Miscarriage at 10 Weeks

I know this must have been hard on you. My miscarriage was . Because I flushed what I found down the toilet. There wasnt any blood or anything, just what I now know was a dried up fetus. I had norplant put into my arm and it wasnt supposed to let me get pregnant. And other people said things that just made me bury the experience until God brought it up. He made me realize my baby was a person, and whether or not I was supposed to be doing the things I was doing, the fact that she was conceived meant she belonged here. So I mourned her a couple of years ago for the first time ever. And I had my miscarriage in 94.
To help with the alone part, we are never to forsake the gathering of ourselves together,and more so as we see the last days approaching. Go to church. Get involved with people there. Tell them your story. Let them share your pain with you. And most of all... let Jesus take it. Dont forget that you are not alone. HE is there with you.
Love,
Mary.

there is something i want u to read.. it helped me with my loss.. i was 19 weeks along when i lost my daughter i was in the same place as u.. the father was no longer in the picture and i was preparing to raise my baby as a single mom my life had changed and i became more repsonsible and more careful of what i put into my body and relized my life wasnt going to just be takign care of myslef i have my baby to take care of also.. and then one day it was all gone.. but remember even if you never have children you were and always will be a mother i know its hard to get throught and no one can tell you anything that will comfort you. its been almost 2 yrs since i lost my baby and i still have days where i dont want to get out of bed and just lay there and cry its gets better day by day but its still hard... but remember we are here for you when u want to talk... Love yas and take care.. stephanie..
and i will also post a poem on here that helped me throught it...

A Mother's Dream
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]I carried you so lovingly[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]Within my gentle womb[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]And little did i relize[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]You'r life would end too soon[/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]I never got the chance to say[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]I Love you Little one[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]Befor I held you in my arms[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]You'r life on earth was done[/font]


[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]The greif is indiscrabable[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]To lose a child this way[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]All the many hopes and dreams[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]Vanished on this day[/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]I know I'll see the sun shine bright[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]Upone my baby's face[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]When I finally get to heaven[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]All my pain will be erased[/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]We'll soar the sky's together[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]As angels two by two[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]We'll have a sweet reunion[/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]This mother's dream come true[/font]

Hi there and may God bless you with his strength and comfort! I just want to say that what your feeling about being alone is natrual (I think) My husband was here during both of my miscarriages, and yet I still felt alone (exept for God)< I think its easy to feel alone after a miscarriage, becouse to people who have never exp. one its really not a loss of a REAL baby ( I`ll be the first to admit that I use to feel that way~I still felt bad for them becouse it was a very sad thing, but that was before I exp. it myself). Thats why I think this site is so great, becouse with other women who`ve gone through the samething you don`t feel so alone~ so keep talking to us about it~ I feel God directed each of us here just for that reason ~He is useing each one of us as His "messangers" to help heal and comfort eachother.~God bless you and keep on writing!

First of all, I am so sorry for the loss of your baby, i'm sitting here in tears, reliving the pain of my misscarriage over again and wish so bad, i could just give you a big hug and cry it out w/you...Secondly i would like to tell you, i just had my miscarriage in october of 2005, so about 3 months ago, and i tried to fight it and deal w/it on my own for about a month or more, because i was so angry that my baby was gone, and that no one around seemed to care, u know the day after or so, everyone just went back to work, and school, and forgot it happened, until i found this site.
When i did, i started searching for answers and someone who would just listen and who could posibly understand what i was going through, so this site is truely a God-send. It has given me the outlet to share my story for healing and to help others know, they arent alone. I also want you to know please PM me...when you are ready, i would love to be your friend.
Please go to church, and find a group of women to share your story with, i found out that there are so many women who have experienced the same thing, but for some reason its something no one talks about until it happens to you. I can speak from experience on this one, i hadnt been to church in a long time, and honestly, today was the day i've been there in a long time, and one of the very first things they said when the service started was, "no matter what happens in life, God will NEVER leave you. friends may leave, and in my case my earthly father left, but our heavenly father won't...NO MATTER what the circumstance.
I have so many things i would like to share w/you, but if you had made it this far down you are probably ready to tell me to "shut up". I guess in closing, i'll say the same thing i wrote earlier, even though its so easy to get angry at God, he is hurting and crying w/you. Take a min. to ask him to wrap his arms around you...and envision it...God wrapping his arms around you...the same hands that created the world, are hugging you, and him crying w/you...its a powerful image and honestly the thing that helped my healing the most was to just replay that image in my mind....so anyways, i am here for you and would love to talk w/you...when you are ready...i'm sorry this is so long, but i hope something i've said will add some comfort. I love you as my sister in Christ and you are in my thoughts and prayers hun!

