Modesty

[Entertaining_Angels]

The bath thread got me thinking, for those of you with older kiddos, at what age did they become modest where they didn't want mom or dad to see them naked anymore?

My son was four when he stopped streaking around the house if we had family or guests visiting. He did this on his own. He's seven now but still has no problem streaking around if it is just us. We usually tell him to go put his pj's or pants on but we don't make a big deal of it.

Of course my daughter is two and will shriek, "Nakkie," strip and streak around the house having a good ol' time. So, we have a ways to go with her

 

[Linnis]

My nephew's weird about that. If he's in the tub and I come to make sure he's got all the soap out of his hair he doesn't care but if he's walking to get PJs because he forgot to get them before hand he's cover himself.

When he was almost 5, he decided to look down my shirt one morning. I guess it's because he only had a daddy(when he was old enough to remember) so he never saw boobs.

I said it was okay that he was curious but it's not polite to look down a girls shirt and that if he does that to a girl at school she might smack him for it.

 

[Leanna]

I don't know the answer to that question yet.... but I hope you don't mind if I ask a question of my own on your thread, I was thinking of starting a thread and asking it then I saw this one! Hehe.

When do you feel parents should stop being naked around their opposite sex children? I have a son, and he's one, and I will change in front of him, but then I was wondering when I should stop that. I don't want him having memories of that and stuff! So when is it improper?

 

[Katydid]

Our rule is "No diapers, no naked". Basically, if they are out of diapers, they must be dressed modestly. Now, if my almost 4 yr. old is in the room while I am trying on clothes or going to the bathroom, it isn't so bad as long as neither of us is naked.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

Leanna, how funny, I almost included that in my thread but didn't want to overwhelm folks

Honestly, my son was oblivious to bodies until he was almost four. He was just about four when I noticed he was looking at me a bit more carefully when I got out of the shower so I started locking the door about then. He's seven now and a swimmer so he sees naked men when daddy takes him in the locker room. My daughter is totally different, she's two and when she was about 20 months, I got out of the shower one day and I noticed her looking at my chest and then looking down at hers and then back at mine. I also caught her trying to put a maxi-pad in her diaper a couple weeks ago. Now that I think about it, she's always trying to put on my bras....yipes, maybe I should be worried here??? Since she does go in women's locker rooms and probably always will, I'm not too concerned with her seeing females. I think it's more of an issue with the opposite sex.

 

[bliz]

Of course my daughter is two and will shriek, "Nakkie," strip and streak around the house having a good ol' time. So, we have a ways to go with her

Oh, wow! I remember the "nakkie" times! They were so very sweet.

At 7, your son is pushing the limits to be running around, even with family. I think you are handling it well. It might be time soon for a father/son chat about these matters - man-to-man advice on when to be clothed and the times when it's OK not to be.

 

[Princessperky]

We offer DS extra rewards for not comming out of his room after a shower till he is dressed, which since he is a easily distractible kid I think he feels is cause he dresses faster that way! And since he is 3 that is actually more of the reason, that and the company occasionally here.

For DD she still wonders around with towel slipping off till she gets some help getting dressed, but mainly we figure since she has to have help (two feet in one hole happens ALOT on panties still) She is allowed, BUT NOT if we have company.

(Disclaimer, I do not know how to put this nicer, sorry, tact was never mys strong suit) -Screaming 'naked' or some other word. Who taught her it was funny? While DD occasionally takes a bit to get her underware on (if we arn't in a hurry she can try on her own and maybe learn a bit) No one here thinks it is funny, so why should she? I met a girl about 4 who thought it was halariaous to move her shirt and say 'look niipple' I said 'yeah so' she tried it one more time got the same response then gave up and switched subjects. I am sure she tormented her babysitters that night checking to be sure it was still funny to them, but I have to much experience with pediphiles to think ANYTHING of that sort is funny.

 

[Leanna]

Oregal, yeah, I wouldn't be concerned about same sex, if I had a little girl.... but with David its different since he's a boy. I figure he can see his daddy naked longer than his mother.

 

[sara elizabeth]

My oldest is 8 and has no problem with me seeing him in the tub, but he is very concerned about his little sister coming in and seeing him. I try to give him plenty of privacy, but it doesn't seem to be an issue with him.
As far as when to quit letting children see you naked, it seemed like between 2-3 all of mine started getting an awareness of it. I kinda figure when they start noticing things its time to quit.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

My oldest is 8 and has no problem with me seeing him in the tub, but he is very concerned about his little sister coming in and seeing him. I try to give him plenty of privacy, but it doesn't seem to be an issue with him.
As far as when to quit letting children see you naked, it seemed like between 2-3 all of mine started getting an awareness of it. I kinda figure when they start noticing things its time to quit.

I'm with you on this. I think when they really start noticing 'differences', it may be time to be a bit more careful, at least with opposite sex. I'm not too concerned with my daughter since we do shower after swimming and you have naked women of all ages there...sidetrack for a moment...will I really look like that at 70??? Ah, I guess it doesn't matter, my grandmother was the most beautiful lady in the world when she was in her 60's and 70's.

I also think the suggestion for hubby to talk with our son about modesty is a good one. Our son is a very 'young' seven though and since he is very modest about nudity with anybody else around, we're not to concerned at this point.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

Oregal, yeah, I wouldn't be concerned about same sex, if I had a little girl.... but with David its different since he's a boy. I figure he can see his daddy naked longer than his mother.

I don't think he'll remember you naked unless he was four or five years old. Early memories before the age of 5 tend to be events that stand out. If you are very modest and he never, ever saw you naked and then one day at the age of four, walked in the bathroom as you were getting out of the shower and you shrieked, he'd probably remember it.

He's so young now, I don't think you need to worry about it for some time.

 

[Linnis]

My nephew no longer considers me a girl...I'm just his Aunt so I don't count.

Yeah, Oregal's right again....most kids don't remember anything from when they we're really little unless there is some reason for it to stick out.

 

[Katie12]

Well i know Andrew was 4 when he stoped letting Doug give him a bath((Doug my ex-husbend))but i still give him baths but lately hes said that he doesnt want me to give him a bath cause hes older now so no i just wait in the next room.So i guess this would be time so 5 for Andrew.And i cant say the same for my daughter,Katarena loves taking off her clothes,she will walk around the house with no clothes on.If we let her she would do it all day but we eventually get her in a daiper at least.BTW shes 9 months,lol



Blessed be,
Katie

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

i cant say the same for my daughter,Katarena loves taking off her clothes,she will walk around the house with no clothes on.If we let her she would do it all day but we eventually get her in a daiper at least.BTW shes 9 months,lol

My little girl is the same way. She just loves being naked and she's two now...so this stage appears to be lasting awhile. I have no problem with her running around naked at home. We're potty training and it is easier. It is sweet how innocent they are about this. It's almost hard because you realize when they start becoming self conscious, they're starting to lose the innocence...

 

[Katie12]

yeah i understand that in more way then others...and yes they do,its sad cause they do lose that and they grow up,like andrew is 5 now in kindergarden,i always use to wonder if he would make it to 5 and now he has so now ive set a new goal to 10 .Lol and Katarena is almost 1!!they grow up way to fast for me.




Blessed be,
Katie