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A friend and I were discussing this one time. He had recently been to a muslim majority country and said that thefull body covering while supposing to be for modesty and avoid temptation actually had the opposite effect as it allowed his imagination to go to work and he could wonder what they were like under the clothes. So just another reason why it might be the case.Echoing the sentiment that some guys are going to lust no matter what she's wearing. There are some to whom woman dressed in full habit is actually more appealing than one in a bikini. Because the woman covered up for religious reasons is "forbidden," that type will only see her as a challenge and want to try to get her to change her mind.
major issue is that you describe it as dressing provocatively. Thinking like that is a major part of the problem. You make assumptions.I think, in American societies, far more men would google (gawk?) over a woman in a thong and string bikini top than a fully clothed beautiful one, but I do understand the point. If that's the case, then I think the OP would not want to have the vast majority of men gawking at his possible future bride because she dresses in a provocative way than say a very modest woman. And I'm guessing dealing with that one man in a million (or thousand, or whatever) that is lusting (or the issues described below) over his wife fully clothed, would be his preference as opposed to having to deal with many, many men whistling, gawking, taking pictures, hitting on, etc.
major issue is that you describe it as dressing provocatively. Thinking like that is a major part of the problem. You make assumptions.
People here have been arguing that it is wrong to dress like that because it causes men to lust. So the counter-point was made that men can lust due to other reasons. Which means no matter what is worn they could be tempting someone to sin and therefore it is impossible to dress in a manner that does not cause people to sin. It just shows the absurdity of that argument basically.
My wife was hit on a number of times. I can assure it had nothing to do with lack of clothing because she was fairly well covered up. Once she was given a phone number by another woman as she was looking at her and thinking a friend of ours would like her but I guess the person thought she was keen on her! She has been hit on while in work clothes, while in everyday clothes and winter clothes that includes a jumper that covers from neck down. So a guy might look at a woman in less clothes but does not determine if she is hit on or not. My wife and I used to walk down the street commenting to each other on the outfits people were wearing. Just something we did. We wearn't lusting by doing so.
You are still relating being hit on being directly related to the clothes a person is wearing. That simply is not the case. I could be wrong but I doubt a college student is wearing same outfits as hollywood actors. Your comments still reflect a basic attitude issue which does not help.It's not absurd to think that your wife would have been hit on 25 more times that night had she been wearing a see through dress versus wearing what ever she was wearing, everyday clothes as you put it. I'm not being extreme here....there are some of those Hollywood gowns that hardly cover anything.
This is what I was trying to explain in my previous post......if the OP's GF wants to wear things that would cause more men to gawk then normal, he may want to think about whether he wants to continue with this relationship as opposed to trying to change her.
You are still relating being hit on being directly related to the clothes a person is wearing. That simply is not the case. I could be wrong but I doubt a college student is wearing same outfits as hollywood actors. Your comments still reflect a basic attitude issue which does not help.
You are still relating being hit on being directly related to the clothes a person is wearing. That simply is not the case. I could be wrong but I doubt a college student is wearing same outfits as hollywood actors. Your comments still reflect a basic attitude issue which does not help.
Ummmm....no....college students and high school students even are dressing worse than Hollywood actors.
But regardless, my point is the same.....if, by someone's standards, conservative or liberal, one dresses one way, and walks down a street, they get X amount of cat calls. The same exact person walks down that same street with less clothing and they get XX amount of cat calls.
That is my point......yes, we can't control the cat calls cause one can and will find attractiveness with anything regardless of modesty, but you can control the amount.
Sinner and a saint said:My girlfriend and I have been having a bit of an argument lately. It all centers around modesty and what is appropriate to wear.
I am a little more conservative with regards to modesty, while she is a little more liberal. We are both in college and have been dating for a little over a year
When she wears things which I feel are immodest it upsets me and I tell her. I'm not trying to control her, just relate to her my feelings and views. We are not married so I have no right to tell her what to wear
By not showing too much you are respecting God and your future husband.
Some of these posts are interesting. I've never had "conversations" with any guy I was in a relationship with about my clothing.Maybe because I don't feel the need to have clothing suctioned onto my butt cheeks or have the world seeing my cleavage.
That's exactly why.
Well lucky you two have never come across those who believe women should only wear dresses or skirts and have them lecture you.Some of these posts are interesting. I've never had "conversations" with any guy I was in a relationship with about my clothing.
That's exactly why.
Well lucky you two have never come across those who believe women should only wear dresses or skirts and have them lecture you.
Agreed.
Also, when I brought up my part on conversations, it was never about anything being too revealing - there were comments about them not liking what I was wearing for other reasons, not modesty. I was putting out there it's a common couple disagreement at times.
Well lucky you two have never come across those who believe women should only wear dresses or skirts and have them lecture you.
That never happened, but I did go to a private high school where the girls couldn't wear pants. I HATED that. I've encountered people who were dress/skirt only wearers, but it never turned into an actual confrontation about clothing. I figure, let them be whoever they need to be.
Well lucky you two have never come across those who believe women should only wear dresses or skirts and have them lecture you.
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