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Masturbation

Is masturbation ok or not?

  • Yes, masturbation is ok.

  • No, masturbation is not ok.

  • I don't know/Other.


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LaurelP128

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Didn't read all the posts, but I figured I'd chime in. I voted No, Masturbation is not okay. I agree with what a lot of people have been saying about it being okay as long as it's separate from lust but I feel like might be easy at first, but will present problems. And if you're used to doing it, when you are lusting it might seem like the easy thing to do..

Paul also speaks about self control and if this is something you'll end up becoming addicted to and loosing control over; that's not good. I also think that it separates me from God, and in my heart I feel it's wrong if there's any worth to that haha

I do appreciate what someone said about people's guilt about it being worse than the problem, and that's definitely something to consider

With all that said I guess I haven't really researched any health benefits.. and as a women, I might not fully understand the benefits of the release for men.. but if you're able to prayerfully restrain it'll probably make you stronger, and closer to God which is always good :)
 
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I have not hurt anyone, damaged anything, or offended anyone by engaging in the act in the privacy of the home. The act is completely and totally fine, despite one's interpretations and feelings on the bible. But this is obviously just an opinion.
 
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Just thought I'd throw out that this topic has been brought up a million times over the years. Why not go look at those threads and comment.

With that said:

Masturbation is the stimulation of a sexual organ to the point of pleasure. Duh. The act of masturbating is a form of sex. Kinda like oral sex, etc. only it's sex with self. Since its a form of sex (you can disagree), it carries the burden of Gods point of view about sex. Sex should be performed inside a marriage between husband and wife (that are married to each other). Outside of that, god considers it a sin to have sexual stimulation by a person or object (including hands)

I disagree that it can be done outside of lust. Somewhere down the road, a person realizes that the opposite sex motivates them. And since we are the microwave generation, it becomes usefull.

God says to have clean hands, and pure hearts. Conviction from the holy spirit caused me to conclude that this is not an area that I can be involved in.

I honestly am not going to stand before god, and say "those people said it was ok" when he asks why I masturbated.

So do us a favor:
Ask god to show you the truth, pray about it, and let the bible be the truth in your life. Not someone else's opinion that is motivated by self (flesh). It's not worth it


Thought I was a little harsh --- that's just the absence of sugar coated answers. It's called unadulterated. And it's good for you
 
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I have not hurt anyone, damaged anything, or offended anyone by engaging in the act in the privacy of the home. The act is completely and totally fine, despite one's interpretations and feelings on the bible. But this is obviously just an opinion.

You have no idea how many people have been offended. Not only your future relationships but your relationship with God. I think you should watch this video, it will explain things much better than I can (especially early in the morning :muahah:) -

Sinful Views of Sin - YouTube

God bless you! :)

If you don't want to watch the entire thing, btw, just go to 5:25 ;)

:wave:
 
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Although I don't want to justify the action of masturbation itself, whether lust is involved or not, I'm still at the point where I think it's OK and even possible to do it without any lust being a part of it. I may be very wrong, however. I claim to derive no biblical authority backing my post here, this is just my opinion. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
 
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Although I don't want to justify the action of masturbation itself, whether lust is involved or not, I'm still at the point where I think it's OK and even possible to do it without any lust being a part of it. I may be very wrong, however. I claim to derive no biblical authority backing my post here, this is just my opinion. Please correct me if I'm wrong.

Scripture itself supports it. Whether or not we choose to see that as reality and accept it, that's another story, and another topic in itself. And I guess that's the real issue with these threads about masturbation. We talk about masturbation as if it's the root issue involved. But it's not, rebellion is the real issue; rebellion against gods word and his love for us.

You can disagree, that's your privilege. But that's the truth. Everything is caused by 1 or more of the 3 R's (rebellion, rejection, and the root of bitterness)
 
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I am on the fence. I agree that it leads to lust and I dont think anyone can engage in the act without being aroused. I have never had the urge to do it when I am not aroused.

An example I wanted to give was what if we are talking about someone who is married and is away on work and misses their spouse? Is it still a sin if they are thinking about the one they are married to?
 
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I can think of one reason. The bible was written by men was it not? The Apostles were men, were they not?

Imagine some thing like this, Peter, Paul, James, Luke, Matthew, and Mark and other Apostles too are discussing what they should be addressing to new Christians..

Ok guys, lets make a list shall we.

1. Fornication

all in favor say aye!(every one says aye at once)

2. Homosexuality say aye (slowly every one says aye)

Peter, I did not hear you say aye?

Peter: I said aye! You just did not hear me!

Ok then moving along,

3. Worshiping false idols (all ayes!)
4. Baptism (all eyes)
5. masturbating (room is silent)

I said masturbating! (still silent)

Come on guys whats it going to be here?

