Men, how do you react when another male compliments your wife?

[Romanseight2005]

It can be Rough!

 

[JaneFW]

Well, He doesn't worry about it. If they are respectful, he likes that his wife is attractive to other men. If they are obviously greedily ogling, you know, eying me up and down, I glare at them.

One time, I was on my porch, and these men were playing basketball nearby. One of them said hi, with a big smile, and sensually asked me to come play with them.

My husband, who had been inside, was in front of me before I could blink. He said,"She's going inside, and you can deal with me."

Wow.

<GROWL> .. hands off my woman!!

LOL.

 

[JaneFW]

Where is the "line"?
Do you automatically get involved if a random stranger whistles at your wife?
What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your wife and telling you she's sexy?
If your co-workers say something dirty about your wife do you stand up to them, or laugh it off?

Where is the line between a simple compliment and some guy drooling over your wife?

Just curious.

- Niff

We have never discussed this stuff, but my h is visibly unhappy if a man steps over the line during an interaction. When I worked at a university here, a lot of the guys I worked with were very 'huggy' - which was one of the reasons I asked the question about how people hug/who they hug. My boss would hug me, students would hug me .. it was like hugging madness, hee. I bumped into a student one time I was with my h and kids, and he gave me a big hug, which I was trying to detach from, and my h was livid, and asked me who 'my boyfriend' was while the guy was still standing there. *sigh* I didn't ask for the hug nor intiate it, but this was just a huggy kinda guy and he was pleased to see me .. I guess. That was very uncomfortable. My h isn't happy if a guy tries to look down my shirt, which I don't like that either, and because of his feelings about that, I don't wear anything even moderately low at the neckline. If someone is just being nice and saying "hey, she's a great gal", then he doesn't mind, and he will say "yes she is". I don't know if anyone has ever made inappropriate comments to him, because he's never told me, but I don't think he would appreciate it, and would probably tell the guy off.

 

[Gospel Trafficker]

Where is the "line"?
When its more than a friendly "beautiful woman"
Do you automatically get involved if a random stranger whistles at your wife?
I have never been the one to not speak up. I have spoke up quite boldly over this in the past~
What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your wife and telling you she's sexy?
I would have the need to change his mind!
If your co-workers say something dirty about your wife do you stand up to them, or laugh it off?
At that point, I move over from conversation to Sign Language bringing the message across in a way he can understand.
Where is the line between a simple compliment and some guy drooling over your wife?
There is a difference between "she is a beautiful woman" and "That Chick is sexy" If its disrespectful to my wife, Then it's disrespectful to me! Cross that line and ya just might get help going back over it!

 

[Diane_Windsor]

Whistles, ignore them. If someone is blatantly hitting on my wife, that's a different story. But compliments? I don't worry about them. Compliments from other men about my wife usually make me feel good because I did marry a hot woman.

A few weeks ago while we were shopping we noticed that other men were noticing me. My DH felt good because he married such a hot woman! He wants to me to wear the same outift again next time we're out and about LOL

 

[Created2Write]

My hubby doesn't mind it at all. One time we were on a date and I'd worn a cute white dress that I'd bought a year or two prior. Well I had to go to the bathroom so I stood up to get out of the booth. Our table was next to some guys playing pool and they all stopped and watched me go towards the bathroom. (I didn't notice...I never, ever do. lol.) One turned to my husband who was sitting in the booth and said, "Daaaaaaannng." DH said he just smiled and nodded knowingly and said, "Thanks." I was really blushing when I came back from the bathroom and he told me what had happened.

I've never had a whistle...but I have been stared at a lot. I'm not usually flirted with either, unless I'm playing Halo on the X-Box.

I don't think anyone has ever said anything inappropriate about me...If they have, DH has never told me.

 

[Audiomechanic]

A few weeks ago while we were shopping we noticed that other men were noticing me. My DH felt good because he married such a hot woman! He wants to me to wear the same outift again next time we're out and about LOL

My hubby doesn't mind it at all. One time we were on a date and I'd worn a cute white dress that I'd bought a year or two prior. Well I had to go to the bathroom so I stood up to get out of the booth. Our table was next to some guys playing pool and they all stopped and watched me go towards the bathroom. (I didn't notice...I never, ever do. lol.) One turned to my husband who was sitting in the booth and said, "Daaaaaaannng." DH said he just smiled and nodded knowingly and said, "Thanks." I was really blushing when I came back from the bathroom and he told me what had happened.

I've never had a whistle...but I have been stared at a lot. I'm not usually flirted with either, unless I'm playing Halo on the X-Box.

I don't think anyone has ever said anything inappropriate about me...If they have, DH has never told me.

Exaaaaaactly.

 

[Niffer]

My hubby doesn't mind it at all. One time we were on a date and I'd worn a cute white dress that I'd bought a year or two prior. Well I had to go to the bathroom so I stood up to get out of the booth. Our table was next to some guys playing pool and they all stopped and watched me go towards the bathroom. (I didn't notice...I never, ever do. lol.) One turned to my husband who was sitting in the booth and said, "Daaaaaaannng." DH said he just smiled and nodded knowingly and said, "Thanks." I was really blushing when I came back from the bathroom and he told me what had happened.

I've never had a whistle...but I have been stared at a lot. I'm not usually flirted with either, unless I'm playing Halo on the X-Box.

I don't think anyone has ever said anything inappropriate about me...If they have, DH has never told me.

