mid fifties and single

[Silly]

Its 2008 and I still feel unaccepted in the church, not only as single but also my age. I know nowadays they have alot of activities for church members, but even now it is still hard to find churches that have singles ministries, or even have them for different age brackets. Has anyone noticed that most of the studies, for lets say men or women are held during the day?

Just curious if anyone else feels this beside me. When will I ever feel like I belong. Do u feel like a tag along with the family activities in your church? or alone?

 

[Wade Smith]

Its 2008 and I still feel unaccepted in the church, not only as single but also my age. I know nowadays they have alot of activities for church members, but even now it is still hard to find churches that have singles ministries, or even have them for different age brackets. Has anyone noticed that most of the studies, for lets say men or women are held during the day?

Just curious if anyone else feels this beside me. When will I ever feel like I belong. Do u feel like a tag along with the family activities in your church? or alone?

Birds of a feather flock together.

Sometimes you feel like a tag along because you are the dove and everyone else is a hawk.


Goats and sheep don't get along.

It could also be a 3rd or 5th wheel situation, in which case it could just be better to find some new friends.

 

[ido]

I'm a firm believer that we have the power to affect change if we don't like what's offered. If you want a study for people in your age range/relationship status in the evenings, offer to teach it.

If you feel like a tag along at "family" events, then invite an unchurched (or even one that has their own home church) to attend with you.

 

[Inkachu]

Yup. All of my church's "mom" ministries are held during the day. Do they assume all Christian mothers have the blessing of a husband and can be stay-at-home moms? I got news for em! I would've liked to have had the option of joining MOPS (mothers of pre schoolers) but it was always like, Thursday at 10:00am. Sheesh. I was at WORK.

Not every church can have special "ministry groups" for every age and every need. We should be as understanding as we can be, and try to GIVE what we can, not just expect to GET. So even though I feel disappointed at times, I won't get bitter and feel like I'm being excluded because I KNOW that's not my church's intentions. Small churches especially, may not have the funding or resources to do it all.

 

[SonicBOOM]

I'm 21 and know how you feel

Here's who i am. i wear a beanie and I don't believe in removing it to show "respect", I love hardcore metal music, i hate Hillsong United [a band that EVERY church member I've met so far loves]. I can be pretty liberal, I don't agree with the way modern evangelism works, I hate picnics and potluck suppers, I hate contemporary worship music and prefer hymns when in worship. i really could go on. I am not "christian material". the exact opposite infact.

 

[cCensor]

Its 2008 and I still feel unaccepted in the church, not only as single but also my age. I know nowadays they have alot of activities for church members, but even now it is still hard to find churches that have singles ministries, or even have them for different age brackets. Has anyone noticed that most of the studies, for lets say men or women are held during the day?

Just curious if anyone else feels this beside me. When will I ever feel like I belong. Do u feel like a tag along with the family activities in your church? or alone?

Gee I wish I could go to church to be disappointed. Can't drive so here I sit ......all alone.

I do have a kitten to drive me nuts. I have been trying to teach her to make coffee for me, but as much as I tell her, two scoops, she looses count and puts in four.

I believe your problem is your focus is on you. You feel you need the world to entertain you. I am older then you and I am living all alone. Except for Peanut my kitten.

I watch a lot of TV since I sit in a lazy boy most of the day and night. Peanut love programs with bugs in them, because she loves to jump in front of the TV and chase them.

Heck my big time of my week is going to walmart. Have to take a bus and two of the drivers are JW's and you want to listen to some one cry about life, they are it.

No I am not lonely, ever. So if you need to talk, just PM me. I am here most of the time.

With respect. Censor

 

[Inkachu]

I'm 21 and know how you feel

Here's who i am. i wear a beanie and I don't believe in removing it to show "respect", I love hardcore metal music, i hate Hillsong United [a band that EVERY church member I've met so far loves]. I can be pretty liberal, I don't agree with the way modern evangelism works, I hate picnics and potluck suppers, I hate contemporary worship music and prefer hymns when in worship. i really could go on. I am not "christian material". the exact opposite infact.

Honey, every human being is "Christian material", because God welcomes every type of person to come to Him. As far as how you should be AFTER you've come to Him, nothing wrong with wearing a beanie and disliking Hillsong and liking hymns. If your heart loves Christ, you're as Christian as you need to be Anyone who tries to tell you otherwise...just walk away.

 

[Ave Maria]

As a single, I kinda feel left out and stuff with most church activities. That is, except for the church activities designed for singles of course. Thankfully, I'm only 26 and still have some years ahead of me to find the guy I want to marry. Of course, I've already found him. He just doesn't want to be with me at this point in time. In the LDS church, you're pretty much expected to marry if you are to get the full glories of the Celestial Kingdom which is the highest heavenly kingdom.