Peter starts to speak but is interrupted by Matthew, any one else besides Peter?

Luke speaks up, as a physician I see no harm in it, not that I do it, I would never do it, but speaking as a physician only.

Room is silent every one looks around each other.

Ok then perhaps we can come back to this one..


I laughed quite a bit when I read this. Haha thank you.
 
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Didn't read all the posts, but I figured I'd chime in. I voted No, Masturbation is not okay. I agree with what a lot of people have been saying about it being okay as long as it's separate from lust but I feel like might be easy at first, but will present problems. And if you're used to doing it, when you are lusting it might seem like the easy thing to do..

Paul also speaks about self control and if this is something you'll end up becoming addicted to and loosing control over; that's not good. I also think that it separates me from God, and in my heart I feel it's wrong if there's any worth to that haha

I do appreciate what someone said about people's guilt about it being worse than the problem, and that's definitely something to consider

With all that said I guess I haven't really researched any health benefits.. and as a women, I might not fully understand the benefits of the release for men.. but if you're able to prayerfully restrain it'll probably make you stronger, and closer to God which is always good :)


I didn't read everything either! That would take two days!

I voted for YES, masturbation is fabuloso! I am 26, and have been well, have been exploring myself for a long long time..around puberty or before.

I think it is ok to be comfortable with your body. As far as lust goes, well you are on your own to determine what is ok and what isn't. It's one of those thin lines about "who" you are thinking about.

Has it become a problem in my life? NO WAY! If anything it has made me a better lover. I wasn't sexually active until I was 24..which is unheard of now days. I don't touch solo much at all now that I am in a monogamous committed relationship, but during sex kinda two things at once...I get that pleasure because I know how my body responds to stimuli...and he feels great knowing we both are getting the max out of our expression of love.

Being open and honest with your lover is important. Sex in marriages are more important than some churchs lead you to believe. What goes on in your bedroom is not anybody's business. (unless you have someone tied up against their will lol)

I believe a lot of marriages suffer from fear of masturbation, switching positions, role playing, using toys, or even watching pornography together. If you are doing those things together why is it bad? Why is it wrong to lust for your love?

And I know people will freak out about the porn thing, but really we are not addicted, we don't do it more than a few times a month just to get ideas and spice it up. We do not lust for others. And I would rather watch it with him than tell him NO and he goes and watches it alone. (besides guys really love it when their gals watch it with them..I work with guys and I have heard this many times)

I'm not saying all porn is ok, but use your discretion cause there is some crazy disgusting things! It's not for everyone.....but to demonize us who have no addiction or problems in our relationship from it is silly.

To sum it up, it is perfectly natural to explore yourself. Don't let it consume your life, which you can do with anything. But when it comes to your love life it would behoove you as a couple to explore yourselves together. In turn you will be closer intimately, and your relationship will improve out of the bedroom as well.
 
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You have no idea how many people have been offended. Not only your future relationships but your relationship with God. I think you should watch this video, it will explain things much better than I can (especially early in the morning :muahah:) -

God bless you! :)

If you don't want to watch the entire thing, btw, just go to 5:25 ;)

:wave:


Well I wouldn't say the video offended me, but I do not agree with everything..but he had some good things to say.

I found it rather amusing how his background said to some variation What Christians Should Believe...

Now that is left to debate....Should I let someone TELL me how my relationship with God should be?

As far as masturbation goes I still am on the same stance. When he spoke of past relations, specifically sexual..I won't lie yeah it effects your partner. I waited for years, and my heart was severely broken by a man luckily I did NOT sleep with..but as a result I lost faith that I would ever find someone as amazing as I have now...

So a result of that lack of faith I gave up. Convinced myself "he" was the one...went downhill from there.

But I did find the one I am going to marry and we are very very happy. He has his sexual past, I have mine. It has cause some tension on both ends but we worked through it as it was in the past. Meeting him brought back to reality. Our relationship has made me so happy, and I would not change anything.

The past is the past, I ask for forgiveness for my loss of faith and reckless behavior to my heart.

I am blessed with my love now, and am happy with how we express our love in and outside closed doors.
 
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Do you see masturbation as a sin or not or maybe you don't know? Please vote in my poll and discuss.

I do not believe masturbation to be a sin.

READ YOUR BIBLE!
Trust me i battled with the same question and as much as i would like to say its not... it IS!

Masturbation IS a form of fornication! It is a sexual act outside of the body plus masturbation is an act also of self worship. It is an act of gratifying the flesh and pleasing the natural senses. It is not godly and frankly it is demonic. (Regardless if you wanna believe in that or not).

It is a sin!
 
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