Hello I am carrying my baby still and would like to know how long it will take to miscarry naturally. I found out at 6 weeks that the pregnancy wasnt developing properly. I am almost 11 weeks and still no sign of a miscarrige.
Can I wait this out for as long as my body says?
This is my 5th miscarriage in 4 years.
Thankyou, my faith in all this is still strong.

Hi waivering83, your situation doesn't make it any less painful for what your going though. In fact your probably feeling more lonely cause girls in your age are not going though what you are and can not fathom it. I completely understand, I have friends who have children and not misscarried who are in thier 30's and they cant grasp it. I completely understand. If you need someone to talk to, pray with , pm or anything. I would be glad to. Having a miscarriage is extreamly difficult. I know it probably doesn't help to know now, but you will see your little one one day in Heaven like I will see my little ones.

God bless you,
GG

waivering83, may God bless you. sweetie, I have been thru the same thing as you TWICE and i'm only 23. My partner left me in the most humiliating way and I was truly looking forward to spend the rest of my life changing diapers and waking up at 4am for my baby. My first baby I lost at 12 weeks (they say it stopped growing at 6 weeks) and my second baby I lost at 17 weeks and he was perfectly healthy. My waters just broke one morning while I was joking around with my dad and fixing breakfast. I had a boy who I have named Gabriel Trey.

Please, if you ever need to talk PM me. I think I can truly help you get thru this. God bless you.

Well like most other people in this thread I to right now am in tears. My ex girlfriend and I had 2 miscarriages in the course of about 4 or 5 months. The first one was when I was in Virginia for a week taking care of some business and she was in North Carolina still with her 2 sons. We talked the night I came back home on the phone and she told me she had something she wanted to talk to me about when I got back. I already knew there was a possibly she was pregnant but we didn't know for sure or not. When I got back to North Carolina and to the house. We hugged for what seemed like hours but was for maybe 15 minutes. Then she sat me down and it felt as if someone ripped my heart out. Just as waivering83 said. I was looking forward to changing diapers, coming up with baby's names, picking things out we would need, Christmas, Birthdays, Easter, you name it!. I will never forget that feeling. It was the hardest thing anyone has ever told me!.

The second time was a few months later. She started developing pregnancy symptons. We bought several tests and some came back positive and other came back negative. We were getting really worried because we once again were so excited and happy but at the same time scared to death. We were geting ready to make a appointment with a doctor for a blood test when she we found out one day she had a miscarriage. It was just as if someone ripped our hearts out all over again. I am sorry for going on for so long. I really and deeply sorry for your loss. I am here if you ever want to talk.

Romeo.

bornagain-053184 said:

A Mother's Dream
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]I carried you so lovingly[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]Within my gentle womb[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]And little did i relize[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]You'r life would end too soon[/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]I never got the chance to say[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]I Love you Little one[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]Befor I held you in my arms[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]You'r life on earth was done[/FONT]


[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]The greif is indiscrabable[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]To lose a child this way[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]All the many hopes and dreams[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]Vanished on this day[/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]I know I'll see the sun shine bright[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]Upone my baby's face[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]When I finally get to heaven[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]All my pain will be erased[/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]We'll soar the sky's together[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]As angels two by two[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]We'll have a sweet reunion[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Sans-serif]This mother's dream come true[/FONT]

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Thank you for posting this poem. It is beautiful and does bring comfort. I just lost my baby this week. I was nearly 11 weeks pregnant. My husband and I are mourning the loss and trying to cope. I'd say we're trying to understand, but I don't guess that will happen this side of heaven. We are grateful to have had the opportunity to love our little one, even if we didn't get to keep him/her. We are comforted knowing that our child is being raised in heaven, and will never know sorrow or sickness.

Praying for you Tracy and Romeo.

