Murphy's Law

[exitstageright]

Murphy's law is an adage or epigram that is typically stated as: "Anything that can go wrong will go wrong".
Well,that is true of my romantic life. Today.I received an e-mail from someone whom I met at a puja or party.When we met,I asked her,"How are you feeling?" She told me that she felt like crying. I asked her,"May I give you a hug?" She said,"Yes!" So,we connected that night. During the last two months,we went out for dinner and dancing four times. When she said she was busy on certain days,she would let me know on what days,that she was free. After I asked her to. She is a smart lady.She has a lot going for herself.She does not want,nor does she needs a "Sugar Daddy."
Well,here is the e-mail. She sent this,this afternoon.
"Hi S,

It's taken me too long to reply to your lovely message. I have no excuse except that I haven't known how to reply to your enthusiasm. Because I'm not quite feeling the same. You are a great person and I enjoy your company, but I think our energies and real passions are quite different. I feel we have a nice connection in some areas but there's other parts of me that we'll never connect on. So I feel I can't go forward in pursuing our connection and spending more time together. I'm really sorry to have to say this, but I know I have to be honest with myself and with you. I appreciate these times that we've gone out and how kind and respectful you are. I'm glad we met and I'll always be happy to see you if/when our paths cross at a shared event.

I wish you the best in finding the companionship and love that you seek.

Best, O"

A reply e-mail was sent to her,thanking her for her honesty.
But,it is so frustrating to hear this SOS.(Same Old Stuff).IF I am such a great,great guy,as women always tell me,why am I not attracting the women,(whom I am attracted to) to like and to accept me?. I get so tired of hearing women telling me that they have no feelings for me.
Well, men have feelings,also. If a woman has a right to have her feelings validated,then a man has a right to have his feelings validated,also. Right now,I feel that I am just not good enough,not attractive enough,and/or not capable enough to attract a woman,who has it together.It has been far easier for me to get an acting job,which is rare,than it is for me to find a companion.By the way,I got two acting jobs in less than two months.
Two years ago,a christian lady friend and I got along very well.We danced together.We were in the same Drama Ministry together at our church.When I visited her,while she was in the hospital,she promised me,that when she leaves the hospital,that we would go dancing again. Well,she left the hospital alright.She passed away. She had cancer.She was the third lady friend of mine,that got cancer. Now,can you see that I feel as if my romantic life is governed by Murphy's Law?

And, that(not finding a suitable companion )just.........STINKS!

 

[dayhiker]

Exit .. so sorry to hear your got the email. HUGZ
I love a good puja as well.

I think you need to work on that connection part. I'm sure these ladies know your good enough and capable. At our age, I don't know that women are that concern about looks and attractiveness. It sounds like this woman was as direct and honest as she could be. She said you weren't connecting with her in enough areas. So I'm thinking an area that we talk about today is the one we call chemistry. Therefore I think that is the direction you need to look to crank up. To let your masculine nature come forth more.
She is clearly saying you have a lot going on for you. So don't put down those parts of you. Its just this one more piece I'm thinking.

 

[exitstageright]

Exit .. so sorry to hear your got the email. HUGZ
I love a good puja as well.

I think you need to work on that connection part. I'm sure these ladies know your good enough and capable. At our age, I don't know that women are that concern about looks and attractiveness. It sounds like this woman was as direct and honest as she could be. She said you weren't connecting with her in enough areas. So I'm thinking an area that we talk about today is the one we call chemistry. Therefore I think that is the direction you need to look to crank up. To let your masculine nature come forth more.
She is clearly saying you have a lot going on for you. So don't put down those parts of you. Its just this one more piece I'm thinking.

Thank you for your encouragement,Dayhiker.
As far as chemistry is concerned. In chemistry,there is a class of elements,for example Neon,Argon,and Krypton. These are called the inert gases.These elements do not react with any of the other elements. So,in my case,my "chemistry" does not seem to be able to react with anyone. In other words,I just do not have it.
I do attract women when I am performing.After a show,many women come up to me,smile,and appreciate me. People always tell me to,"Be yourself." But,for me,being myself is just not working.

Icould wear my Obsession cologne.Women tell me that they just love that sent.But,at these pujas,and cuddle parties,we are not allowed to wear cologne,because of possible allergies.

 

[dayhiker]

Yes, exit, you have the idea.
However, I believe you are not inert but that you can find a way to become attractive.
I have done that somewhat myself, as I had very few women who were attracted to me. Now I have some. Tho I don't know what it is that you need to learn and put out to attract the ladies. I do believe it is there for you to find.