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My 2015 Resolution

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For 2014,I kept my resolution not to visit any Massage Parlors. For 2015,my resolution is to take a different approach,when it comes to women. This month,January of 2015, I will be taking meet up classes,taught by women.

By the way,this is not a commercial!

Here is a sample of these classes.


East Bay Healing Collective

1840 Alcatraz Ave, Berkeley, CA

Meetup agenda:

Hey Guys,

Tired of Always Being the NICE GUY and NEVER understanding why you always end up in the FRIEND ZONE?

Learn How to Make Every Women Want You by understanding the balance between the Nice Guy and Bad Boy.



I know how it can be to not fully understand why women don’t see you as boyfriend material because you would make the most AWESOME boyfriend, right?

You are nice, considerate, and good listener, etc... But instead she dates JERKS!

How the HECK does that keep happening to you?

That’s why I created Unleash Your Inner Badass. This program is designed to help you better understand what you are doing wrong with women.


You will learn the secrets to

• How to approach women without appearing creepy

• How to create fun and playful banter with ease

• Learning what turns women on and off

• How to conquer rejection and build unstoppable confidence

• How to be a bad boy and still be nice without being put in the friend zone

Don’t waste another minute being put in the FRIEND ZONE with women when success can be just that easy.

When
Thursday, January 15th, 7pm - 9pm
**ARRIVE BY 6:45 - Door closes at 7PM**

Where
1840 Alcatraz Ave, Berkeley, CA.
(Walking distance from the Ashby BART station. Plenty of street parking.)

I look forward to meeting you!

Elizabeth Maria Cruz NLP Practitioner, Connection Specialist,

Here is another one of her classes for Tuesday,January 20,2015.



In the meditation room on the left

Meetup agenda:

***** MEN'S WORKSHOP *****

Guys, Wouldn’t it be NICE to finally start understanding what YOU are doing wrong with women?

It can be totally frustrating to not know what you are doing wrong with women and especially, if you keep hitting the same wall over and over again.

This can leave you feeling hopeless and defeated because you know you are an awesome guy that would make the best boyfriend, right? If only you could figure-out what you are doing wrong.

That’s why I created the Unleash Your Inner Bad*** program. This program is designed to help you better understand what you are doing wrong with women.

You will learn:

1. What are your self-sabotaging behaviors

2. How to conquer rejection

3. How to build unstoppable confidence with women

4. What turns women off and on

5. How to use your body and voice to attract women

6. How to be a bad boy and still be nice

This workshop on January 20th is Part 2 of the Unleash Your Inner Bad*** program and it focuses on understanding the things that you may not know you're doing that can be blocking your chances with women, and the best ways to correct them. There will also be a few female volunteers to give you some live feedback. And some fun interactive exercises/games will help you on your way to success with women!

The cost for this great workshop is just $20. It's two hours of valuable information, insight, and feedback about women from women.

Don’t waste another minute sabotaging your success with women when success can be just that easy!



When: Tuesday, December 20th, 7pm - 9pm

Where: 1840 Alcatraz Ave, Berkeley, CA. (Walking distance from the Ashby BART station. Plenty of street parking.)

COST: $20 (cash at the door)


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This will be the best $40.00 that I have ever spent! This is living proof, that instead of venting, that I am doing something about this non-sense.

Now what are your thoughts on this? I have a feeling that the men and the women will disagree with each other. But,I could be wrong.
 
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Well, I've been to these type of evenings. There is a whole network of people across the US cities that teach these type of courses. The knowledge is pretty well known. For 20 bucks its a pretty entertaining evening even if one doesn't learn much.
 
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Sounds very christian, those stupid courses are on youtube too for free. Make any woman want you, who cares if God wants it?

Well,...if God wanted "too nice" Christian young men to attract nice Christian young women,why is it so hard for young,good Christians to find mates? It was God who said,"Be fruitful and multiply!" Well how can one "multiply" if one is not given the knowledge of how to attract and to keep a mate?

For example,I was not born a CLS,I had to learn how to be one,and I had to put into practice what I haved learned ,in order to become a Clinincal Laboratory Scientist.

I grew up in church. Nobody taught me how to attract a woman. Nobody!
 
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I guess it can't hurt anything...but does she have a track record for actually helping guys "fix themselves" and begin to attract women? For $200 dollars and sitting through a 5 day training session, anyone can have her credentials.

I am not aware of her track record,however,I have been helped by this sessions. For example,one lady,whom I met in 2012,once told me that I look as if I am not interested in what she is saying. So,in one session,last year,I was taught,by a woman,to do a "focus exercise". Well,last month,the woman,who said that I looked as if I was not interested in what she was saying,told me this. She told me,"You are a very good listener!. You have changed!"

Whenever I feel my attention is "drifting off",I now tell myself to .........."focus,focus!"
 
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Well,...if God wanted "too nice" Christian young men to attract nice Christian young women,why is it so hard for young,good Christians to find mates? It was God who said,"Be fruitful and multiply!" Well how can one "multiply" if one is not given the knowledge of how to attract and to keep a mate?

For example,I was not born a CLS,I had to learn how to be one,and I had to put into practice what I haved learned ,in order to become a Clinincal Laboratory Scientist.

I grew up in church. Nobody taught me how to attract a woman. Nobody!

