we’d like you to make sure that a fire cannot not easily spread to the rest of your house. While you can perform many of the recommendations in this article yourself, it is a good idea to hire an InterNACHI inspector to make sure your home is safe from a garage fire.



Why do many garages pose a fire hazard?
•Where are you most likely to do any welding, or any work on your car? These activities require working with all sorts of flammable materials.
•Water heaters and boilers are usually stored in garages, and they can create sparks that may ignite fumes or fluids. Car batteries, too, will spark under certain conditions.
•Oil and gasoline can drip from cars. These fluids may collect unnoticed and eventually ignite, given the proper conditions.
•Flammable liquids, such as gasoline, motor oil and paint are commonly stored in garages. Some other examples are brake fluid, varnish, paint thinner and lighter fluid.




The following tips can help prevent garage fires and their spread:
•If the garage allows access to the attic, make sure a hatch covers this access.
•The walls and ceiling should be fire-rated. Unfortunately, it will be difficult for untrained homeowners to tell if their walls are Type X fire-rated gypsum. An InterNACHI inspector can examine the walls and ceiling to make sure they are adequate fire barriers.
•The floor should be clear of clutter. Loose papers, matches, oily rags, and other potentially flammable items are extremely dangerous if they are strewn about the garage floor.
•Use light bulbs with the proper wattage, and do not overload electrical outlets.
•Tape down all cords and wires so they are not twisted or accidentally yanked.
End of quote.


Those are the facts. I rest my case.
 
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She told me,"You are a very good listener!. You have changed!"

Whenever I feel my attention is "drifting off",I now tell myself to .........."focus,focus!"

You have tried hard to catch your mate, hope God will reward you at least for trying. A friend once told me "God help those who help themselves" . Good chance you will find someone. I tried this Matthew 6:33 for many years and is not going anywhere. So how were you doing with your 2014 resolution ? The urge can be overwhelming. it is a beast that we can not slay. Always waiting to devour us.
 
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I had intended to get more active and start working out, but horrible weather, an unrelenting illness and an old knee injury have kept me from doing much yet.

Also planning on trying to learn my bass guitar this year and getting back into taking more pictures.

Have you tried swimming in an indoor pool? Swimming is one of the best low impact excercises. Good Luck!!
 
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I chewed her out, by telling her,"If you were a third grader,I could understand this.But you are a college graduate,
with a science degree!.You.......know.....better! " I have seen a human being that was burnt to a crisp in a gasoline fire.

Ignorance...... is a lack of knowledge .Stupidity...... is a lack of sense. Since she knew better,( not to leave of can of gasoline near an open flame),what she did was........stupid!!.
Also,in this case,ignorance is not bliss.

On thing I regret so much were all the screaming and demeaning things I said to my ex and my kids. It still hurts me to recall the times I did that, even what they did were so " stupid" as you put it. Words hurts and it stayed with the person who is the receiving end of it. This tendency to lash out is still with me and I am trying very hard to suppress it. Men and women are different. Something so inherently natural for men is not so for women. One time My ex crashed the car into the garage door and I was so mad and said couple of regretful words. Later I think back, I started to understand why she did it. She was under a lot of stress in moving in a new house. God uses stupid things in life to humiliate the wise. Not until we learn to be humble and accept others as they are, we will always be mad because others are not living to our expectation. I have to laugh to just ponder how Jesus accepts us bunch of idiots and bone heads as we are not as we should be.
 
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Words hurts and it stayed with the person who is the receiving end of it.

I broke all the words and curses we spoke over each other in Jesus' Name.
I was so angry and hurt for things he said to me in the end, I just couldn't forgive him. It ruined my life. Then God showed me: Hey look, you did exactly the same. Look where he is now. It worked as a curse. We had the most horrible unchristian divorce you can imagine and we were the pastor and his wife, lol. He asked members of church to testify for him how bad I was, so he could get the kids. Just freed from a mental hospital I had to stay calm in court, so I smoked a joint and took half a liter of whine and still it didn't work. He lied that he had Always taken care of them, I was so angry, that Judge believed him and I wasn't stable, so he got 'em. I screamed that I didn't care and would make some new ones. After that I tried to hit him, but he did thai boxing for years, so he automatically defended and then I slammed his sister who helped him. A year later I called him and said: Sorry that I ran off with the first one I met after you dumped me. He said: Sorry that I took the kids and we said sorry for things we had done to each other and forgave each other. Later we had to go somewhere and talk about how we raise the kids together. She said that she was amazed how we did it, no fighting, no speaking negative about each other, just like good friends, in total unity. She had never seen something like it. Lol, we didn't say how it was before.
I attend his church now btw and asked his sister to forgive me. Oh sure no problem!
 
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On thing I regret so much were all the screaming and demeaning things I said to my ex and my kids. It still hurts me to recall the times I did that, even what they did were so " stupid" as you put it. Words hurts and it stayed with the person who is the receiving end of it. This tendency to lash out is still with me and I am trying very hard to suppress it. Men and women are different. Something so inherently natural for men is not so for women. One time My ex crashed the car into the garage door and I was so mad and said couple of regretful words. Later I think back, I started to understand why she did it. She was under a lot of stress in moving in a new house. God uses stupid things in life to humiliate the wise. Not until we learn to be humble and accept others as they are, we will always be mad because others are not living to our expectation. I have to laugh to just ponder how Jesus accepts us bunch of idiots and bone heads as we are not as we should be.

Both of my wives had dented my cars,but I did not yell at them.Because it was an accident. Besides,yelling at them would not have fixed my cars. That is why we have auto insurance. Therefore,I did not yell at them all of the time. And you are right. We males are used to being yelled at when we mess things up.For examples,our fathers yelled at us. Our gym teachers yelled at us. Our coaches yelled at us,when our quarterback got sacked,because we missed our blocks. And,when we were in Boot Camp,our Drill Instructors.or Company Commanders yelled at us whenever we " F'd up
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