I so miss the little things. My back is so itchy and Terry was the best back scratcher. He had a magic touch. Do they even make back scratcher's anymore?
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Missing Those Little Things
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I miss not having to explain how I feel or what I'm thinking. Terry knew what I thought and how I felt and when something happened or someone said something, Terry knew what I was thinking and feeling.
I miss those little things between the two of us. Like eating a lobster and knowing why Terry would be laughing. He was remembering when I accidentally hit our pastor with a lobster claw.
I miss laughing with him and flirting with him.
I miss those little things between the two of us. Like eating a lobster and knowing why Terry would be laughing. He was remembering when I accidentally hit our pastor with a lobster claw.
I miss laughing with him and flirting with him.
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Missinyou
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Is it just my imagination, or am I slowly becoming the only widower on this forum.... Or am I the only one with time on my hands to be on this stupid computer???
I really enjoy the people here...and Jean...I especially like your humor... It brings a little sunshine into my world.
I was only kidding about missing Patsy carrying our luggage into and out of the hotels... I hope and pray I didn't sound insensitive...because it certainly wasn't meant that way.
Actually it was quite a move just to go to the hotel... An oxygen concentrator, a couple oxygen bottles, a big suit case, a medicine bag the size of a suitcase, a couple jackets, and various and sundry other items... Whew... I'm tired just thinking about hauling all that stuff around. I don't miss that part of it, but even though I hated it and what it stood for, I miss not having the concentrator setting in the living room and the fifty feet of hose running through the house. I would take all that back but I know it's just selfishness on my part. She's a lot better off in God's Kingdom than down here putting up with all she had to put up with.
I really enjoy the people here...and Jean...I especially like your humor... It brings a little sunshine into my world.
I was only kidding about missing Patsy carrying our luggage into and out of the hotels... I hope and pray I didn't sound insensitive...because it certainly wasn't meant that way.
Actually it was quite a move just to go to the hotel... An oxygen concentrator, a couple oxygen bottles, a big suit case, a medicine bag the size of a suitcase, a couple jackets, and various and sundry other items... Whew... I'm tired just thinking about hauling all that stuff around. I don't miss that part of it, but even though I hated it and what it stood for, I miss not having the concentrator setting in the living room and the fifty feet of hose running through the house. I would take all that back but I know it's just selfishness on my part. She's a lot better off in God's Kingdom than down here putting up with all she had to put up with.
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Missinyou,
You are not insensitive. Here I am complaining about a piece of luggage and a laptop. I had no idea what a difficulty it was for you when Patsy was ill. I'm the insensitive one. I'm sorry.
I'm wondering where everyone is, also. Is it that you no longer need to be here and are ready to move on? I know that I am much stronger now than 4 months ago, but I would stay here in the forum to help new widows/widowerers. Faithgoeson is a wonderful example of that. Despite all her struggles, she always had an encouraging word and wonderful advice.
You are not insensitive. Here I am complaining about a piece of luggage and a laptop. I had no idea what a difficulty it was for you when Patsy was ill. I'm the insensitive one. I'm sorry.
I'm wondering where everyone is, also. Is it that you no longer need to be here and are ready to move on? I know that I am much stronger now than 4 months ago, but I would stay here in the forum to help new widows/widowerers. Faithgoeson is a wonderful example of that. Despite all her struggles, she always had an encouraging word and wonderful advice.
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Missinyou
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I agree, Jean. Faithgoeson was an inspiration to all of us. I wonder how she's doing in her new place. She really messed her leg and foot up when the tread mill landed on it. Probably just too busy getting settled in to spend much time on the computer.
It did sound as if ComesoonmyLord found a "friend". Perhaps that's where he's at.
I agree with you on another thing. I believe that as we get our lives on he path to healing, we should not forsake those who are just starting to deal with the loss of someone. We have a lot to offer, and we do understand what they're going through. If we can give even one person a little comfort, then we should do it. You're a good example that life can, and will, go on and you humor shows us that we will laugh again. That we can be strong again and face the world with at least a little bit of a positive view.
Thank you for being you, Jean.
It did sound as if ComesoonmyLord found a "friend". Perhaps that's where he's at.
I agree with you on another thing. I believe that as we get our lives on he path to healing, we should not forsake those who are just starting to deal with the loss of someone. We have a lot to offer, and we do understand what they're going through. If we can give even one person a little comfort, then we should do it. You're a good example that life can, and will, go on and you humor shows us that we will laugh again. That we can be strong again and face the world with at least a little bit of a positive view.
Thank you for being you, Jean.
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Well, another first today. I attended the viewing and then helped with the luncheon for a funeral today of an older gentleman at our church.
