Meeting online...then meeting in person......read this story!!

[Tuffguy]

LOL

Seriously! You have to look back on this an laugh. I know it was probally a little tramatic, but really. Tell me you are not gonna look back on this and laugh? I sure would.
Ya have to expect this type of thing if you do internet dating. Skipping the first impression is a risky business.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

sorry that happened, that guy was not worth your time

 

[vjaine]

So sorry that happened, babe! Big virtual hug and I pray that you'll recover and be able to meet the one who can stick around!

 

[JPPT1974]

You will find a guy that is good for you
Just give your worries and cares over to the Lord
He will take good care of them as well as you!

 

[septemberskies]

I think i'd only be echoing what the others have said here but i have to say it ahyhow. He's a definite jerk... its not a reflection on you.

I hope you didn't give him the sastifaction of a response. *Giant Hugs*

 

[sweetlambofgod]

I would be devasted if that happened, it would take a long time for me to date again, anyways if you need to talk, I'm here

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

1st thought: JERK!!!!!!!

2nd thought: Creep!

3rd thought: Thank God you didnt draw the relationship out any longer before meeting and thank God you didn't have to see him longer than a few minutes!

4th thought: Atleast he was honest. What would I do if I met someone who's picture I had never seen and they were not what was expected? hmmmm....certainly not what he did cuz that takes a lot of nerve! But honestly, if I knew there was absolutely no chance of attraction there for me physically, I'd basically just be being polite with no intent to see them again. (not that that is all that important to me, but you do have to be attracted to someone to be involved with them romatically) so in retrospect, it was a horrible thing for him to do. I would be extremely hurt and peeved. But maybe just maybe and I am going waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay out on a limb saying this but......perhaps it was better for him to atleast be honest rather than sticking around and fooling you into thinking you have a chance just because he was trying to be polite (like I would have done).....I don't know, just puttin it out there......


B4A

 

[biffy]

I have been too ashamed/embarassed to tell anyone what had happend and i'm glad i could post it here...i came home from work...turned on my computer and you guys have made me start to laugh about it (especially whoever wrote 'maybe you were just too hot for him')...it will take some time to "get back out there" again but i hope to eventually...

 

[biffy]

Atleast he was honest. What would I do if I met someone who's picture I had never seen and they were not what was expected? hmmmm....certainly not what he did cuz that takes a lot of nerve! But honestly, if I knew there was absolutely no chance of attraction there for me physically, I'd basically just be being polite with no intent to see them again. (not that that is all that important to me, but you do have to be attracted to someone to be involved with them romatically) so in retrospect, it was a horrible thing for him to do. I would be extremely hurt and peeved. But maybe just maybe and I am going waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay out on a limb saying this but......perhaps it was better for him to atleast be honest rather than sticking around and fooling you into thinking you have a chance just because he was trying to be polite (like I would have done).....I don't know, just puttin it out there......

well...honestly i'm not going to give him any credit for his behaviour! I empathise with his attitute towards others....glad i saw who he really was...and don't have to be around him ever again...

I never imagined in my worst dreams that this would or could ever happen to me...bit of an eye opener as well as a rude shock...i am already quite a sensitive person i guess now i will be even more aware of how others around me might be feeling at times and be even more sensitive to that!! If you know what i mean...

 

[Doubledb]

I chatted with this guy online then on the phone for a few hours and he wanted to meet me and said he thought i was really sweet etc.. so i went to meet him despite me not being able to send him a picture of myself (no scanner or digital camera)...i got there and we found eachother...he said "take a seat and i'll get the coffee what would you like"...i never saw him again he text me not long after "really sorry but i have gone it just wouldn't work i should have seen a pic"

I am not unattractive (not that that should have mattered) i'm in shock i guess...never had someone be that horrible to me before!! I feel like giving up on dating...trying...anything...and being an old maid and live with cats...i guess i'm just looking for some reassurance here...

That guy is Jerk for sure... you should be glad GOT to leave before it went any furthur. it hurts now but you should seriosuly consider if you want a guy who would do that in the first place.

 

[TriptychR]

I think I'd ask for a refund of gas money and the coffee he never brought back to you.

 

[OhhJim]

Were you under the impression that there were no rude jerks online? Come, now. Next you'll be telling us there is no hay in haystacks!

