Miscarriage

[Stringfellow_Hawke]

For those who don't know, my wife and I are expecting our first child. Due 4/19/19.

Each day, as I understand, the chances of a miscarriage go down (correct me if I'm wrong.)

I've Googled what to do in the event that she miscarriages (God forbid) and I honestly can't find anything. I've found articles about being supportive after the fact but nothing on what to do when it happens.

I realize the child is dead (for lack of better wording) but still, do I need to get to the hospital as fast as I can? Should I call EMTs to handle it? Could she be at risk for any bad infection?

I feel like a real bone head for asking, but I don't want to assume something and be wrong.

 

[HTacianas]

For those who don't know, my wife and I are expecting our first child. Due 4/19/19.

Each day, as I understand, the chances of a miscarriage go down (correct me if I'm wrong.)

I've Googled what to do in the event that she miscarriages (God forbid) and I honestly can't find anything. I've found articles about being supportive after the fact but nothing on what to do when it happens.

I realize the child is dead (for lack of better wording) but still, do I need to get to the hospital as fast as I can? Should I call EMTs to handle it? Could she be at risk for any bad infection?

I feel like a real bone head for asking, but I don't want to assume something and be wrong.

If your wife should have any sort of pain or bleeding, or if after the baby begins to kick he stops, call an ambulance.

My God bless you and your family, you nervous father you.

 

[Llleopard]

Warning slightly graphic description of miscarriage experience, so please don't read if this might be upsetting. From my own experience, I can say there might not be time to call anyone else. From the moment I could feel something was wrong to losing my 16 week pregnancy on the bathroom floor in a public building, was about 5min tops. I was on my own, but a bystander (was a trained nurse,eternally grateful)came in and helped me, and took me to ed in her car. I had no time to even consider whether what was happening was minor or serious before it was all over. It's important to take anything you can salvage to hospital so they can investigate what went wrong, if you can. Personally, I was bleeding heavily, so it was important to get to help fast. There can also be remains left inside, so some women need a d & c. So, what helped me was: a calm person taking a lead support role. She saw me going into shock, and helped me use my sweatshirt to pad the bleeding. She rescued what was on the floor in a caring manner. She helped me clean up the room - I was irrationally focused on how much mess I was making and it made me panic. Drove calmly, Stayed and reassured with me until I went for surgery.
I hope that you don't need any of that, but I think it's better to know the kind of thing that can happen-nobody told me the what if s in antenatal class. And 20 years later, it still makes me upset to think about. Having a loving partner who loved her as well and cried and grieved with me would have been wonderful. Just someone to be there.

 

[Stringfellow_Hawke]

Warning slightly graphic description of miscarriage experience, so please don't read if this might be upsetting. From my own experience, I can say there might not be time to call anyone else. From the moment I could feel something was wrong to losing my 16 week pregnancy on the bathroom floor in a public building, was about 5min tops. I was on my own, but a bystander (was a trained nurse,eternally grateful)came in and helped me, and took me to ed in her car. I had no time to even consider whether what was happening was minor or serious before it was all over. It's important to take anything you can salvage to hospital so they can investigate what went wrong, if you can. Personally, I was bleeding heavily, so it was important to get to help fast. There can also be remains left inside, so some women need a d & c. So, what helped me was: a calm person taking a lead support role. She saw me going into shock, and helped me use my sweatshirt to pad the bleeding. She rescued what was on the floor in a caring manner. She helped me clean up the room - I was irrationally focused on how much mess I was making and it made me panic. Drove calmly, Stayed and reassured with me until I went for surgery.
I hope that you don't need any of that, but I think it's better to know the kind of thing that can happen-nobody told me the what if s in antenatal class. And 20 years later, it still makes me upset to think about. Having a loving partner who loved her as well and cried and grieved with me would have been wonderful. Just someone to be there.

So sorry that happened to you.
Thanks for the information as I’ll take this to heart.