Minor Question

[Pirch80]

What I need help with is how do you calm a person that is stressed out? I'm a very good friend and one of my friends in class is stressing over stuff. Including school and some other things. How do you go about to comfort your friends?? And this seems to happen everytime tests happen or even in regular life. I just try to say the right words but what can you say when I'm just as intense about school work? I mean I can't tell her it don't matter because in our class our tests do matter. So I'm asking what you would say to comfort somebody that is having mainly school stress? She does seem to be in constant stress between real life and school.

Luckily for me I'm taking it pretty well and I hope it continues that way. Sad thing is my friend is taking a Chem and Anat course and Chem can be an awfully hard course.

Well I welcome your advice and thank you. I just keep on praying that this pressure won't get to her but we all have our mental breakdowns sometimes.

 

[LiVingSoUL]

pray?

 

[Kaylynn]

If it's a Christian friend, remind her that God is in control and to just lay all of her burdens at His feet. It's hard not to get stressed out about things, but we need to remember that God is ultimately in control and no matter how much worrying or stressing we do over something, won't change the fact that God still is going to have His way in whatever situation.

If she is not a Christian...I'm going to have to agree with LiVingSoUL....all you can really do for her is pray, and offer her support. Ask her if there is anything you can do that could help lighten her load, such as help her study in a certain area in which she may be struggling. *shrugs* other than that, I'm not sure. (Btw, those are also things you should consider for her if she is a Christian too )

 

[vibrant]

this too shall pass.

 

[markmayer23]

try to tell a nice story, tell her some compliments and encouragements, be with her or help her in times of work the best that you can offer. also pray for her always..

 

[Mr.Cheese]

learn how to give good backrubs.
Take her out for ice cream.
Hang out and study together. Having someone around helps.
Get her out of her room. I would study until all I could do was stare at the page and not learn anything else. I finally learned to get out for a bit and recharge. This actually saved study time because when I came back I was ready for more, rather than trying to keep running on an empty tank.

You'll have to learn to speak her language a little bit. She might like finding little notes. Like I mentioned earlier, backrubs are always nice if she likes that. I'm a very affectionate person so I have to make sure I know what kind of attention a person responds to.

Just be.

 

[Periann]

Oh yea, Im feeling the backrubs. Also play some pool....do something FUN. Tell her a joke and be goofy if you can. I have a tendency to get stressed out a lot also, and it always helps when I can laugh and release some stress. Dont let her eat a lot of sugary/salty foods because its bad for stress.

 

[tetelestai]

its hard to give advice on this one, because i think the best thing to do for her is not give her statements out of a box. those prefabricated, trite comments rarely make a lasting impact. but honestly, i think not dwelling on it with her will be helpful. be rather brisk about it. i mean, let her know that you see it, but move past it. maybe she will follow suit. the last thing she needs to do is dwell on how stressed out she is. we get out of our minds what we put into them. help her put in some good stuff. so i guess i am saying....treat her like she isnt stressed out, while still giving her the grace and understanding that a stressed out person needs.

huh. i suspect i was completley unhelpful.