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[MOVED] The ten commandments

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Well whenever i read the ten commandments in the bible and try my best to follow it, I feel like i can do it. However, there is this one commandment, im very doubtful. The commandment where you have to honor your mother and father. Does it really mean you have to love them and listen to them and be humble before them. What if you don't have a good relationship with your father or mother because you feel what they are doing is wrong. So you oppose them. Isn't it to Human nature to follow your heart. To be angry with your father or mother when they are transgressing to unjust acts. If you have don't have good or unstable parents what can you do, when your angry with them. Does that mean i dishonor them. I tried. I tried to love them. I don't know how else to honor them. I feel like i failed, i could have done better.
 

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God didn't say to honor you parents if it suits you, He said to honor them as being the ones that gave you life. I believe the word honor could also mean to be submissive to them and not rebellious. Giving them help when they need it is also a way to honor them.

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God didn't say to honor you parents if it suits you, He said to honor them as being the ones that gave you life. I believe the word honor could also mean to be submissive to them and not rebellious. Giving them help when they need it is also a way to honor them.

Alan

I don't see why this thread was moved here, but since it was...

Why would god want you to honor parents if they are abusive?
 
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Well whenever i read the ten commandments in the bible and try my best to follow it, I feel like i can do it. However, there is this one commandment, im very doubtful. The commandment where you have to honor your mother and father. Does it really mean you have to love them and listen to them and be humble before them. What if you don't have a good relationship with your father or mother because you feel what they are doing is wrong. So you oppose them. Isn't it to Human nature to follow your heart. To be angry with your father or mother when they are transgressing to unjust acts. If you have don't have good or unstable parents what can you do, when your angry with them. Does that mean i dishonor them. I tried. I tried to love them. I don't know how else to honor them. I feel like i failed, i could have done better.
It depends on what your parents are doing wrong. If they are doing something illegal then you may have to look at your relationship. One thing you have to remember. They are your parents. They are the only ones you will ever have that are biological. My mother was very cold most of the time towards me. The first time I ever heard her say she loved me was the Christmas before she passed away. She wrote on a christmas card. I was glad to finally hear it after 55 years. But it was also hard to hear because I didn't think she even liked me. And even though I loved her I didn't really like her if that makes sense. My point is that you need to assess where you need to go with this
 
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Well whenever i read the ten commandments in the bible and try my best to follow it, I feel like i can do it. However, there is this one commandment, im very doubtful. The commandment where you have to honor your mother and father. Does it really mean you have to love them and listen to them and be humble before them. What if you don't have a good relationship with your father or mother because you feel what they are doing is wrong. So you oppose them. Isn't it to Human nature to follow your heart. To be angry with your father or mother when they are transgressing to unjust acts. If you have don't have good or unstable parents what can you do, when your angry with them. Does that mean i dishonor them. I tried. I tried to love them. I don't know how else to honor them. I feel like i failed, i could have done better.
What do you feel they are doing wrong
 
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Honoring your father and mother seems appropriate and is a bond for the family...
It occurs to me that honoring your father could mean respecting his wishes..including a Will.
After your parents have passed away you can still pray for them.

"Show honor to your parents and pay homage to them. This will cause blessings to descend upon you from the clouds of the bounty of your Lord, the Exalted, the Great."

(Compilations, NSA USA - Developing Distinctive Baha'i Communities)
 
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Honoring your father and mother seems appropriate and is a bond for the family...
It occurs to me that honoring your father could mean respecting his wishes..including a Will.
After your parents have passed away you can still pray for them.

"Show honor to your parents and pay homage to them. This will cause blessings to descend upon you from the clouds of the bounty of your Lord, the Exalted, the Great."

(Compilations, NSA USA - Developing Distinctive Baha'i Communities)

But there are some exceptions. A rapist, for instance, has no parental rights over children which result or when a parent has committed incest, or when the child was conceived as the consequence of rape, and also when a parent consciously fails to protect the child from flagrant sexual abuse.
http://bahai-library.com/uhj_violence_against_women
 
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I don't see why this thread was moved here, but since it was...

Why would god want you to honor parents if they are abusive?
not necessarily abusive, its more like verbal conflict between parents, you can clearly see one parents action not justified. You confront that parent, you have conflicting relationship with that parent. You want that parent to acknowledge how wrong there actions are,how its affecting the family. Sometimes i feel like i could have been more respectful or nice cause there my parent. Deeply affected by there actions, so have this very conflicting relationship with them, sometimes makes me wonder if im doing something wrong or maybe i should have been more adjustable.
 
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not necessarily abusive, its more like verbal conflict between parents, you can clearly see one parents action not justified. You confront that parent, you have conflicting relationship with that parent. You want that parent to acknowledge how wrong there actions are,how its affecting the family. Sometimes i feel like i could have been more respectful or nice cause there my parent. Deeply affected by there actions, so have this very conflicting relationship with them, sometimes makes me wonder if im doing something wrong or maybe i should have been more adjustable.

You are probably going to have to reconcile yourself to the fact you can't change them.
 
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Well whenever i read the ten commandments in the bible and try my best to follow it, I feel like i can do it. However, there is this one commandment, im very doubtful. The commandment where you have to honor your mother and father. Does it really mean you have to love them and listen to them and be humble before them. What if you don't have a good relationship with your father or mother because you feel what they are doing is wrong. So you oppose them. Isn't it to Human nature to follow your heart. To be angry with your father or mother when they are transgressing to unjust acts. If you have don't have good or unstable parents what can you do, when your angry with them. Does that mean i dishonor them. I tried. I tried to love them. I don't know how else to honor them. I feel like i failed, i could have done better.

Nothing worth doing is easy. I found this little article reasonably good for what it's worth.

Also that commandment pertains to other types of parents- leaders, officials and the like- although you have to sift through the whole revelation of scripture to see that correlation. I've always appreciated this outline of that.
 
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