Me and my ED

[PromiseSeeker]

*Rant* I'm not sure where I'm going to go with this, but here goes... Those of you that have suffered with an ED, do you find that people think you can "just get over it," and when you can't, they completely ignore that you even have a problem going on? Even when you're loosing weight they don't say anything, they aren't supportive and they act like they don't even notice, when actually you can see them looking at you....... this may be too far for most to understand... but, I just had to share my feelings today... Who cares about you? Who talks to you about it and tells you they are praying for you? Who is concerned with what you're going through?

 

[NewCreation517]

My bf's extremely supportive and is always there to listen. But, even then sometimes I feel like he's probably really frustrated and doesn't understand. I'm sure there are times when he's just like "get over it"! Which is kind of hard... people who don't deal with this find it hard to understand. After all, who would cry because they gained 1/2 lb??? *sigh* I don't know if this post had anything to do with this thread... but o well.

God Bless,
Hayley

 

[pockleberry]

The ppl that care the most are the ppl who have been or are going through it themselves! Also if you want i will pray for you feel free to pm me x

 

[chaelsworld0o]

I hear what you're saying! My best friends, Tracie and Mary, are very supportive. THey are there for me when I just need to vent about my issue... it's difficult to just get over it to... people DON'T UNDERSTAND that it's not THAT easy. God is there... even when others are not.

 

[Loopi]

people that are in my close mates are often like that with an attitude of "get over it" they dont know about my eating habits, but they do know that i self harm, depressed, etc, and their attitude is "get over it". Thus why i wont tlk to them about my messed up eating. Its so frustrating, its like they see the problem and answer as black and white, and it really really really really really annoys me!!! Its not as black and white as "get over it" it cant be gone at the click of a fingers....
so er yea....people who have the attitude of "get over it" really annoy me

 

[luv4godremains]

a lot of people are like that, I think it's because they dont understand it, they have never been through it, so, instead of trying to help you deal with it, they push it aside as though it doesn't really exist, I was lucky though, when I refused to admit there was a problem, my mates kept trying to get me to understand how unhealthy i was getting, and they tried to help me eat, and when I wanted help, when I was ready to sccept there was a prolbem they were here, ready to help me and support me, and when I couldn't take it, they knew when to step down, they knew that pushing me would only make me worse, but my family, that was the hard one!

There are many people out there who don't understand it, so they wont bother trying to help in a constructive way, but probably only because they don't know how to. I understand how annoying it is though! They seem to keep doin that to me at the moment cos I seem to be slipping back into mine, but, I'm trying, and that's what counts, and, we can help to raise their awareness and understanding cos we have been through it before!

 

[BabbleOn8806]

there are only a few people that know i have an ED.
one is my little sister but she thinks that it's just a thing of the past. she doesn't realize how big of a deal it is. it's not that she doesn't care.

the only other person who knows is one of my friends TL. TL was anorexic last summer. she listens to me but also causes me to slip more than she knows.

word of advice: don't turn to propr ED-ers for help

 

[macandcheese]

People who have not had an ED cannot properly understand. They don't know what it is like, so they don't know what to do. The best thing that you can do is to teach them. Tell them what it is like, and tell them what you would like from them. Most people are happy to know how they can help - most people are willing, they just honestly don't know better. It works best if you can relate it to something in their life, something they understand (i.e. saying 'get over it' is like telling a diabetic to just get over it and stop taking their medication.)

best of luck.