Maybe Weird?

[acousticjammer]

OKay, so tell me if there's any other single girls that relate to this... I've been finding that I find myself more drawn to older guys before a guy, say around my age. I'm not talking like, 50 year difference, just like 5 to 10. I just can't seem to get interested in guys my own age (18). I'm thinking it might be that i'm drawn in by maybe that they're more experienced, more mature maybe? Let's tie this is there as well, what is a over the top age gap between a couple? I guess i'm just pawning for peoples two cents! Thanks all <><

 

[GodsJewel]

It isn't unusual for women to be interested in older men. Women mature faster than men and most likely you feel like the men your age are still immature.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

not me, i guess i felel too young at heart I dunno

 

[enelya_taralom]

I like older guys aswell. Or at least my own age. I don't think I have ever been attracted to or interested in someone younger, though getting guys interested in me is another story.... . I think the reasons Godsjewel gave are bang on. On top of the maturity thing, I also think there's the whole aspect of "wanting to be rescued" / "taken care of" that even the strongest of women seem to want (though they may not admit it ). Funny though, my Mom dated guys older than her, except one guy and she wound up marrying him

 

[invisiblebabe]

Don't take this question the wrong way... but how is your relationship with your father?

 

[acousticjammer]

It's okay I guess. We clash alot though because we're so much alike and we usually want our own way.

 

[progressivegal]

Girls seem to mature faster than guys. I've always been attracted to older men. My Fiance is almost 7 years older than I am. College age guys can be VERY immature (not saying they all are) and I wasn't really ever interested in that. I dated one last year and it ended in disaster. He left me to go back to his ex and didn't bother to tell me that!

 

[SmackYouTwice]

I like older guys... I don't know my father, have never met him. *shrugs*

Totally hit it on the maturity thing! Altho, SOMETIMES... hehe!

 

[InTheFlame]

Just make sure you're not after a father figure or someone to 'rescue' you. Because women are meant to leave their fathers eventually, and a 'knight in shining armour' will soon get sick of a needy, dependent woman.

Otherwise... women often do mature (in SOME areas) faster than men, so don't stress too much. Try to work out what it is about particular guys that you find attractive (look for the spiritual stuff in particular). Are they confident? Do they trust God better? Are they secure in God's love? etc.

 

[KristiXP]

It's not weird at all. Guys mature about 2 years behind girls, and I've seen it. I cannot date guys my age at all because they act like they are teenagers. I'm all for a guy who can be goofy and fun, but not constantly immature. I tend to go for guys about 2 to 8 years older than myself. I'd rather be with a guy who owns his own house, pays his own bills, etc... That shows me that he is mature enough to eventually support me. And is mature enough for me to date.

 

[Bunnaroo]

Ohfercryinoutloud!

As a professional mathematician, I find it very distressing that we try to define a person with a single number. I discovered this phenomenon when I started hearing about weight issues for gals. They complained about needing to shed 10 pounds, and I wondered to myself, "Where? Between your ears?" I ran into a woman who was denied life insurance because she was only five feet tall and weighed 255 pounds. What the underwriter didn't know is that she is a professional bodybuilder, and in better shape than people in the "normal" range.

My son, The Cub, is 17 months old. He weighs over 30 pounds and is a few inches short of a yard tall. He wears a size 8 shoe, which is what an above-average 3-year-old wears. He's a huge kid, in the third quartile for his age. If you saw him in person, you would easily assume him to be 2-3 years old. The tip-off that he's not that old? He lacks fluent verbal skills.

Age is also a number. It is a measure of the time since you were delivered. It makes no measurement of the quality of those years. (And don't you try to define that in a single number either!) I have met some very inexperienced 40-year-olds, and some quite wise 25-year-olds. Be attracted to what you're attracted to, and don't worry about what's on his driver's license.

 

[MetalBlade]

woo, woo, wait a minute! lol! Not all guys mature at young ages. I am 21 and I am mature. I think 5 years isn't to bad, but I think ten is way to old. You lived in different decades, so I guess I just see that as odd.

 

[Athalia]

eh, my cousin just married someone 5 or was it 6? years older then her. and she is very happy. my aunt married a guy younger then her, and they have been married for 11 years and are happy. My parents are the same age married for 26 years and are happy. my uncle married a girl 20 years young then him and they have two kids been married for like 6 years and are happy. Me I have been intrested in someone 7 years older then me.. and now I am sooo into someone 1 1/2 years older then me..... Age doesn't matter, who knows who you will fall in love with?? simply trust in God, and pray that He leads you to the right man - not age group. and you will be joyous in your life.

 

[KristiXP]

woo, woo, wait a minute! lol! Not all guys mature at young ages. I am 21 and I am mature. I think 5 years isn't to bad, but I think ten is way to old. You lived in different decades, so I guess I just see that as odd.

You're an exception hun! Lol, no, not all guys mature at a slower level than girls, but unfortunatly for me, that's all I've seen in guys I have dated...

 

[Athalia]

its not that they mature slower, I don't agree with that. A serious relationship puts a lot pressure on a responsible guy - I mean, no matter what, he is going to be thinking - if we get married then am I capable of supporting a family give guys time to find sure footing dont rush em. The good ones are going to feel like that.