Masturbation......(common isn't it???)

[Shizzle]

Imagine this scenario here with an open mind: God is looking at all the posts on this topic, and hes saddened by how his followers obsess and waste their time over fighting a physical bodily function, and how many christians end up with a 50% higher chance of getting prostate cancer

Sadly, we cannot debate here , but we can debate here: http://www.christianforums.com/t1402263-why-do-you-think-its-wrong.html

 

[PetertheRock]

Just read Pope John Paul II's Theology of the Body and it will explain why masturbation is wrong. It will change your life no matter what denomination you are.

 

[*Lana*]

I have had struggles with touching yourself for a long time. I started when I was like 13 and didn't stop until about 2 weeks ago, cause it took me so long figure out it could ruin my future marriage. I want my marriage to be blessed and healthy. PLus I had to gain SELF_CONTROL. < this is hard to gain, but anything is possible with CHRIST JESUS . I am proud that I can say I do not do anymore. I hoped I gave good advice to everyone

 

[L.East08]

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[oat02351]

:o I have to admit that I have but, am in the process of quitting. It's hard to stop once you start.
why don't we all pray for eachother?
Lord, help us to quit and to be more holy. Please cleanse us of our sins. Thank you Lord for being present and blessing us as you have in the past and for the blessings that we will recieve in the future. We are ever grateful.
Amen

 

[wingcross]

conclusion:
touching yourself doesnt honour God.

yes.. pray for each other.. encourage them.

 

[janny108]

I have had struggles with touching yourself for a long time. I started when I was like 13 and didn't stop until about 2 weeks ago, cause it took me so long figure out it could ruin my future marriage. I want my marriage to be blessed and healthy. PLus I had to gain SELF_CONTROL. < this is hard to gain, but anything is possible with CHRIST JESUS . I am proud that I can say I do not do anymore. I hoped I gave good advice to everyone

Yea Lana!!!!
Jan

 

[TheMainException]

Since first writing this thread, I've grown, maybe I've grown wiser, maybe I've grown more wordly, I am not sure....but I say this now:


touching yourself is sex.....with yourself....I do not see anything wrong with it if you get hot....then touch....get it out....if you are TRYING to get hot...then it's just not right (in my eyes)...for those who are debating....go debate elsewhere....it's not to debate....it's just to talk about.....how you feel about it, your struggles, whether you think it's fine or not.

 

[Marie D]

Since first writing this thread, I've grown, maybe I've grown wiser, maybe I've grown more wordly, I am not sure....but I say this now:


touching yourself is sex.....with yourself....I do not see anything wrong with it if you get hot....then touch....get it out....if you are TRYING to get hot...then it's just not right (in my eyes)...for those who are debating....go debate elsewhere....it's not to debate....it's just to talk about.....how you feel about it, your struggles, whether you think it's fine or not.

The Devil sends us many temptations. If we are strong in spirit and do not let those temptations get a hold of us, but instead devote ourselves to Godly thoughts and actions, the Devil loses. If we give in to temptation, he wins.

So if you "get hot" IMHO you should NEVER give in but instead should turn your mind to something positive instead. Give in and those temptations will only become stronger and more powerful and you could end up as a slave to them.

Finally, you have yourself admitted that M is sex with yourself. The Bible tells us that God created marriage for the satisfaction of such urges. Pursuing them outside of marriage is adultery and that is a sin.

 

[Chajara]

I think people simply think too much about masturbation. I'm on birth control which kills my sex drive so I don't do it much anymore, but on the rare occasion that I do "get hot" I can't concentrate on much of anything until I take care of it. Then it's right back to not thinking about sex again. Masturbating once has never made me want to go back and repeatedly touch just for the sake of masturbating. If the urge is taken care of it's taken care of. It's all a matter of how strong your sex drive is.

 

[frogalone]

I'm well beyond my young years, but I'm healthy and still have the drive, tho' not as frequently as in my youth. My husband is chronically ill and takes 13 perscription medications; after 3-4 years of not being touched by him sexually, masterbutation has once again become a struggle for me. I'm not sure if it's sin or not, but I'm glad that Jesus forgives because I do it on occassion.
I didn't realize it's an issue for so many of my gender

 

[considering]

The Devil sends us many temptations. If we are strong in spirit and do not let those temptations get a hold of us, but instead devote ourselves to Godly thoughts and actions, the Devil loses. If we give in to temptation, he wins.

So if you "get hot" IMHO you should NEVER give in but instead should turn your mind to something positive instead. Give in and those temptations will only become stronger and more powerful and you could end up as a slave to them.

Finally, you have yourself admitted that M is sex with yourself. The Bible tells us that God created marriage for the satisfaction of such urges. Pursuing them outside of marriage is adultery and that is a sin.

I think people simply think too much about masturbation. I'm on birth control which kills my sex drive so I don't do it much anymore, but on the rare occasion that I do "get hot" I can't concentrate on much of anything until I take care of it. Then it's right back to not thinking about sex again. Masturbating once has never made me want to go back and repeatedly touch just for the sake of masturbating. If the urge is taken care of it's taken care of. It's all a matter of how strong your sex drive is.

The devil does not make us get hot. Getting hot is not a form of temptations by the devil; getting hot is regulated by the body's normal hormonal and chemical functions. If the devil made you get hot, this means that taking birth control fights the devil, but only God's Word can fight against Satan. Birth control cannot fight Satan, therefore getting hot is not from Satan.

There is no reason to feel guilt for something that is not evil. The body was made to have sex. Indulgence is evil because it leads to one concern only: self-gratification above all other desires. If all you care about is self-gratification, you will have an addiction for the thing that satisfies you, and you will cease to care about anything else. Such behavior is destructive and leads to severe depression.