Remi is very protective.
He feels no need to "show me off" or wants me to in public. I like to dress well, and wear makeup and such - but if a random guy "daaaaaaaang'd" me at a mall or wherever, he wouldn't find it a compliment, and it would offend him.
He would see it as another man drooling over his wife, in a clearly sexual fashion.
However, if a man we as a couple had been introduced to, and he said something along the lines of: "You have a beautiful wife" - he'd be much more inclined to smile and agree.

He doesn't expect me to wear a shapeless clothes so no one notices me, but random drooling guys, he never finds complimentary.

I'd get whistled at fairly regularly (though not in the last 9 months mind you! ) and I just ignore it, or pretend to not hear it. ...If I had a middle finger, I might be more inclined to use it.

I'd honestly be a little worried if Remi wanted me to wear a certain outfit because it drew attention, I'd automatically feel objectified, and that I was just boosting up his male ego.
Asking me to wear an outfit so he can feel good when other guys see him with me?!
Um. No.
If I wear a cute outfit, its for him. If other guys appreciate it, thats one thing - but if I was asked to wear it because of that effect on other men, I'd throw a drink at his face.


- Niff

 

[Autumnleaf]

Where is the "line"?
Do you automatically get involved if a random stranger whistles at your wife?
What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your wife and telling you she's sexy?
If your co-workers say something dirty about your wife do you stand up to them, or laugh it off?

Where is the line between a simple compliment and some guy drooling over your wife?

Just curious.

- Niff

If its a random stranger I smile and wave. If they are close I tell them thank you but I'm spoken for.

If a coworker says she's sexy I agree and tell them that is why I married her. It is too.

If the coworkers says something dirty about her I'd probably give them a silent stare. Those from me tend to make people fidget and eventually go away.

 

[Niffer]

If its a random stranger I smile and wave. If they are close I tell them thank you but I'm spoken for.

If a coworker says she's sexy I agree and tell them that is why I married her. It is too.

If the coworkers says something dirty about her I'd probably give them a silent stare. Those from me tend to make people fidget and eventually go away.

Heaven help her if she loses her looks eh??
Would that be grounds for divorce d'ya think, or would she have had to sign something previously stating that you'd only stick with her as long as she stays the same physically??

 

[pappastratos]

mmm, I am a jealous husband,,,depends on the situation,,

 

[Created2Write]

Niff, your husband sounds like a really great guy.

Jason loves it when I dress up/wear flattering clothes. But not so that other guys can stare at me...he likes it when I dress up so he can stare at me. Which I don't mind at all. I love to dress up, wear makeup, fix my hair.

Before Jason and I were dating I've had guys shout things out their car window when I was walking down the street. That was annoying. Now, when I'm walking with Jason, they know to keep their comments to themselves. Their eyes, it seems, is a completely different matter. I never notice it, though. Jason is the one who does. He's far more attentive than I am.

 

[blythe_ann]

I rarely get comments. I used to get frustrated, wondering if I was a lot uglier than I thought I was, but a friend told me it was because I had the "taken" vibe, and, sometimes, I look mean! Apparently I looked mad at the world as I walk down the street.

Since I started working at the store and running/walking/biking outside all the time, I get comments but I have never noticed any eyes. Of course, I'm too busy looking angry myself to notice anyone else! But most often they aren't inappropriate and aren't done in the presence of my husband. One man said something close to being punch-in-the-face worthy, but my boss kicked him out right away.

My husband is generally protective and likes to take a "she's mine" stance anytime we are in public. Basically, he is touching me at all times, or standing directly behind me. Once, when I decided I just had to have those peanut m&ms and went back to the concession stand, the clerk made the comment that my body guard wasn't with me. I don't mind a bit, though.

 

[Lena75]

Last summer/early fall we were at Walmart one evening. Hubby wanted to exchange something but had forgotten it in the car. So, I went out to the car and when I was walking back to the store a truck full of guys were whooping and whistling at me when they drove by. When I met up with hubby again in Walmart, he asked what happened. I told him and he responded with, "I knew I married a hot one!" And what was I wearing? My everyday sweats! Nothing revealing at all. Just comfy. But with all that racket they made, it freaked me out a bit. Punks.

If hubby notices a guy staring out in public, he'll protectively put his arm around me just so they get the "back off" signal.

 

[dobieman0488]

My friends have always made comments about sarah, since high school, the "she's so hot," variety for the most part, occasionally they and some other guys have made more sexual connotations, but the more sexual stuff stopped since they realized it bugged me. If another man was making her uncomfortable, then I'd step up and have a chat with him. we always hold hands when we're out so it usually isn't an issue

 

[Autumnleaf]

Heaven help her if she loses her looks eh??
Would that be grounds for divorce d'ya think, or would she have had to sign something previously stating that you'd only stick with her as long as she stays the same physically??

You hit on something that has let to much trouble in my marriage, along with other flaws I have. I was not wise in how I chose my wife or how I have treated her for much of our time together. Experience has been a hard teacher, but an effective one.

 

[Niffer]

You hit on something that has let to much trouble in my marriage, along with other flaws I have. I was not wise in how I chose my wife or how I have treated her for much of our time together. Experience has been a hard teacher, but an effective one.

You bought a house for the colour of the paint eh?
..Hmm, that is difficult, but it seems from the above post that you've realized the issues and taking steps to fix them.
So, thats good news.