Hi all,
My step-dad has MS, and to put it loosely, he is very difficult and is completely dependant on my Mum to help him. I feel he was very unlucky in his contraction of the disease, because he doesn't have the personality to fight it. The slightest downs in life, seem to hit him really hard, and MS has just really nailed him and he isn't trying to fight it in the slightest.
I'm wondering, has anyone had experience with someone like this?
What do you do, when someone doesn't want to help themselves?
We pray often, but either we are praying for the wrong result, or God in His infinite wisdom has deemed not to help us in this matter. Both of which I can accept, and am not angry or hurt by that. I'm just wondering, what do we do as people, when something gets to this stage?
To give you an idea, my parents marriage has devolved into a carer relationship. My Mum looks after my step-dad and he generally blames her for everything, and makes demands. There are a few things that he could do currently, for example he has poor bladder control, and must get up around 3 times a night, of course he cannot do this alone, so my Mum will help him. There are options open, one of which involves a sheath and another a bottle with a special funnel, which would allow him to sleep through the night and my Mum without having to get up. However he refuses to use them. I can understand in part, as it must be a dignity issue.
That is really the tip of the iceberg. I don't want to list all the things here, my main question is, to those with experience, is it possible to help someone when they don't want to be helped?
Thanks in advance,
Digit
My step-dad has MS, and to put it loosely, he is very difficult and is completely dependant on my Mum to help him. I feel he was very unlucky in his contraction of the disease, because he doesn't have the personality to fight it. The slightest downs in life, seem to hit him really hard, and MS has just really nailed him and he isn't trying to fight it in the slightest.
I'm wondering, has anyone had experience with someone like this?
What do you do, when someone doesn't want to help themselves?
We pray often, but either we are praying for the wrong result, or God in His infinite wisdom has deemed not to help us in this matter. Both of which I can accept, and am not angry or hurt by that. I'm just wondering, what do we do as people, when something gets to this stage?
To give you an idea, my parents marriage has devolved into a carer relationship. My Mum looks after my step-dad and he generally blames her for everything, and makes demands. There are a few things that he could do currently, for example he has poor bladder control, and must get up around 3 times a night, of course he cannot do this alone, so my Mum will help him. There are options open, one of which involves a sheath and another a bottle with a special funnel, which would allow him to sleep through the night and my Mum without having to get up. However he refuses to use them. I can understand in part, as it must be a dignity issue.
That is really the tip of the iceberg. I don't want to list all the things here, my main question is, to those with experience, is it possible to help someone when they don't want to be helped?
Thanks in advance,
Digit