However, when you eat, are you addicted to the food? Are you eating because you only care about your own self-gratification? No. Your body gets hungry; you eat to satisfy your hunger. Being hungry is like getting hot. If you are hungry, do you deny the food because you might enjoy it too much or get addicted to it? No. Why should you deny your sexual needs? But, you should still wait for marrige to have sex because sex outside of marrige is risky and leads to failure more often than not. The best way is to wait for marriage.

 

[backagain]

Nice to see some honest talk about this subject.

We all have to remember that in reality, we are all sexual beings, made that way by

our creator.

This is where I believe most of the struggle lies.

We all want to do what is right, by God or whomever, but being a natural function of our beings (masturbation), especially when we start to hit puberty, it can be scary, mind and time consuming, because of just how powerful this feeling can be.

I would suggest to keep praying for Gods help in dealing with these God, given, feelings, we all, who are healthy (thank God), experience.

God Bless you all.

 

[backagain]

Hello everyone,

I am brand new here. I came here because I need your help. I typed "Christian teen forum" on Google and look where I am!

Lately I've been struggling with masturbation, but not how you would think. My problem is that I do not touch much at all - maybe once or twice a month, and not to pornography. My problem is that I seem to get 'wet dreams' once or twice a month as well, and I am almost 18 years old! I used to touch quite frequently, around 3 or 4 times a week, but I stopped because it was getting ridiculous. That means I stopped looking at pornography, which is something I struggled with.

My problem is that these wet dreams are annoying, embarassing, and seemingly preventable if I would just "release my built-up tension" by masturbating semi-regularly, which I don't, and so it seems I have quite erotic fantasies in my sleep and have wet dreams.

I feel like I'm stuck, I mean, I don't want to start looking at pornography again and get suckered into that trap, but I also am sick of having wet dreams caused by a lack of masturbation. Experts say males sexual urges peak around 19 years old, so I feel like I am "stifling" my body and forcing it to release in my sleep.

I hope I wasn't being to graphic, and I'm hoping the guys on these boards especially will be able to help me out! BTW, I don't have a girlfriend and am not sexually active although I had oral sex with a girl almost a year ago which I am terribly ashamed of. But I have asked for forgiveness and am at peace with the Lord and myself now.

Thanks a million!

That is exactly the problem we all are struggling with.

Whether or not it is a sin is hard enough, but to struggle against something so powerful, natural, and God given, makes the whole "M" thing painful.

It isn't just coincidence that we start experiencing these "feelings" when we start hitting puberty or growing.

It is a natural process that we all go through, if with Gods good grace, when we are developing naturally and in a health state.

Another thing to consider, if we are going to talk openly and honestly, is that in the past, some 50+ years ago or so, the laws about marriage were a bit different than they are, now-a-days.

Were in the past, most of us would have been married, ((or started to raise a family, and had responsibilities like providing for your family, the farm, etc...)) in our early teen years. Just about the time our bodies hit puberty, in its natural, God given state.

Is it a coincidence that 50 years and prior, this was happening?

Due to the nature of our society, the laws and thinking about marriage, etc... have changed, to where now people have to be older, etc....

Whether this age, responsibility, morals, and marriage ethics are correct or not in its thinking, it still plays a big role in society because we now push off to other areas where in the past we shared with our married partners.

Also remember, that even though society has changed, our bodies natural maturing process hasn't. It makes our natural feelings out of wack with society and that is what I feel in a HUGE PROBLEM with the "M" we have.

God Bless you all

 

[CM]

I still don't see how the "M word" can be a problem, but hey. :s

 

[BondmaidenOfChrist]

Well I'm kinda glad that I not the only girl does "M".I've been strugling on and off with it since I was 12 and my struggle has realy gotten worse in the last 6 months or so.Personaly I think "M" is a sin and I want to stop so bad but I guess I'm addicted.I think whats realy scary is not when you struggle with it but when you simply accept it.It frightens me when I think stuff like 'I did it again.so what?'.Please pray for me.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

It happens.
Don't let it get any of you discouraged.
James Dobson doesn't even have a problem with it.

 

[Marie D]

Well I'm kinda glad that I not the only girl does "M".I've been strugling on and off with it since I was 12 and my struggle has realy gotten worse in the last 6 months or so.Personaly I think "M" is a sin and I want to stop so bad but I guess I'm addicted.I think whats realy scary is not when you struggle with it but when you simply accept it.It frightens me when I think stuff like 'I did it again.so what?'.Please pray for me.

That's why I've never let myself do it - I'm frightened it might become an addiction. IMHO whether M is a sin or not, if you can't stop doing something then it has got control of you and taken away your free will, which can't be healthy.

I know this is easier to say than do but I really think you need to stop, no matter how hard it might seem to do. Just don't let yourself touch 'down there' and it can't happen. I'm praying for you

 

[JosephD3000]

i know girls do it, but i didn't think this many? it's said that 80% of males in the world do it, thats alot, it's alot smaller percentage that females,
probably because our genitals are external, and well, very hard to deal with the tempation, especially when you have warm water in the bathtub, which is my problem,, but girls dont feel things like that, for that they are lucky!

i have been doing it, sadly for about 5 years
my longest of resistence is 2 weeks,

when i started i didn't know what i was doing.
so everyone should pray for all of us power in prayer!!!!

Go Us!!!

yes i agree with God made us this way, we are social creatures, and not all the urges are of the devil, but yes masturbation with sexual images is a sin,
alot of preachers say that masturbation itself isn't sinful, but masturbation with images is.

our urges arent of the devil, but the devil can easily use these urges to his advantage so we should stop, and yes for teens it is harder than the out of teen years, after id say about 19-20 it would die down, so pray for us all especially the teens.

 

[soyness]

sister, you're not hte only one, i struggled with it for many years. it comes on and off, depending on stuff (I dunno).