Mind goes bad places

[SouthernRunner]

Do any of you ever have times where your thoughts really go astray from where you know they need to be? How do you go to God with that? Over the past week or so my wife and I have had an ongoing “nothing” fight where we’ve increasingly got on each others’ nerves. I’ll say that it’s my fault. I probably should have communicated things better and worked them out, but I let tension build.

For a lot of today, my thoughts were in a bad place. Thoughts of divorce, record keeping of perceived faults. Mind wandering to “what if’s” of being divorced. Just bad stuff. I finally sat down and talked to her, and things are better. I know there’s more to work out, but I’m a little ashamed of where my thoughts went.

Anybody ever have times where something like this happens? I want to go to the Lord and say I’m sorry, but I feel like my thoughts were in a place they really shouldn’t have been, and it surprised me.

 

[Dave G.]

This is it " Holy Spirit let me see my wife through your eyes rather than my own". And repeat as needed. She can do the same about you fwiw. But that is her issue before God and yours is your issue before God. Pray together though. You can see where this is leading I'm sure, you are getting into your own thoughts rather than drawing near to God as a couple and personally in your thoughts. The answer is always God, not the wisdom of man. Tune in to Him.

 

[Kevin Snow]

God has been working on me in this very thing. There is such a thing as self control of the mind and for all my life, I've sort of just let myself think whatever I happen to be thinking along the road of life. But now I understand that you have to not let many things run in your mind and you have to make the choice to cut off a lot of thought processes.

Stay awake and continue to give your mind to God. Constantly thinking of worse and negative things creates an entire mood in the home. Focusing on God's promises and the hope we have in Christ Jesus is the reason we are able to continue on with light in our lamps. Let us grow strong therefore in the word, putting off the old man and his desires and being renewed day by day.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. ~Philippians 4:8

 

[Bobber]

For a lot of today, my thoughts were in a bad place. Thoughts of divorce, record keeping of perceived faults. Mind wandering to “what if’s” of being divorced. Just bad stuff. I finally sat down and talked to her, and things are better. I know there’s more to work out, but I’m a little ashamed of where my thoughts went.

I think we live in a society that thinks way, way, way to fast of entertaining the notion of getting a divorce. Sure there could be cataclysmic things that have happened in a relationship that such might be deemed necessary but if it's like fighting with your wife because you want to watch three sports events a week instead her wanting you to watch just one or something frivolous along the same line then I think people are half crazy and need balance and perspective.

 

[longwait]

Do any of you ever have times where your thoughts really go astray from where you know they need to be? How do you go to God with that? Over the past week or so my wife and I have had an ongoing “nothing” fight where we’ve increasingly got on each others’ nerves. I’ll say that it’s my fault. I probably should have communicated things better and worked them out, but I let tension build.

For a lot of today, my thoughts were in a bad place. Thoughts of divorce, record keeping of perceived faults. Mind wandering to “what if’s” of being divorced. Just bad stuff. I finally sat down and talked to her, and things are better. I know there’s more to work out, but I’m a little ashamed of where my thoughts went.

Anybody ever have times where something like this happens? I want to go to the Lord and say I’m sorry, but I feel like my thoughts were in a place they really shouldn’t have been, and it surprised me.

Yes, offcourse. You are supposed to go to the Lord and confess all your sins whether its in your thoughts, words or deeds. That's what you need to do. In fact the more you sin the more you need to go to the Lord with it. How else can we overcome it? Yes, we all have wicked thoughts. We are humans and we are wicked by nature.