maybe you can help?

[Evie]

I have been in situation lately like being in a room full of people who love me and out of nowhere,I get these thoughts that people are talking about me. (I have been suffering depression)I usually end of leaving before saying goodbye to everyone.(I end of crying very easily) It happenend at my bible study and our volunteer dinner. I can't stand it,it drives me crazy,and if attention is turned to me,my stomach goes nuts?
What's up with that?
any ideas?

 

[ChildOfGod15]

It sounds a bit like social anxiety to me. I have social anxiety and I freak out when I'm in a room of people. I'm always paranoid that they're talking about me when I can't quite hear what they're saying. Have you ever been nervous in a group of people before? The stomach going nuts sounds like what happens to me when I get up in front of a group and I'm supposed to do something like present a project. It freak me out! My stomach does a flop and I get all shaky and nervous.

I may be wrong, but it sounds like anxiety to me.

Love and blessings,
~Sarah

 

[Evie]

does anxiety have anything to do with depression?

 

[Stanfi]

does anxiety have anything to do with depression?

Evie,

Anxiety and Depression often go hand in hand. The situation you described sounds like classic social anxiety. Feeling like everyone is watching you/ talking about you. Do you ever go into a room and want to go to the back corner so you can see everyone? Or dread being in a social environment where there are a lot of people that know you?

If so, that is social anxiety...

 

[NewSong]

does anxiety have anything to do with depression?

In the book of Proverbs ---- God's Word says it like this "Anxiety in the heart, causes depression."

It is said differently in the New King James Version.
Proverbs 12:25Heaviness in the heart of man maketh it stoop: but a good word maketh it glad.

Often if we can deal with our anxiety it will not lead to depression because it seems to be the heartbeat of why we get depressed.

For example--getting worked up in a social setting--until finally you isolate yourself ---would cause depression.

It is thought facing your anxiety diffuses the depression and therefore you would not be as susceptible to it once those anxieties are dealt with.

 

[Glenda]

I used to get this way sometimes.. you know, avoid going somewhere cause I wasn't feeling comfortable about it.. I was feeling insecure.. unsure of myself..

But what I found is that if I force myself to go.. I feel better once I got there.. but that I have to forget about me & think of others.. I have to start up the conversations if no one is talking to me.. showing love.. and care & concern for them..

A lot of people will think you are a great conversationalist then.. *smile*

Truth be told, a lot of people are caught up in their own stuff that they really don't spend a lot of time worrying about me.. *smile* Not complaining about that.. just a point that sometimes we think we are more important than we really are to others.. *smile*

One thing I've had problems with is the "fear of man" when it comes to what they will think when I do something in church..

The Holy Spirit has been leading me to wave flags & dance during praise & worship.. while most of the congregation standing and singing or sitting listening..

This 54 year old.. with a few extra pounds.. and 2 left feet.. resisting the call of the Holy Spirit.. that does not work.. lol..

This verse helped..

2Ti 1:7 For the Spirit that God has given us does not make us timid; instead, his Spirit fills us with power, love, and self-control.

So now I dance and wave the flags.. One lady came up to me.. she said I inspired her to praise God.. she takes flags and waves from the back of the church..

So I'm waving & dancing.. feeling graceful no less.. *grin*.. and lots of others are coming up to wave too..

And God says.. oh, Glenda.. about that "praise garment" you bought last year.. you know, the one I told you to get.. so that you could wave your whole body to the Lord when you danced??

And I said Yes.. Lord.. I know the one.. the one I have never worn..

And he says,, yes.. that one.. wear it now.. so I took a deep sigh and put it on.. (i had brought it.. just in case I had the nerve to do it.. (it is like a semi circle.. royal blue.. with gold trim.. and a hole in the center to slip over your head..)

And I listened to the Holy Spirit's prodding in the music.. and I danced.. for hours.. pre-service worship & worship during service.. one lady came up to me in tears.. she said she saw God's Shekinah Glory on me as I danced..

I pray freedom over you, Evie.. and boldness.. and Freedom from the fear of man..

Rom 8:28 We know that in all things God works for good with those who love him, those whom he has called according to his purpose.
Rom 8:29 Those whom God had already chosen he also set apart to become like his Son, so that the Son would be the first among many believers.
Rom 8:30 And so those whom God set apart, he called; and those he called, he put right with himself, and he shared his glory with them.
Rom 8:31 In view of all this, what can we say? If God is for us, who can be against us?

Amen!!!

 

[Evie]

I had been dealing with my depression since early Spring of this year,the anxiety just suddenly started. Dealing with a major problem in my life brought on the depression.

 

[Evie]

I used to get this way sometimes.. you know, avoid going somewhere cause I wasn't feeling comfortable about it.. I was feeling insecure.. unsure of myself..

But what I found is that if I force myself to go.. I feel better once I got there.. but that I have to forget about me & think of others.. I have to start up the conversations if no one is talking to me.. showing love.. and care & concern for them..

