Moving woes

[Jynarik Slushy]

So, what do you do when you're a young college student and have the choice of two places: a room in a house of strangers (renting room) or at home where you're comfortable with mom & dad?

I moved into a house a few days ago where I'm renting a room and have put myself in such distress because I can't seem to accept the change. I'm in a mode of depression where I don't care about anything, and all I want is to be home, where I'm comfortable.

What stops me from going home? A dog. A dog that I have had for nearly 9 years (his 9th birthday is this year). My dad doesn't want him at the house, do to the fact that he has a tendency of being a barker, which the problem has been resolved with the use of a bark control device. It's not that he doesn't like dogs -- he has two -- it's simply the fact that he doesn't want to give the dog a chance.

Here I am, in a strange home, where I'm not happy, and homesick as could be. I can't fathom the thought of finding my pup a new home, and not that there is one for a 9 year old dog.

I don't know what to do.

 

[Kevin_Wright]

Yeah thats a tough one.

 

[explodingboy]

So, what do you do when you're a young college student and have the choice of two places: a room in a house of strangers (renting room) or at home where you're comfortable with mom & dad?

Easy, parents. I don't like sharing and I have personal space issues so unless it's an en-suite room with it's own kitchen aswell, chances are I wont get on with people to well.

 

[TheOliveSeed]

If finances aren’t an issue for you and your only reason for wanting to move back home is homesickness, I would say give living on your own a chance. It’s a good experience and you’ll learn much about yourself just by being away. If you know part of your distress has to do with living in a house with people you don’t know and you’re a private person and living by yourself would make you a bit happier, then perhaps instead of moving back home, you should look into renting a room by yourself (and where you can also keep the dog). I'm guessing you didn't have to sign a lease at your new place, which's good. I've had roommates before and now I just rent my own place. I know I would much rather live alone than with people. But if you know you really can't cope with your current living situation and the homesickness, then maybe you should move back, although I would suggest you don't. But what you decide to do's really up to you.... G.L.

 

[Jynarik Slushy]

If finances aren’t an issue for you and your only reason for wanting to move back home is homesickness, I would say give living on your own a chance. It’s a good experience and you’ll learn much about yourself just by being away. If you know part of your distress has to do with living in a house with people you don’t know and you’re a private person and living by yourself would make you a bit happier, then perhaps instead of moving back home, you should look into renting a room by yourself (and where you can also keep the dog). I'm guessing you didn't have to sign a lease at your new place, which's good. I've had roommates before and now I just rent my own place. I know I would much rather live alone than with people. But if you know you really can't cope with your current living situation and the homesickness, then maybe you should move back, although I would suggest you don't. But what you decide to do's really up to you.... G.L.

Thank you.

I was happy about moving at first but really didn't think it would affect me this way. My roommates are cool but being with family means so much more.

If I had it my way, I'd go home. But on the same token, I would never make the sacrifice of finding my dog a new home.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

You'll get over it. It is normal for college students to experience homesickness and/or depression in their first year. I just got married two months ago and moved over 1000 miles from my family. I was homesick, too, but this is part of growing up. My husband and I are a new family now. Take your dog to the park or to Petsmart or something -- enjoy his company while you have it. My dog of almost 16 years died this month. I don't blame you for not wanting to get rid of your dog and I'm sorry your Dad isn't more understanding. Get to know your roommates and your classmates and enjoy your college years.

 

[ContemplativeKingdoms]

Give it some time. You shouldn't have to give up your dog if you love him. I've had pets I loved and I know I wouldn't live with someone/somewhere that those pets were not welcome.