Mummys Boy?

[Missjlouise]

Was so happy when I found out I was having a boy because I automatically visioned him being a true mummy's boy.

Since breaking up with his dad 5 years ago when my son was 2 I have found he is very much a daddy's boy. His dad and I share him and both have him half the week.

Last year I came to the conclusion that maybe I feel as though I am the lesser parent because when he is with me it is just me and him. Whereas at his dads ( who lives with his mum) he had dad grandma and aunty. What I am saying is he has a full family package there but with me it is apparent that the family has been broken.

My boys loves me, and loves being with me there is no doubt about that. I just feel inadequate I suppose.

I won't deny that I am a sensitive soul, but I think realising you are not the favourite parent would hurt anyone right?

 

[TheDag]

my son likes everyone. I sometimes wish he didn't care for his mum but thats just frustration coming out on my part. when I was living with my parents I know he loved his grandparents although grandpa didn't adjust well to having a young child in the house. That caused problems. interesting thought. Since I've been the primary carer since six months of age I think my son was drawn more to me as a result anyway. interesting thought though. Can't really help with your question because my son is a daddy's boy.

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

Children tend to sway between parents as they grow older. Whilst my son is currently my shadow and follows me everywhere, as soon as he sees his dad there's some kind of male bonding going on and I become invisible . But I don't mind that at all. He's getting bigger and needs to be around more men. I've found that my son loves being with my nephew more than his sister and will gravitate towards his uncle and his dad now that he is nearly 3. He does crazy things like randomly diving onto my nephew if he is just lying on the floor or giving him a playful punch on the arm, but he is unable to do those things with his sister too often.

I think it's just the way that God has designed how our sons develop.

In contrast, my daughter has always been a mummy's girl and it's nice that as she is entering her teens we can do those girly things that would bore the socks off my son if he was with us.

 

[Missjlouise]

@TheDag wow from 6 months! I really respect a good dad. You deserve to have a daddy's boy. Taking the time to reply and sympathise is much better than any advice thankyou

@ LotusPetal Thanks this has really helped!

Children as soooo precious and loving but can break your heart in a heartbeat.

Thinking back it is true that children gravitate to different people at different ages.

And yes you are right it makes sense for a boys boy to gravitate to his dad.

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

@TheDag wow from 6 months! I really respect a good dad. You deserve to have a daddy's boy. Taking the time to reply and sympathise is much better than any advice thankyou

@ LotusPetal Thanks this has really helped!

Children as soooo precious and loving but can break your heart in a heartbeat.

Thinking back it is true that children gravitate to different people at different ages.

And yes you are right it makes sense for a boys boy to gravitate to his dad.

Amen,

If it's any consolation I have a friend whose son is now approaching 18 (I think) and whilst he has his own male network he never forgets about keeping his mum company on some of the nights in the week. The biggest honour for her is that she's been "friended" on his facebook page.

 

[Missjlouise]

Amen, If it's any consolation I have a friend whose son is now approaching 18 (I think) and whilst he has his own male network he never forgets about keeping his mum company on some of the nights in the week. The biggest honour for her is that she's been "friended" on his facebook page.

Wow any mum that has access to the Facebook friendship is supermum... I still block my mum and I'm 28 haha

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

Wow any mum that has access to the Facebook friendship is supermum... I still block my mum and I'm 28 haha

I know!

It took my older nephews ( soon to be 30) ages before they allowed my sister on their facebook and even then it was because their girlfriends had friended her.

In a way I sometimes wonder what my kids will be into when they hit that age. I read an article which was saying that today's youth were going towards Whatsapp because too many of their parents were on facebook.