A lot of people will think you are a great conversationalist then.. *smile*

Truth be told, a lot of people are caught up in their own stuff that they really don't spend a lot of time worrying about me.. *smile* Not complaining about that.. just a point that sometimes we think we are more important than we really are to others.. *smile*

One thing I've had problems with is the "fear of man" when it comes to what they will think when I do something in church..

The Holy Spirit has been leading me to wave flags & dance during praise & worship.. while most of the congregation standing and singing or sitting listening..

This 54 year old.. with a few extra pounds.. and 2 left feet.. resisting the call of the Holy Spirit.. that does not work.. lol..

This verse helped..

2Ti 1:7 For the Spirit that God has given us does not make us timid; instead, his Spirit fills us with power, love, and self-control.

So now I dance and wave the flags.. One lady came up to me.. she said I inspired her to praise God.. she takes flags and waves from the back of the church..

So I'm waving & dancing.. feeling graceful no less.. *grin*.. and lots of others are coming up to wave too..

And God says.. oh, Glenda.. about that "praise garment" you bought last year.. you know, the one I told you to get.. so that you could wave your whole body to the Lord when you danced??

And I said Yes.. Lord.. I know the one.. the one I have never worn..

And he says,, yes.. that one.. wear it now.. so I took a deep sigh and put it on.. (i had brought it.. just in case I had the nerve to do it.. (it is like a semi circle.. royal blue.. with gold trim.. and a hole in the center to slip over your head..)

And I listened to the Holy Spirit's prodding in the music.. and I danced.. for hours.. pre-service worship & worship during service.. one lady came up to me in tears.. she said she saw God's Shekinah Glory on me as I danced..

I pray freedom over you, Evie.. and boldness.. and Freedom from the fear of man..

Rom 8:28 We know that in all things God works for good with those who love him, those whom he has called according to his purpose.
Rom 8:29 Those whom God had already chosen he also set apart to become like his Son, so that the Son would be the first among many believers.
Rom 8:30 And so those whom God set apart, he called; and those he called, he put right with himself, and he shared his glory with them.
Rom 8:31 In view of all this, what can we say? If God is for us, who can be against us?

Amen!!!

wow.your words are poowerful,makes a girl think. Are your sure we are not from the same mom,thank you for what you have written,it was very helpful to me.

 

[Stanfi]

I had been dealing with my depression since early Spring of this year,the anxiety just suddenly started. Dealing with a major problem in my life brought on the depression.

I had depression and anxiety all my life, just never new what it was. No one every came up to me and said "You know, you might have anxiety and depression." It was just the way I had always been, I never knew life could be any different.

Then something bad happened in my life, which amplified them. Got so bad, that it took everything I had just to get out of bed. It felt like it I ddidn't do something I wasn't gonna make it.

I went to the doctor, and the put me some medication. One of the first things the medication did was relieve my social anxiety. I also used to have this instense feeling of dread hit me every monring when I woke up, and that went away as well. It suddenly didn't bother me to go places, and be around people. Even it people were talking about me or, I didn't do something stupid. I didn't care, it just didn't bother me anymore.

As far as everything else. I read and studied everything I could get my hands on and learned as much as I could. Then addressed every issue in my life one by one, piece by piece. The Great Counselor, the Holy Spirt helped me.

Granted, I still have unpleasant days from time to time. However, my quality of life now is so much better than it was 3 years ago.

It is just something you have to work through, and understand.

So much of it boils down to understanding and accpeting who you are and loving yourself. Also trusting God that you are who he wants you to be, and he made you that way.

As far as meds, my experience has been is that they "take the edge off" so you are able to deal with the real problems of life.

Hope this helps.

 

[Just Me Garry]

I wonder too if it is anxiety related or not. God hath not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind. (Probably did not get that exactly right)

 

[Evie]

I had depression and anxiety all my life, just never new what it was. No one every came up to me and said "You know, you might have anxiety and depression." It was just the way I had always been, I never knew life could be any different.

Then something bad happened in my life, which amplified them. Got so bad, that it took everything I had just to get out of bed. It felt like it I ddidn't do something I wasn't gonna make it.

I went to the doctor, and the put me some medication. One of the first things the medication did was relieve my social anxiety. I also used to have this instense feeling of dread hit me every monring when I woke up, and that went away as well. It suddenly didn't bother me to go places, and be around people. Even it people were talking about me or, I didn't do something stupid. I didn't care, it just didn't bother me anymore.

As far as everything else. I read and studied everything I could get my hands on and learned as much as I could. Then addressed every issue in my life one by one, piece by piece. The Great Counselor, the Holy Spirt helped me.

Granted, I still have unpleasant days from time to time. However, my quality of life now is so much better than it was 3 years ago.

It is just something you have to work through, and understand.

So much of it boils down to understanding and accpeting who you are and loving yourself. Also trusting God that you are who he wants you to be, and he made you that way.

As far as meds, my experience has been is that they "take the edge off" so you are able to deal with the real problems of life.

Hope this helps.

you bet it helps,thank you.