It's a pity there are no christian courses. Well maybe you can learn something, as long as you don't learn how to become a bad### lol.
How to Attract a Christian Girl: 13 Steps (with Pictures)
 
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Well,last month,the woman,who said that I looked as if I was not interested in what she was saying,told me this. She told me,"You are a very good listener!. You have changed!"

Whenever I feel my attention is "drifting off",I now tell myself to .........."focus,focus!"

LOL I had course to become more assertive and we had to ask questions, so I sat with this guy and I couldn't care less, but because we had to I asked every time: And how did that make you feel?
When it was over he said it was so fantastic, he felt that someone understood him, he thought I was actually listening, LOL.
 
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I assume that both of your wives were Christian so you have attracted Christian women in your life. Maybe another wife is not in God's plan for you or maybe you need to consider classes in how to be a good partner in marriage along with "how to attract" classes. I am not sure how attracting a non-Christian woman would improve your life. However, communication classes are never a bad thing but only if you intend to practice the same listening skills after you get married...that means forcing yourself to concentrate when your wife is saying something you consider boring.
 
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I assume that both of your wives were Christian so you have attracted Christian women in your life. Maybe another wife is not in God's plan for you or maybe you need to consider classes in how to be a good partner in marriage along with "how to attract" classes. I am not sure how attracting a non-Christian woman would improve your life. However, communication classes are never a bad thing but only if you intend to practice the same listening skills after you get married...that means forcing yourself to concentrate when your wife is saying something you consider boring.

Yes, that is my challenge. But, it(forcing myself to concentrate) does not have to be something that I consider is boring. Unless I am doing a comedy scene, I have a very,very low tolerance for stupidity.

As far as attracting Christian women. I did not attract any Christian women, or any women ,when I was younger, and not making much money. After I graduated from college did women started to be interested in me.

Therefore, and I may be wrong. I did not start to attract women until after I got my California License,as a CLS, and started to make good money, while dressing nicer. It may be that, like most men, the more money a man makes, the more confidence a man displays. And, as we all know, that a confident man is a turn -on for a woman.
 
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Yes, that is my challenge. But, it(forcing myself to concentrate) does not have to be something that I consider is boring. Unless I am doing a comedy scene, I have a very,very low tolerance for stupidity.

As far as attracting Christian women. I did not attract any Christian women, or any women ,when I was younger, and not making much money. After I graduated from college did women started to be interested in me.

Therefore, and I may be wrong. I did not start to attract women until after I got my California License,as a CLS, and started to make good money, while dressing nicer. It may be that, like most men, the more money a man makes, the more confidence a man displays. And, as we all know, that a confident man is a turn -on for a woman.

Why would you want to be with a woman you think is stupid (one that you have to force yourself to focus on what she says)? And since you have had that license for a long time, what is the deal? are you a confident man or not? You have attracted women in the past ... you just aren't happy with how those relationships worked out so maybe the problems is that you are attracted to women that you have no business being with ... because ultimately, you don't like them
 
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Why would you want to be with a woman you think is stupid (one that you have to force yourself to focus on what she says)? And since you have had that license for a long time, what is the deal? are you a confident man or not? You have attracted women in the past ... you just aren't happy with how those relationships worked out so maybe the problems is that you are attracted to women that you have no business being with ... because ultimately, you don't like them

The point I have been tying to make is this. I am very,very,attracted to smart women. However, the smart women,whom I meet,always FRIEND ZONE me. Well ,except for the one that I met on one Singles' Cruise. She lives in Florida, and I live in California. Therefore ,only the not so smart women want to be with me.
One example I can give you is this. My first wife,also a Clinical Laboratoy Scientist,left a one gallon can,full of gasoline,in our garage, after a long car trip with her aunt. They filled a can of gasoline for spare gas before a 280 mile car trip. Well,we had a tool shed in the back yard.I would store a gas can there for our lawn mower. She did not put the gas can in our tool shed..She left the full gas can in the garage. Our washer,dryer,and Water Heater are in that same garage. Now,her being a scientist ,she knows that gasoline ,in the vicinity of an open flame ,such as a water heater's pilot light, is a great hazard for an explosion!!!!

I chewed her out, by telling her,"If you were a third grader,I could understand this.But you are a college graduate,
with a science degree!.You.......know.....better! " I have seen a human being that was burnt to a crisp in a gasoline fire.

Ignorance...... is a lack of knowledge .Stupidity...... is a lack of sense. Since she knew better,( not to leave of can of gasoline near an open flame),what she did was........stupid!!.

Also,in this case,ignorance is not bliss.
 
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Do you know how many people DON'T have a toolshed and DO store their gas cans and gasoline mowers and stuff in the garage?...and yet, garages across American don't blow up daily. The difference is to know not to put the can next to or near the open flame. I think maybe you ought to stick with the stupid women who will think you know everything and are in awe of your incredible intellect. You are very demeaning to someone you once thought worthy of asking you to marry. I personally question which person lacked basic sense in the above scenerio.

(PS Did you store your car in the same garage?...that is a much bigger "gas can" to be exposed to the gas appliances on a regular basis.)
 
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I chewed her out, by telling her,"If you were a third grader,I could understand this.But you are a college graduate,
with a science degree!.You.......know.....better! " I have seen a human being that was burnt to a crisp in a gasoline fire.

If you considered this an appropriate way to have a discussion with your wife (even if she was in the wrong), I can see why the intelligent women don't want to have anything to do with you.
 
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