Men: Is this true?

[Annie Mouse]

I'm definitely not an expert on dating, but I guess I can share a few things.

I do have a female friend who is very intelligent, and she hides her intelligence. I think, in fact, that one of the reasons she did not choose to go to grad school is that she was afraid it would scare off potential suitors.
She has been trying to find someone to marry for years, dresses very revealingly, acts much less intelligent than she is, etc. THe result? It hasn't attracted any of the guys she might have liked to attract, and she still doesn't have a boyfriend, from the last that I've heard.

I wouldn't recommend hiding your God-given intelligence, but I do think being humble about it is a good idea, really in any situation, with males or females. After all, intelligence is a gift from the Lord. It's not something to be ashamed of or to boast about.

 

[David1975]

I think men look as themselves as the bread winners and probably will for eternity. But behind every good man is a well educated women. A lot of men think tey need to be the onewho provides the financial security and are afraid that their women counterparts make more it makes them less of a man. As for me my wife makes morethan I do and I'm happily content with that. Unfortunately men let that one of the sins over ride them and thats their Pride, so we need to work on it some.

 

[gurneyhalleck1]

I don't think men are intimidated by smart women; we just want a woman who won't yell at us when we want to watch Lethal Weapon or This is Spinal Tap or a Jack Black movie

 

[ninzae]

I'm not intimidated by intelligence. I might be intimidated if the woman is more emotionally mature than I am. Maybe intimidated is not the word. While I am chronologically a certian age. My life experience, psychology, is ten years behind.I guess that is why I relate more to people in their 20s than my age. Intellectually on the other hand, I think I am slightly ahead.

I've always have this observation among men in my age range. Thanks for confirming it and being honest.

 

[Crypto]

I was told that I should be careful, of how I talk. Because if men see that I'm to articulate/smart or too educated they will flee. I was also told not to tell my real age,32,men will see me as too old and run off.

You see I have a problem with the advice mentioned above. Why do I have to base a relationship on lies? If I do follow the advice above, I will be with a man that is not really attracted to the real me. So again living a lie.

Can a smart woman who is well educated and articulate to get a man and be married long term?

The advice above was mentioned to me by a family member...So hearing this repeatedly...I can't help but wonder.

Y'all have no idea how discouraging it is to hear the advice above. When I was little girl I was told to study...get an education no matter what. People will respect you. Then I grew up and got an education only to be told men will flee cause I know too much

I think none of the advices is a good one. I personally like smart woman with whom I can maintain an interesting conversation. Also, I would feel bad if after a few weeks of dating I find out that I have been told a lie (for example, a false age). So, I think it's always better to be yourself and to tell the truth (no all the truth, though).