Materialistic help

[BRDispatch05]

Hey, it just kicked me in the butt tonight how far away from god i have been because i was so focused on materialistic things, wanting people to like me, and other things diverting my attention. It hit me hard, but i guess it is a good thing. I have some friends that want to help me, and it is a great feeling knowing that i have people that want to help me. But is this something i have to figure out on my own? I've had this hurdle a few times, and had a very hard time overcoming it on my own. What usually happened anyways is that i started getting into the mode of materialism again, and i wanted people to like me so much, that I lost myself in the process. Even though i would much rather have people next to me through this, i feel selfish asking them to help me. Was it the right idea to ask them to help me? And what are suggestions/ideas that have helped you stay more focused on God than materialistic things for a long period of time? Thanks for any advice

Brad

 

[BRDispatch05]

Anybody?

 

[New_Wineskin]

I keep the communication going with the Lord all day long .

 

[eddy67]

The answer to this is to put Christ's Word at the center of your life. Immerse yourself in the Word constantly, and seek to genuinely grow closer to him. The more immersed you are in the Word, the more you will understand *why* this is so wrong, and that God is explicit about what He wants from us. Read the bible everyday. It will aid you in all ways.

There's nothing wrong with wanting people to like you. But when you start succumbing to peer pressure is when things get hairy. One thing you have to realize is that true friends like you for who you are. Just be yourself and stop trying to please everybody.

And there's nothing wrong with asking for help. It's good that you realized that you had problems and needed assistance.

I hope this helps, I'll pray for you
God bless
Ed

 

[BRDispatch05]

The answer to this is to put Christ's Word at the center of your life. Immerse yourself in the Word constantly, and seek to genuinely grow closer to him. The more immersed you are in the Word, the more you will understand *why* this is so wrong, and that God is explicit about what He wants from us. Read the bible everyday. It will aid you in all ways.

There's nothing wrong with wanting people to like you. But when you start succumbing to peer pressure is when things get hairy. One thing you have to realize is that true friends like you for who you are. Just be yourself and stop trying to please everybody.

And there's nothing wrong with asking for help. It's good that you realized that you had problems and needed assistance.

I hope this helps, I'll pray for you
God bless
Ed

Thank you so much guys. I'm taking your advice, and im going to make it a point to read the bible every day..thanks again

Brad

 

[New_Wineskin]

That's just great ... going from materialistic to legalistic . Is that really an improvement ?

 

[BRDispatch05]

That's just great ... going from materialistic to legalistic . Is that really an improvement ?

I don't really consider it legalistic..Most of the people here read the bible every day, and it's not because they are forced to, and is it really a bad thing? Now, with all honesty, what would you suggest then wineskin?

 

[joyinhim]

Hey, it just kicked me in the butt tonight how far away from god i have been because i was so focused on materialistic things, wanting people to like me, and other things diverting my attention. It hit me hard, but i guess it is a good thing. I have some friends that want to help me, and it is a great feeling knowing that i have people that want to help me. But is this something i have to figure out on my own? I've had this hurdle a few times, and had a very hard time overcoming it on my own. What usually happened anyways is that i started getting into the mode of materialism again, and i wanted people to like me so much, that I lost myself in the process. Even though i would much rather have people next to me through this, i feel selfish asking them to help me. Was it the right idea to ask them to help me? And what are suggestions/ideas that have helped you stay more focused on God than materialistic things for a long period of time? Thanks for any advice

Brad

God bless you Brad! It's very difficult for young people not to be a materialistic. Nowadays our culture is materialistic. i believe if we keep read NT time disciples' life styles we can learn a lot from them.

We can start by being frugal in every which ways. if you have grand parents they can teach you to be frugal. There are so many things to change for young people to be non-materialistic.

 

[Sketcher]

Brad, do you have Christian friends around you? True friends? If so, asking them to help you was the best thing to do, because they can tell you when you're overstepping your bounds with people and help you with this. Sometimes those who really want people to like them are in fact the most annoying. If they see that you honestly want to be a good friend, not annoying or fake, then perhaps they can help you out.

On the side, you may want to listen to hardcore music and let it influence you. Christian stuff like No Innocent Victim, Point of Recognition, Nailed Promise. The whole premise behind hardcore is being who you are, being comfortable with yourself, and strong by yourself. "Posing" - being fake - is the ultimate sin in this subculture. This worked for me. Don't try to impress people. Just be yourself and be comfortable with being yourself. If you don't like the music, that's okay - at least adopt the attitude. It's not one of hatred, it's one of strength and security. If any of this seems confusing, PM me.

 

[joyinhim]

I don't really consider it legalistic..Most of the people here read the bible every day, and it's not because they are forced to, and is it really a bad thing? Now, with all honesty, what would you suggest then wineskin?

I am very sure Jesus is very proud of your attitude. Way to go.

 

[BRDispatch05]

Brad, do you have Christian friends around you? True friends? If so, asking them to help you was the best thing to do, because they can tell you when you're overstepping your bounds with people and help you with this. Sometimes those who really want people to like them are in fact the most annoying. If they see that you honestly want to be a good friend, not annoying or fake, then perhaps they can help you out.

On the side, you may want to listen to hardcore music and let it influence you. Christian stuff like No Innocent Victim, Point of Recognition, Nailed Promise. The whole premise behind hardcore is being who you are, being comfortable with yourself, and strong by yourself. "Posing" - being fake - is the ultimate sin in this subculture. This worked for me. Don't try to impress people. Just be yourself and be comfortable with being yourself. If you don't like the music, that's okay - at least adopt the attitude. It's not one of hatred, it's one of strength and security. If any of this seems confusing, PM me.

Wow. I'm so overwhelmed with everyones kindness..But actually, i have a couple good christian friends. I just met them recently and they are wanting to help me, so i am very lucky to have found them..It's very ackward though, because even though i am trying, it's still hard to act myself around them. I'm hoping that i'll ease up around them, but like with everyone else, i just don't want to mess it up.
I am very close to the music i listen to, but i will give your music a try, nothing wrong with that. Thank again everyone

Brad

 

[covenantwmn]

Right on Brad, draw close to Him, He will draw close to you. I like your heart, He will honor your desire to better serve Him.

 

[covenantwmn]

Right on Brad, draw close to Him, He will draw close to you. I like your heart, He will honor your desire to better serve Him.

 

[flyingsum0]

My prayers are with you Brad!

 

[scrauto]

I would just remind you that pray doesnt have to happen just at bedtime, its always good to pray as soon as something pops in your head to pray about. Pray throughout the day keeps me from buying material things I dont need