Modesty in Pregnancy?

[InTheFlame]

I'm curious as to what various people consider the standards of 'modest' clothing to be for a pregnant woman. Hopefully this WON'T turn into a flaming debate!

 

[Linnis]

I think a tee shirt which shows off the belly is very cute.

I agree women should be modest but feel some(as some of you probably already know ) go a little overboard with what they think is modest for a pregnant lady.

I will not look like I just dropped out of some Islamic country because I'm pregnant. Just as much as I'd never be caught dead in "booty" shorts or shirts that have deep Vs...but then I never dressed like either before pregnant so why would I start.

I love the knee length, short sleeve cotton sundresses they have out, they are very comfy and am just about wearing one everyday now. I asked my DH if it showed too much and he went "It goes to your knees!!!"

 

[jgonz]

I picked: Fully covered, but feel free to show off that belly with a tight top!
Of course, this would Only be ok for those moms who have cute little bodies (which was never me lol).

 

[Leanna]

I haven't voted yet, but I am thinking other. I want to vote that I don't care if the belly pokes out of the shirt, but I don't want to see the breasts hanging out unless there is a baby attached. Which should I vote do you think?

 

[katelyn]

I don't consider the standards for a pregnant woman to be any different than those for a non-pregnant woman.

 

[Athene]

By fully covered for the third option do you mean long skirt or trousers and a long sleeved high necked top? Or do shorts and knee length skirts fit here as well.

 

[lin1235]

I voted for the second option. I've never been one to wear tight clothes at all - I'm not criticising others who do, it's just not my style. I don't wear stretch jeans or tight shirts or anything. So now that I'm pregnant I opt for styled clothes that fit but not tightly. That's what I'm most comfortable in. It's winter here now so I'm in long pants and long sleeves mostly, but once summer comes I will probably wear skirts that come to my knees, no higher. Or just below my knees.

 

[~Nikki~]

I'm quite happy to dress how I normally would, but maybe just in bigger sizes to leave room for my belly...so I'd be covered up (not head to toe, but just 'normally' modest), but I don't feel the need to hide my tummy in big baggy t-shirts...I'm quite happy to be covered but not mind if the t-shirt's a little bit tight. I don't think I'd want it skintight, but I don't intend on being seen in a sack, kwim?

 

[~Mrs. A2J~]

I don't consider the standards for a pregnant woman to be any different than those for a non-pregnant woman.

This is my opinion too.

 

[HeKnowsMyName]

No tight clothes for me. I figure I draw enough attention to myself by waddling everywhere I go so I don't want to be showing any belly. I've seen lots of women that do let their belly hang out or where tight clothes that look uncomfortable. Personally I'd rather not see all that, but that's their right so I just look the other way.

 

[Singin4Him]

I think tight tops that show off the belly are very cute, you should be proud of your baby bump!!

But it shouldn't be so tight your belly and cleavage or hanging out. I do not like to see pregnant women wearing shirts where their belly is hanging out, I don't think that's very attractive. Not to mention I agree with what someone else said, we should uphold the same standards of modesty we do when we are not pregnant and godly women probably shouldn't be wearing shirts with their stomachs hanging out so why do it when you're pregnant? That's just my 2 cents.

 

[Leanna]

This is how I feel about it. Lol. I am sitting here in jean shorts and a tank top and am quite comfortable with myself. It would be silly for a non-pregnant person to buy a shirt and have their belly hanging out. But if when I am 4 months pregnant I show an inch or two of belly in this tank top I am wearing right now, that will not danger my modesty and I will continue to wear it. The instant I get a belly I won't switch to massively large gaping shirts just so that other people can be happy. I would still wear this shirt around my house (with an inch or two of belly showing), in my yard, to go on a walk around town, to the post office and maybe even to the grocery store. I am comfortable with my body. I wouldn't go to church with my belly showing, however, or a bridal shower or other more formal occasion. The "lust" arguement isn't going to work here because men looks at breasts to lust not a pregnant woman's bearly poking out stomach.

As far as breasts go, I only wear shirts that don't show cleavage, so I pick tank tops and the like that come up high enough. Being only a B-cup though keeping cleavage from showing doesn't seem to be a problem.

A couple months ago a magazine I like, Mothering, had a picture of a pregnant woman with her belly showing out the bottom of her shirt and not even for a second did I look around me in shock and hope that no one was lusting over my shoulder. Now if I were to pick up one of those other icky magazines for "women" I might be embarrassed.

If people want to disagree with me here, I would never ask you to wear something you feel uncomfortable in. I just hope you don't run into my in the supermarket because I will not apologize for my ease with my body.

 

[sarahleo]

I think a tight fitting top is so cute and I I am even ok with a little belly poking out.I wore the fully covered loose frumpy look with my three pregnancy's. If I were to do it over again(not )I would definitely go for the tight fitting look.

 

[Singin4Him]

Remember ladies just because a pregnant woman doesn't want her belly to doesn't mean she has to dress in frumpy large gaping shirts. They have adorable maternity shirts out that are very stylish! I'm a very trendy dresser, I wouldn't be caught dead in something frumpy, I love showing off my belly but for me I don't think that has to mean letting it hang out. At home is one thing but going out is another. That's just my take on it.

O and Leanna I wouldn't rule out that lust issue completely, I thought the same thing myself but actually found I was wrong when talking to a few male friends who oddly enough thing pregnant women are very sexy lol.

 

[Leanna]

Pregnancy is sexy, but its a different kind of sexy

 

[Singin4Him]

Pregnancy is sexy, but its a different kind of sexy

O yes I agree...but that's not what they meant .

 

[Leanna]

I know. I guess its hard to explain. I used to work in a large public place with lots of people, a tourist trap where people could find alcoholic beverages (which makes a difference in their behavior unfortunately). The way I was treated by men normally was very different from how I was treated pregnant. I am trying to figure out how to say this correctly. Men looked at me differently. When I was pregnant they looked more respectful and like "she's cute" but they didn't disrespect me like they did when I was not pregnant. I was at work so of course I was following the dress code which was dress casual, never show your shoulder and all skirts below the knee, and like I said never showed cleavage. And yet I was "lusted" after in an entirely different context. So I would say these men you talk to would say that pregnant women are cute, and they like them, but I doubt they are having nasty fantasies about them and their belly. I know there are a few gross people in the world on every issue, but in general it is different.

 

[~Mrs. A2J~]

My hubby finds pregnant women very sexy. He says I'm never sexier than when I'm pregnant. I think it is something on a very primal level to do with procreation. But, yeah, pregnant is definitely sexy in his eyes.

 

[Linnis]

I bought tanks in large(normally I'm a small) they are form fitting but they go to the waist of my pants, shorts etc. I also have maternity tops as well. The only ones I think are silly are the huge pleated ones with bows on the back or people who expect me to buy in the plus sizes to have more than an excess of material around me. Nobody seems to notice an XL or 1X tee shirt in womens...the neck hole is almost wider than my shoulders are...or the vee is so big is goes way past my boobs. So hense why I find it silly when people suggest it.

Right now I'm at home, only DH is here and I'm in an old pre-pregnancy tank so I am showing about 4 inches of belly. I'm trying to leave my maternity cloths to only when I'm out so I don't have to buy as much.

 

[~Mrs. A2J~]

I'm trying to leave my maternity cloths to only when I'm out so I don't have to buy as much.

I do that too. I try to leave my good and comfortable maternity clothes for when I'm out and about and just make do with whatever else when I'm in the privacy of my own home.