It's an uncomfortable experience, sure. Now you're zero-for-one. Time to get back on the horse, step up to the plate, and any other cliches you can think of. Do you stop looking for a job because the first interview went badly?

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

Atleast he was honest. What would I do if I met someone who's picture I had never seen and they were not what was expected? hmmmm....certainly not what he did cuz that takes a lot of nerve! But honestly, if I knew there was absolutely no chance of attraction there for me physically, I'd basically just be being polite with no intent to see them again. (not that that is all that important to me, but you do have to be attracted to someone to be involved with them romatically) so in retrospect, it was a horrible thing for him to do. I would be extremely hurt and peeved. But maybe just maybe and I am going waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay out on a limb saying this but......perhaps it was better for him to atleast be honest rather than sticking around and fooling you into thinking you have a chance just because he was trying to be polite (like I would have done).....I don't know, just puttin it out there......

well...honestly i'm not going to give him any credit for his behaviour! I empathise with his attitute towards others....glad i saw who he really was...and don't have to be around him ever again...

I never imagined in my worst dreams that this would or could ever happen to me...bit of an eye opener as well as a rude shock...i am already quite a sensitive person i guess now i will be even more aware of how others around me might be feeling at times and be even more sensitive to that!! If you know what i mean...

I totally know what you mean. I'm sensitive too and would never do that to a person. I hope you weren't upset by what I said i was just kind of contemplating, thinking outloud.

I hope you get healed soon and are able to trust again. There are much better guys out there. He wasn't worth your time so don't worry you aren't missing a thing!

 

[JPPT1974]

I am very sensitive too
As well as get hurt a lot
It will take for me a long time to heal.

 

[California Dreamin']

Wow... I'd rather be alone than with someone like that. I understand how you feel, it's that way with me, even if I do send a picture!

 

[Blank123]

I am really sorry I know how hurtful that must've been

dare i say, just forgive him. give him what he doesn't deserve, forgivness, and just move on.

this would be my advice as well.

 

[biffy]

Wow... I'd rather be alone than with someone like that. I understand how you feel, it's that way with me, even if I do send a picture!

I'm feeling better...reading what you have all written proves there are alot of genuine people online that will be sensitive towards you...i know there are a lot of crazy nuts online as well...i was aware of that before but being aware of it dosen't make you any more ready for dealing with your emotional reaction to a situation like this one...and emotions can be tricky...they take alot of looking after, nurturing...you only hurt yourself if you ignore them...Thankyou so much for writing...Reading Romans helps me through these things ... it goes something like "through struggle...comes perseverance and from perserverance character and from character hope...and hope does not dissappoint us...." so really suffering on whatever level is actually God drawing us closer to Him....He's clever teaching us these things when we least expect it

 

[esseJ]

dare i say, just forgive him. give him what he doesn't deserve, forgivness, and just move on.

I agree with Vibrant...you should jsut forgive this guy and move on...if you can't forgive him, then he will always affect you and your attitude towards dating, and men and whatever else reminds you of this date. IF you can forgive him, he'll never affect you again.

Maybe he doesn't deserve forgivenness, but neither did any of us and Jesus forgave us anyways.

 

[ChasingADream]

I chatted with this guy online then on the phone for a few hours and he wanted to meet me and said he thought i was really sweet etc.. so i went to meet him despite me not being able to send him a picture of myself (no scanner or digital camera)...i got there and we found eachother...he said "take a seat and i'll get the coffee what would you like"...i never saw him again he text me not long after "really sorry but i have gone it just wouldn't work i should have seen a pic"

I am not unattractive (not that that should have mattered) i'm in shock i guess...never had someone be that horrible to me before!! I feel like giving up on dating...trying...anything...and being an old maid and live with cats...i guess i'm just looking for some reassurance here...

I had something kind of similar happen to me except we didn't end up meeting like we were supposed to. He all of a sudden just stopped talking to me. I never got an explanation either. I think a lot of people are hiding who they really are behind their computer screens.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

I had something kind of similar happen to me except we didn't end up meeting like we were supposed to. He all of a sudden just stopped talking to me. I never got an explanation either. I think a lot of people are hiding who they really are behind their computer screens.

Yep so true-- learn and live though