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Not really sure where to post this article but I found it interesting for singles on the market.
I had the most interesting conversation the other day after Mass with a younger-than-me man. He was sharing his experiences of dating younger-than-him women and how deeply shocked they are by opinions that run contrary to those they have been taught at secondary school and/or university. I mentioned my own self-defeating beliefs as a young woman, and how long it took me to get a clue. We agreed that—whoever the mediators might be—the devil is very interested in driving men and women apart.
My interlocutor told me that one current phenomenon is that of men not wanting to approach women at all because women now think any such self-introduction is “creepy.” And initially I was sad about that because men have always approached women and that is how society always used to be. But then I remembered what it was like to be a woman under 25, and how wary I could be when men approached me. And then I recalled the truth that not all degrees of men have always been permitted to approach all degrees of women.
In fact, in 1826, if a poor stranger introduced himself to the daughter of a wealthy family on the street, or in a bank, or somewhere like that, there would have been a heck of a fuss. (I’m imagining the young lady’s attending maid whacking him with an umbrella .) And I’m not so sure that wasn’t the case in 1926, too. And even if a gentleman and a lady were of the same social class, the interested gentleman was expected to find someone who would consent to introducing him to the lady. And even if they were both of humble origins, the lady’s relations might take a violent interest in this bloke who was pestering “our Jane.” So, really, the norm is a mediator between man and woman, even if that mediator is an online dating service.
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I had the most interesting conversation the other day after Mass with a younger-than-me man. He was sharing his experiences of dating younger-than-him women and how deeply shocked they are by opinions that run contrary to those they have been taught at secondary school and/or university. I mentioned my own self-defeating beliefs as a young woman, and how long it took me to get a clue. We agreed that—whoever the mediators might be—the devil is very interested in driving men and women apart.
My interlocutor told me that one current phenomenon is that of men not wanting to approach women at all because women now think any such self-introduction is “creepy.” And initially I was sad about that because men have always approached women and that is how society always used to be. But then I remembered what it was like to be a woman under 25, and how wary I could be when men approached me. And then I recalled the truth that not all degrees of men have always been permitted to approach all degrees of women.
In fact, in 1826, if a poor stranger introduced himself to the daughter of a wealthy family on the street, or in a bank, or somewhere like that, there would have been a heck of a fuss. (I’m imagining the young lady’s attending maid whacking him with an umbrella .) And I’m not so sure that wasn’t the case in 1926, too. And even if a gentleman and a lady were of the same social class, the interested gentleman was expected to find someone who would consent to introducing him to the lady. And even if they were both of humble origins, the lady’s relations might take a violent interest in this bloke who was pestering “our Jane.” So, really, the norm is a mediator between man and woman, even if that mediator is an online dating service.
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May I introduce? - Mrs McLean's Waltzing Party
I had the most interesting conversation the other day after Mass with a younger-than-me man. He was sharing his experiences of dating younger-than-him women and how deeply shocked they are […]
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