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Motivation for having kids

What motivated you to have kids

  • Wanted them

  • Please relatives

  • Felt obliged

  • Conceived unintentionally


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lucypevensie

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We didn't have a motivation. We just thought it was the natural outcome of marriage.

But the good news is, after seven kids, we think we know what causes it.
haha! I should hope so!

Kind of the same as you. Married people tend to have kids (key words: tend to. I realize not every couple wants kids). We did want kids, though, so it wasn't like some mindless, thoughtless thing that just happened one day.
 
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SiyoNqoba

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Where is the "other" option?

My baby was conceived without our really trying, but we were intentional about having children. We didn't want children to please ourselves, or to please family, or simply out of obligation.

We intended to have children because we believed that our children could potentially grow up to help bring the kingdom of heaven to earth. We wanted to raise children who knew God, who loved Him, and would live their lives as examples of salvation. We wanted people to come to know Christ as their Saviour through the words and actions of our child.

Now, we know it could all go horribly wrong. But that is what we are hoping and praying for.
 
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Like SiyoNqoba, we didn't have children for any of the reasons offered. When we offered our bodies to God as "living sacrifices," it included our gonads.

We didn't have a number in mind, we just wanted Him to right-size our family. He gave us three living daughters, seven living sons and one miscarried daughter.
 
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When my husband and I married in 1985, we knew that we wanted children. I became pregnant in 1986, but miscarried. We put the situation in God's hands and waited...

...and waited...

...and waited...

until God gave us our first daughter in 2002...then another daughter in 2005! Even though I was at an "advanced maternal age" (love that phrase) of 38 and 40, and was considered "high-risk pregnancy" both times, both girls were - and are - healthy, happy, intelligent, kind, outgoing, beautiful, and God-loving (and fearing). The phrase "God's Timing" makes all 4 of us laugh! :D
 
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We finally decided we were ready, after 6 years of marriage. Wanted to be secure in our careers and have enough money to own a home first. I am glad we waited, as young children are a handful in and of themselves without adding extra worries to the mix. Anyhow, that is what worked for us, but everyone's life-path is different.
 
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