maybe y'all can help..

[lovesdolphins]

I've been using Billings for about 2 years now. For a few months we weren't trying, but we weren't avoiding. Well, for about a year now we have been trying, and no go.
I have very regular cycles, and noticeable fertile CM. We have been active during that time, and still nothing. I can't get DH to go to a doctor to get tested, and I know that's the first thing they want to test before testing me.

How would you handle this? I can't understand why God wouldn't want us to have children, we are hapily married, and both have good jobs with good income, and are good Christians - I don't get it - especially when young teens get pregnant, or women on drugs, etc...

 

[annaapple]

There are things you can do to help yourselves which are totally natural. For example, some foods contain more of the vitamins needed for healthy reproductive systems, so you could eat more of them (avocado, sesame seeds, bananas, oysters, to name but a few). Avoid meat treated with antibiotics and hormones as this adversely affects male fertility. Drink bottled water if you can afford to as birth control hormones end up in the communal water supplies. Acupuncture is said to help too.

Remember: men often link their manliness to their fertility - it must be really scary for your DH to think it might be him. This is not an issue fo logic, it is an issue of emotion.

Keep praying! And don't fall into the trap of thinking God is punishing you or something. Both our many blessings and our tougher times are 'undeserved'.

 

[Sabertooth]

I've been using Billings for about 2 years now. For a few months we weren't trying, but we weren't avoiding. Well, for about a year now we have been trying, and no go.
I have very regular cycles, and noticeable fertile CM. We have been active during that time, and still nothing. I can't get DH to go to a doctor to get tested, and I know that's the first thing they want to test before testing me.

How would you handle this? I can't understand why God wouldn't want us to have children, we are hapily married, and both have good jobs with good income, and are good Christians - I don't get it - especially when young teens get pregnant, or women on drugs, etc...

If you are both healthy that way, it just boils down to His overall call on your lives and, if children are to be part of that call, His timing. Perhaps He has things planned for your lives where children wouldn't fit right now...

 

[lovesdolphins]

maybe so - but how do I know? I want to be a mother soo badly it hurts. I see other women with their babies, and it just hurts that it hasn't happened with us.

 

[-~Truth_N_Trust~-]

lovesdolphins, it is so hard watching other people have children so easily and wondering why not me? I broke down in tears at the news of my friend giving birth, I was so happy for her but greiving that it wasn't us too...

My DH also refused to get tested, turns out it was me anyway, for him i think it was more the process involved, he didn't feel comfortable providing a sample for them if you know what I mean... I would still probably go and speak to a doctor/specialist, and see what they say, you and DH don't HAVE to take any tests, but just to listen to what options they can offer you...

How would you handle this? I can't understand why God wouldn't want us to have children,

I prayed about it a lot, tried to distract myself, poured my heart out to God. I came to the conviction that even if I never had children that God still had a plan for me - and I would still praise Him. I also used the time that we were trying to focus on God, my thinking was that it was an opportunity to become more of the person God wanted me to be before any children came along and what a gift to those children, a gift that people who fall pg by accident might not get to give... I don't know if any of that rambling helps, there are always bad days, some harder than others, God will sustain you and bring you through for His good purpose, and don't give up!!
praying for you...

 

[jgonz]

The first thing that hits me is that it's just plain not G-d's timing yet. Waiting is hard, and I totally understand. After the death of our 3rd child, I wanted a baby SOOO badly... but G-d was saying nothing to me. I had to work through it and wait for His timing. It was Extremely hard, but it was worth the wait.

 

[RedTulipMom]

I've been using Billings for about 2 years now. For a few months we weren't trying, but we weren't avoiding. Well, for about a year now we have been trying, and no go.
I have very regular cycles, and noticeable fertile CM. We have been active during that time, and still nothing. I can't get DH to go to a doctor to get tested, and I know that's the first thing they want to test before testing me.

How would you handle this? I can't understand why God wouldn't want us to have children, we are hapily married, and both have good jobs with good income, and are good Christians - I don't get it - especially when young teens get pregnant, or women on drugs, etc...

God knows more than we do and he doesnt automatically get all woman pregnant just because they are Christian. I was infertile for 15 yrs. I kept praying and hoping and kept leaving it in God's hands. In his perfect timing he opened my womb to give me luke at age 34 and now another baby is due 3 yrs later. I dont know all the reasons why. My advice..dont question it or doubt it..just accept whatever God has for you whether its a baby 9 mos from now or 9 yrs from now...he DOES know BEST!

 

[RedTulipMom]

maybe so - but how do I know? I want to be a mother soo badly it hurts. I see other women with their babies, and it just hurts that it hasn't happened with us.

i remember the hurt. i remember feeling the same way..do yourself a favor..dont torture yourself..i did for 15 yrs. Move on with life and trust in God and his timing. And remember..Gods delays are not Gods denials. never give up hope.

 

[teishpriest]

I lost two babies before my daughter was born. It was hard for me to get pregnant after the first miscarriage. I remember looking at all the pregnant, unmarried teen girls around me at church and wondering why God would give them a baby, but not me. It was really hard, but finally I was able to accept that God may never give us a child.

Thankfully, my story turned out happily and God blessed us with children.

There is nothing wrong with your grief over not having any children yet. Keep relying on God for your strength though this! I'm sending up a prayer for you!

BTW, I went to a Naturopath who helped me improve my diet and used supplements to get my hormones balanced back out. You may want to consider it. Regardless, it never hurts to improve our health!

 

[PiddlePuss]

How would you handle this? I can't understand why God wouldn't want us to have children, we are hapily married, and both have good jobs with good income, and are good Christians - I don't get it - especially when young teens get pregnant, or women on drugs, etc...

Ummmm. It doesn't really matter if you understand why God doesn't want you to have kids. Clearly He doesn't and you should work on accepting this FACT.

FACE IT - GOD LOVES ADDICTS AND TEENS MORE THAN YOU.

Wow. Humbling, huh.

 

[sweetangelmum]

I just have to think baby and I am pregnant so I am sorry that you are having issues. My doctor said I couldn't have kids how wrong was he.

 

[Cynsing]

God knows more than we do and he doesnt automatically get all woman pregnant just because they are Christian. I was infertile for 15 yrs. I kept praying and hoping and kept leaving it in God's hands. In his perfect timing he opened my womb to give me luke at age 34 and now another baby is due 3 yrs later. I dont know all the reasons why. My advice..dont question it or doubt it..just accept whatever God has for you whether its a baby 9 mos from now or 9 yrs from now...he DOES know BEST!

Wow. This helped alot. My husband and I have been married for almost 6 years and we have never done anything to prevent getting or to get pregnant. But, oh how we want children. My husband is 11 years older than me and was ready for children when we got together (I was too!). I realize God knows best and at times I am glad we don't have kids because we struggle many times just getting the bills paid. But other times... wanting children is all I think about. My friend had a baby on January 4...and she asked me and DH to be God-Parents. She is so precious and adorable...I am so glad to be her God-Mom but sometimes I wish I was just plain old "Mom"!
And like I was trying to say....Thanks your post really encouraged me.!