Message for fellow singles!

[chippy2000]

I'm not sure if this will matter much but I wanted to share some experience and maybe bring reason as to why we are single.

A good friend once reassured me that my future wife is out there somewhere waiting for me to get my stuff sorted out as she maybe doing the same. This has stuck with me for ages and he's right. I have realised that if I were to enter into a relationship back then and still now I would have brought this huge backpack of stuff into it. So maybe God is waiting for you to get your stuff sorted out and start getting rid of the backpack full of bondage and burdens and start making Him the focus of your life and then He will honour you with a partner. This I truly believe is what I am going through at the moment. You see I got impatient and decided to start looking on the net and finding non-christian girls. And I fell miserably! I met some great people and have some great memories but ultimately I'm still single.

I hope this brings sense to some!
Brad

 

[22smsbears]

hi
I read your message and i think you are exactly right. For anyone to find true love you almost have to stop looking for it. Only then when you are not expecting it will the lord have time to work in your life to find you the right person. Until he sends you that person you will not be able to find them. Because let's face it all things are possible through him. Not because of the things that we do or try to make happen. Hope you find who you are looking for . Many blessings

 

[lunalinda]

Sounds good to me. Hehe, and I guess I'm the wife to be given to a man like that, eh? Well geeze, future husband! Hurry on up! I'm standing here with my arms crossed and tapping my foot awaiting the opportunity when we'll meet!

 

[chippy2000]

hahaha Linda! Lets not get impatient now! lol

 

[ChrisWins]

So maybe God is waiting for you to get your stuff sorted out and start getting rid of the backpack full of bondage and burdens and start making Him the focus of your life and then He will honour you with a partner.

It's good to see someone who appears to have their head screwed on nice and tight. There are others and I applaud them as well. Some, though, still suffer with impatience quite a bit. It's like a disease. It saddens me and it ticks me off. I don't wanna see people lonely and blue and bitter but at the same time these very same people know they've gotta be freakin' content with being single... 100% content... well, i'll give a little leeway, minimum 99%, okay. For some of us the baggage, bondage, burdens, whatever... that's all gone already and it's just a waitin' game and in waiting that gives plenty of time to further grow in our relationships with Christ. For others, you're right, they've still gotta get rid of baggage and all the stuff that rhymes with frap but has a "c" at the beginning, a word that's deemed bad on CF, know what I'm sayin'? They've gotta get rid of that crud in their life that's blocking their path, not only their path to God but also their path to someone special in their lives.

So, yeah, if you've got that backpack of crud on ya or whatever you're pullin' behind ya, whether you're tethered to a cart of baggage or an entire 18 wheeler's worth, you've gotta sort all that out! Even those of us with our heads screwed on straight can get a little down and blue from time to time but yo, man, gotta snap out of spells like that but gotta have a clear head to be able to do so! For some of us it's a little easier than others but the bottomline is - each and every one of us needs to be content in being single.

All good things in all good time.

 

[chippy2000]

For those that may be struggling with what burdens are relating to you having a relationship cast your mind on anything that may hinder you from being open and honest to your future spouse so there is no secrets. One of my gf's was really jealous of the time I spent on the computer for instance. It maybe financial. You may be in a financial bondage ie unmanageble debt. It may even be the way you view men/women deep down inside behind all your good intentions. There may be unforgiveness somewhere. Start praying into these things and ask God to help you reveal them to you and once He does, start praying for a way out! For those that are waiting keep focussing on God. He/She will notice how committed you are and how close to God you are and be attracted to that and want to get their lives right to be with you!

 

[lunalinda]

hahaha Linda! Lets not get impatient now! lol

Fine, fine. But only a few more min...err...I mean...years!

 

[soda]

I partly agree. It is a wonderful image that someone - not just someone, but THE RIGHT - is preparing himself/herself for you. and you are doing the same. and impatience is something I'm really familiar with and what is really hard to deal with sometimes (not just in a relationship).
but...
it might be that for some people jesus prepared another way. I don't want to discourage you preparing yourself for the future, but maybe jesus has other plans for you than you think. What I want to say is: never ask god for something when you're not ready to accept both yes and no. or: no not now, yes but later...

nevertheless. don't give up. hope dies at last.

 

[JPPT1974]

I'm not sure if this will matter much but I wanted to share some experience and maybe bring reason as to why we are single.

A good friend once reassured me that my future wife is out there somewhere waiting for me to get my stuff sorted out as she maybe doing the same. This has stuck with me for ages and he's right. I have realised that if I were to enter into a relationship back then and still now I would have brought this huge backpack of stuff into it. So maybe God is waiting for you to get your stuff sorted out and start getting rid of the backpack full of bondage and burdens and start making Him the focus of your life and then He will honour you with a partner. This I truly believe is what I am going through at the moment. You see I got impatient and decided to start looking on the net and finding non-christian girls. And I fell miserably! I met some great people and have some great memories but ultimately I'm still single.

I hope this brings sense to some!
Brad

Thanks for sharing because God would want that for everybody still single as well as not make mistakes and wished that they couldn't have done those things. God bless you!