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Monkey See Monkey Do

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Monkey See, Monkey Do

Charlie the Chimp has a thing for Camels. No, not those kinds of camel. Charlie, who lives at the Bloemfontein Zoo in South Africa, likes to smoke. He apparently picked up the trick from zoo visitors who think it’s funny to see him smoke and toss him cigarettes. Zoo workers discourage Charlie from smoking and take his cigarettes away if the catch him. Now, when zoo workers are around, Charlie hides his smokes! (Excuse me while I laugh out loud.) They’re hoping to get the monkey to stop smoking - Cold turkey. We can’t blame Charlie for picking up the habit. Monkey see, monkey do.
Like Charlie, children learn behaviors by watching those around them. Young children do not have prior knowledge or skills, and so they eagerly look for someone to imitate. Parents are a child’s first and most influential teachers. A poem reads, “Children mimic grown-ups. They ape us to the letter. No matter how much time we take to try to make them better.”
Consider the following “monkey see monkey do” scenarios. A group of psychologists interviewed 1,792 adolescents aged 12 to 17 and concluded “kids who watch a large amount of television containing sexual content are twice as likely to engage in sexual intercourse than those who do not. They are also much more likely to participate in sexual activities short of intercourse.” A separate study also reveals what TV programs teach children: materialism (children see 20,000 commercials a year), promiscuity (children can now see up to 40 sexual encounters a week), use of alcohol (on crime shows, someone takes a drink on the average of four times an hour). The National Institute for Mental Health has concluded that “there is now overwhelming evidence of a casual link between children watching TV violence and engaging in violent acts.” A 10 year study found that the single best predictor of how aggressive a young man would be at age 19 was the amount of violent TV he had watched at age 8.” Another study says “The average prime time show has 5 violent acts per hour; cartoon have an average of 25 per hour.” We will not take time to consider the effects of violence seen on video games. Other studies show no effects of TV on child behavior. Nevertheless, on cannot dismiss the principle of Monkey see, monkey do.
“When Vilas was a child, her mother was never happy with the way she looked. Diet pills, starvation – were worth the end result: an admiring glance or a compliment. Such insecurities made a lasting impression on her daughter Vilas. Vilas grew up battling bulimia, dieting, and obsessing about her body. Monkey see, monkey do.
“Vital Statistics of the United States show that white adults are twice as likely to commit suicide as black adults, and white teens are twice as likely to commit suicide as black teens. From 1940 to 1990, unwed birth rates rose 4.7 times among teenage women and 4.6 times among adult women. The F.B.I.’s 1992 Uniform Crime Reports show that men commit 88% of all adult violent crime and boys commit 88% of all juvenile violent crime.” Monkey see, monkey do.
A recent article in The New York Times ran a study that concluded, “If drivers buckle up, children do.” Other studies reveal, “Alcoholic parents tend to produce alcoholic children, and smokers tend to produce smokers.” Monkey see, monkey do.
The Bible, in Mark 9:42 reads “But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were thrown into the sea.” God takes our monkeying around very serious! Let’s not be like the three monkeys with their hands over their eyes, ears, and mouth and pretend to see, hear, and speak on evil. The Fact is children don’t learn by “Do what I say, not what I do” but by “monkey see, monkey do.”
 

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That just goes to show you that children really are paying attention to their parents more that we realize.
However, I think that if a child is offended and repulsed by some of the actions of their parents, like smoking, or drunk behavior, they are less likely to copy cat. My father smoked two packs a day and my mother did not smoke. I never took up smoking because I hated the smell of if.
 
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