I'm sorry for your loss, Tracy.

full_of_faith said:

I'm sorry for your loss, Tracy.

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Thank you.

i had a misc. on may 9, 2006. i assumed mine was a girl - motherly instinct. i cried alone alot and still do when no1's home. it hurts, but im ok. i am so sry for your losses. God's protecting our babies. *hugs*

waivering83 said:

I had my miscarriage two weeks ago. I was 10 weeks along. I have so many feelings right now that it is difficult to explain.

From the moment I found out, I loved my baby. It didn't matter that I am 22 and that the father was no longer around. It didn't matter that a baby was going to make my life much more difficult.

Immediately, my future was no longer my own. It belonged to the child inside of me. My life was no longer about making decisions to make me happy. I began to focus on using the time provided by my pregnancy to prepare for the responsibility of a child. Instantly, I was a mother and my future was filled with Easter egg hunts, first day of school, trips to the beach etc. It's hard to explain, but pregnancy triggered all of my concious or subconcious thoughts on parenthood. It's actually something that I've been preparing for since I played "house" as a child. All the ideas that I've ever had about raising a child leaped into action. A life was created and I loved it. I still do.

Then one morning, I woke up in a pool of blood and I knew that my baby was dying. The miscarriage itself was painful and traumatic but the emotional damage is devastating.

Now I have to try to adjust back to just me. There will be no Easter egg hunts or first days of school or trips to the beach. It doesn't matter that my baby was only 10 weeks along - it was still my baby. Not just a fetus that is easily forgotten.

I haven't gone to church in a long time. I haven't wanted to. I've been very busy living my life how I wanted to live it and didn't want a guilt trip. But now I find that the only thought that brings any comfort is the thought that my baby is whole and is in Heaven. I am struggling to keep my head above water through this but it is very hard. Some days I am ok but some days I just feel empty. Completely empty and alone.

I hope some of you here can atleast help me banish the "alone" part. It is comforting to read that other women have felt the same as myself.

Thank you for your time.

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I lost my first 4 children to miscarriage. The first one was in my second trimester, nearing the midway part. The 2nd, 3rd and 4th in the first, near the second. And I have to say, I just about gave up thinking that I even could have children. It was not only heart breaking, it left me feeling like God had forsaken me somehow, or that I was being punished. I still mourn their loss. I still calculate how old they would be now. The oldest one would be 26.

Miscarriage is a death in the family. Although not many people acknowledge it as such. It's the loss of your child.

None of us know why for sure these things happen. In my case the doctors think it was a complication of my having Lupus Disease. But, there is no comfort in knowing why our children didn't live. It still hurts. Even now, it hits me sometimes and I find myself crying.

My only advise to you is not to let anyone make you feel like you don't have the right to mourn and grieve the loss of your child, just because you didn't carry them to term. I don't know why people do that. Maybe they don't have compassion because they don't have an experience to relate to.

And yes, it gives me some consolation that I will see my other children some day. But, how I wish I could have kept them all. I miss them. I always will. And yes, it gets easier over time. But, it's not something that will ever leave you. It makes an indellible mark on your soul.

I have 3 children now. Ages 14 in 2 weeks, 11 and 7.(You can click on my profile to see them, if you want to...it's a couple of years old, the picture) God did let me have children. And I feel very blessed. But, for awhile.... It nearly broke my spirit. I don't know of any deaper sadness than the loss of a child.

I'm praying that God will give you peace, and surround you with people who can be a comfort to you through the loss of your child.

I am 22 and became pregnant for the first time 9 months and 1 week ago. I was due to have the baby on June 24, but when I went in for my second checkup they could not find a heartbeat. The heart had apparently stopped beating at around 7 weeks. I was in an unhealthy relationship at the time, and I know that God used the situation to show me that I should not be in the relationship, but I am having a hard time dealing with the guilt. I had to have surgery to remove the baby from my womb because my body was not naturaly dismissing her and my Dr. said it would be unhealthy if it went on too long. At times a feel like I had an abortion, even though I didn't... I just feel so guilty... I am currently living in a foriegn country and dont realy have anyone here I can talk to. I moved here in April, three months after the surgery. I just feel like I dont want to do anything at tmes. I feel guilty, I feel dirty, and I feel like a failure.