Men...

[Paulie079]

No, because I have never had an ex. That's how much trouble I have (as someone who fits your description of having an active relationship with God, who also likes sports, loves being outside, doesn't have two heads etc...) attracting men....

The two men I mentioned that were interested in "the idea of me" five years ago, I went on one date with one of them and he said he had a good time and would call, but he never did, except sporadically and late at night, when, in retrospect, I think he was lonely and I was simply there/convenient (the idea of me...). I called him a few times. I went out of town a week after our date, so I called to just let him know I was back, but I got his voice mail and the last time I called I left a message saying I was free on Friday night if he wanted to go for coffee and well, five years later I still haven't heard back... The other I wasn’t attracted to to begin with, but beyond that, he was a bit intense... calling me six times and day and saying he wanted to marry me, when he didn't even know me. He basically attached himself to me the moment we met, despite the fact he and I had never really talked. But he has since gone on to meet someone, while I still remain single....

With the first guy, that's horrible. I think it's just ridiculous when guys are insensitive and don't treat women with respect. I'm sorry that that was something you ever even had to deal with...

 

[Niels]

I'm feeling "listy" today.


Looking for:

Kind
Imaginative
Understanding/wise
Loves animals
Offbeat/quirky
Physically active
Patient
Low-key
Thinks for herself
Collaborative
Fun
Faithful
Physically attractive to me
Intelligent
Enjoys (or at least tolerates) SF/Fantasy
More spiritual than religious
Christian
Musical and/or artistic
Won't mind if I clean a carburetor or two in the kitchen sink
Finds me attractive
Dry/warped sense of humor


Avoiding:

Unkind
Materialistic
Judgmental
Hates animals
Conformist attitude
Couch potato
Bossy
Demands instant gratification
Overly scheduled
Know-it-all
Stuffy
Cheater
Physically unattractive to me
Unintelligent
Thinks SF/Fantasy is of the Devil
More religious than spiritual
Non-Christian
Aesthetic and creative pursuits either leave her cold, or are narrowly defined
Would put me in the doghouse if I ever cleaned a carburetor in the kitchen sink
Doesn't find me attractive
Schadenfreude based sense of humor


That said, I trust that God will help me meet the kind of woman, whether she fits my "looking for" list or not. Who knows... I might even be willing to overlook the carburetor thing.

As far as her relationship with God is concerned, I'd like it to be honest.

 

[leothelioness]

No, because I have never had an ex. That's how much trouble I have (as someone who fits your description of having an active relationship with God, who also likes sports, loves being outside, doesn't have two heads etc...) attracting men....

The two men I mentioned that were interested in "the idea of me" five years ago, I went on one date with one of them and he said he had a good time and would call, but he never did, except sporadically and late at night, when, in retrospect, I think he was lonely and I was simply there/convenient (the idea of me...). I called him a few times. I went out of town a week after our date, so I called to just let him know I was back, but I got his voice mail and the last time I called I left a message saying I was free on Friday night if he wanted to go for coffee and well, five years later I still haven't heard back... The other I wasn’t attracted to to begin with, but beyond that, he was a bit intense... calling me six times and day and saying he wanted to marry me, when he didn't even know me. He basically attached himself to me the moment we met, despite the fact he and I had never really talked. But he has since gone on to meet someone, while I still remain single....

Are you sure we didn't come across the same person? That actually gave me a chill because it's so similar to what I went through. He buttered me up and then got back with his ex. Yeah.

 

[Paulie079]

Are you sure we didn't come across the same person? That actually gave me a chill because it's so similar to what I went through. He buttered me up and then got back with his ex. Yeah.

Sorry this happened to you as well....

 

[leothelioness]

Thanks, Paulie.

 

[Trashionista]

the characteristic lots of girls have these days is a Strong lack of loyalty, ruled by emotions, self centered, manipulative, play to many games, have superiority complexes, are very passive aggressive, and just over all arnt very good people trying to progress. iv never met a truly GOOD girl. So as you can tell finding a decent girl these days is actually very hard. especially in my age group.

Sometimes, one must also look at the common denominator - themselves.

 

[Italianguy]

I didn't get to much choice in this matter....My first marriage was arranged by the elders in the family. My current marriage was "Semi" arranged.

She would have to have a strength in faith, Able to communicate well, be able to have a conversation about God, she must be a Christian. Know her role as a wife. Other than that....no complaints, but I got this in my current marriage. My wife is awesome! She is my queen! And I treat her as such.

God be with you all!

 

[gladtobefound]

And up next in her bid, at her attempt to be courted, to fall in love, and to marry… we have the lovely?... a woman still on her own… smile pretty so we can get a good look at you… that’s right; you heard right, she’s the type of woman who loves God with all her heart. She would home school her children…read them Psalms and the Gospels by oil lamp..help the homeless out of the cold.. stand vigil with others for the lives of yet to be born babies in this country…visit the children in the inner cities... cook, can, sew, hang clothes on the line…and make a home… she’s in her twenties, thirties, or forties…she’s fair to look upon… gentle… serene, how rare... how special is she...she will love her husband dearly her life through..she wants as many children as the Lord would bless her with and fill their home with. She will tell her daughters of Esther who would fast for her people and endanger herself in going up to speak on their behalf… and of Ruth who would leave her homeland for the God of Israel and his people… And Rebekah who would address a man (Abraham’s servant) as my lord (a title of respect like Sir) and have faith to leave her kindred to go marry a man. Where’s such a woman to love and be loved by..for to share those playful romantic, emotional and physical affections and the oft passionate lovemaking…and if she’s of child bearing age, to share our children…Where’s a woman with her long hair worn up or down, in her long skirt or dress…where’s a woman who can inspire me without a sound? She would be accepting of that I am a never married, forty-four-year old, repentant man, a single dad raising my nineteen-year-old daughter and fourteen- year-old son by myself…she would be ok with or like that I am tall, 6 ft 2, 205lb…. she would find me to be handsome enough… if she were in her twenties(ya I know) or thirties she would be ok that I am forty-four-years old, though I am fit(a little weight training) and healthy and still have a full head of drk brown , not yet graying hair-I am in my forties. If she were a younger woman or much younger woman, she would have to be ok with our age differences…she would be understanding that a few years ago I walked away from college, a senior studying mathematics to pursue something meaningful (humanitarian type work) and it will never make me more than but a financially “poor” man, as this culture defines poor.
I saw the following written on a plaque at a hunting and fishing store, “Wanted to marry, a woman with a good hunting dog. Looks don’t matter. Who cares what the dog looks like as long as it can hunt.” …Give me either a woman such as I have written about in the paragraphs above or give me any woman as long as she owns a handsome or not so handsome champion Labrador or Chesapeake Bay Retriever.