When I went to the viewing his wife was so surprised to see me. She put her head on my shoulder and said that I was the only one who knew who she felt. I lost it with that and we both had a good cry.
This is the second husband she has buried. Ruth is in her 80s and very frail. She hung in today, though. She was a beautiful example of grace under a terrible burden of grief.
I know in my heart I will not remarry. I just could not go through this a second time. I would like companionship, someone to have dinner with or go to a movie. But, I just don't think I could commit to the intensity of a marriage relationship again. Time may change my thoughts, but the whole idea of someone else is so overwhelming. Terry was truly the love of my life.
When I went to the viewing his wife was so surprised to see me. She put her head on my shoulder and said that I was the only one who knew who she felt. I lost it with that and we both had a good cry.
This is the second husband she has buried. Ruth is in her 80s and very frail. She hung in today, though. She was a beautiful example of grace under a terrible burden of grief.
I know in my heart I will not remarry. I just could not go through this a second time. I would like companionship, someone to have dinner with or go to a movie. But, I just don't think I could commit to the intensity of a marriage relationship again. Time may change my thoughts, but the whole idea of someone else is so overwhelming. Terry was truly the love of my life.
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Missinyou
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I think dinner and movies are a good idea at this point in your life, Jean, when you reach that part of your healing. I would not completely rule out another marriage though. God has given us a path to follow, and if He should deem it neccesary for His plan to have another person in our lives...then it will happen...and we'll probably be blind sided by it.. I think it's going to sneak up on us like a thief in the night and before we know it there will someone who will mean an awful lot to us. Never as much, or in the same way, as the one we lost, but they will be someone we will want to spend more and more time with. I think God will put them in our way and we all know how much luck we have denying God's plan.... 
There is so much I want to do and another person in my life right now would just complicate things. But, as I said before, if it's Gods will....I better brace myself for the collision....
There is so much I want to do and another person in my life right now would just complicate things. But, as I said before, if it's Gods will....I better brace myself for the collision....
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Dawiddlegirl
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Missing you! LOL 
<< And I too miss Patsy carrying our luggage in and out of the hotels..... >>
<< And I too miss Patsy carrying our luggage in and out of the hotels..... >>
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I miss Terry kissing me goodbye every morning. He always got up at 4:30 and had his devotions, went to the Y, came back for breakfast, and then woke me up. He always said I was sleeping the day away. I told him getting up at 7 am was not sleeping the day away and only crazy people get up at 4:30 in the morning because they like to.
I miss arguing with him.
I miss arguing with him.
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JeanR
Genesis 2:18 says "teh LORD GOD said, 'It is not good for man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him." The Lord's solution to our loneliness is the gift of a spouse, one who is perfectly suited for us.
Sunshine & I joked about me having a second wife and the people who were around would be thoroughly taken aback by it. I, like you, believe Sunshine was and still is the LOVE of my life. But it is not my choice, if the Lord want me to re-marry, then HE will provide a new love in my life.
Missinyou is correct when he says it will blind side us and who are we to fight the LORD, we can either listen to HIS whisper or we can wait until he hits us up along side the head with a baseball bat. (Which usually happens to me.)
I too am afraid of a future relationship becasue I don't won't to lose my LOVE for Sunshine or dull my memoery of her. Then on the other hand, I don't real want to be alone for the next how many ever years without the companionship of a loving spouse.
I will never have another Sunshine; but if it is GOD's plan to replace her, then the next one will be the person I need (as I will be the person she needs) in this phase of my life and the future.
I just try to place my trust in our Lord JESUS CHRIST for the next moment, the next hour, the future.
Genesis 2:18 says "teh LORD GOD said, 'It is not good for man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him." The Lord's solution to our loneliness is the gift of a spouse, one who is perfectly suited for us.
Sunshine & I joked about me having a second wife and the people who were around would be thoroughly taken aback by it. I, like you, believe Sunshine was and still is the LOVE of my life. But it is not my choice, if the Lord want me to re-marry, then HE will provide a new love in my life.
Missinyou is correct when he says it will blind side us and who are we to fight the LORD, we can either listen to HIS whisper or we can wait until he hits us up along side the head with a baseball bat. (Which usually happens to me.)
I too am afraid of a future relationship becasue I don't won't to lose my LOVE for Sunshine or dull my memoery of her. Then on the other hand, I don't real want to be alone for the next how many ever years without the companionship of a loving spouse.
I will never have another Sunshine; but if it is GOD's plan to replace her, then the next one will be the person I need (as I will be the person she needs) in this phase of my life and the future.
I just try to place my trust in our Lord JESUS CHRIST for the next moment, the next hour, the future.
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