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BlackSabb

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Ahh, sod it !!!



Hahahaha. Yeah, I saw you got it wrong but I didn't want to say anything. Remember:


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And at the last word of the quote:


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In a big emergency department, it's not a job for dainty, delicate people. And my lecturer was a chain smoking, hard drinking, swearing type of person. So that was a big compliment coming from him.

Okay. Definitely females can be accepted into typically male roles.

I'd argue the same that males are easily accepted into female roles. For instance, some of the most famous hairdressers in my country (yes there are famous hairdressers here!) are actually male. I forget their names now, but I've seen them on tv, anyway, my point is it's not all one way traffic!
 
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Okay. Definitely females can be accepted into typically male roles.

I'd argue the same that males are easily accepted into female roles. For instance, some of the most famous hairdressers in my country (yes there are famous hairdressers here!) are actually male. I forget their names now, but I've seen them on tv, anyway, my point is it's not all one way traffic!


Yes, but they are scorned and derided on the whole. A guy doing a perceived "woman's" job is never seen as a "real man".
 
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Back to your point about the more successful the man, the easier it is for him to display feminine qualities. I'd say that is true (although your David Beckham example was probably poor), but I'd say once you are successful, or even just popular among your peers, you're in a much better position to lead the way and avoid being ridiculed or questioned.
 
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Yes, but they are scorned and derided on the whole. A guy doing a perceived "woman's" job is never seen as a "real man".

Yes, some wouldn't. If the hairdresser has become famous, has typically masculine looks/behaviour, a playboy if you like, amassed himself millions, I dare say he would be accepted by most as a real man.

On the flip side of your argument, some may never see a female bricklayer as a 'real woman'. It works both ways.
 
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I think, in Britain at least, a lot may depend on one's social class and that of one's peers.

A male hairdresser from the British working class would more or less always be branded a "queer" and somewhat suspect by his peers even if he was married or otherwise demonstrably heterosexual.
 
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Cantata, you might be right, but I think *some* people just don't like it when others don't fit into their typical idea of what the genders should be doing.

Perhaps. But I would still argue that the root of that feeling is suspicion of the feminine.

Also, it's probably more of a social no-no to mock a woman, than it is to mock a man (that's not to say females aren't mocked). You can probably probably push the boundaries a bit further when mocking a male. In the same way you can probably get away with mocking white people more than black people. For instance, no one really complained when the film "White men can't jump" was released. I'm not sure if you would have been able to get away with a similar film called "Black men can't swim" without any complaints.

That's because women have had their liberation and women haven't.

"Being a real man" is a credit system!!!! I know this to be true.

Absolutely.

You assume liberals and progressives have won creating a social order. That house of cards is tumbling as nature will not be mocked for long.

Please try to talk sense, PC_F.

The 60's style feminist is well-defined. Who you kidding?

Nope, still irrelevant; try again.

I know the difference between a water buffalo and a gazelle.

Wow, out of the left-field.

Still meaningless babble, though. I look forward to a day when you respond to what a post actually says instead of what you'd like it to say.

Cantata ... it is a truism, but sometimes truisms can be forgotten and it may go some way to explaining certain aspects of masculinity, again with the proviso that one is going to accept the Darwinian construct as applicable to the genetic influence on human behaviour.

Let me try and explain. In primates, it appears that sexual selection is exerted on the male. It seems a pretty safe bet that our closest genetic ancestors were the same. In primates, the alpha male keeps his harem by being able and willing to fight any opponent. He will be absolutely ruthless in this and he must be supremely dominant. No weakness can be shown.
Over generations the genes that code for violent, aggressive, promiscuous and ruthless behaviour will be selected for. "The sins of the father will be visited on the sons".
So for a purely genetic explanation of negative masculine characteristics, if one accepts Darwinian theory as applicable to humans, then that's that.

Where it gets interesting is that humans are conscious and rational beings and have a curious habit of attaching ethical judgements to behaviours and their consequences. If one is going to argue from a strictly determinist standpoint then the instrument we use to make such value judgements (let's call it conscience for now) is "made" by our genetic predisposition and our environment (ie, every single influence, conscious or subconscious that we have experienced from the womb to the present moment). This makes such judgements extremely subjective and calls into question what we actually mean when we say that certain masculine or feminine characterisitcs are positive or negative.

It is also one of the reasons why I can't accept determinism.

I don't think you need to reject determinism with this view unless you think there is some absolute truth to value judgements.

I understand the evolutionary basis for various human characteristics and the way the environment acts on these. However, I see both of these in a deterministic light. I also think the existence of our value judgements does not undermine that view, because I regard our value judgements as subjective and as a product of a determined system.

BTW, this is deeply embarressing, but I don't know how to quote somone else's posts (I know; I'm a retard). If anyone can explain how I do this I would be very grateful.

No offence to BlackSabb, but his instructions were rubbish. :p

To quote your post, I hit the "Quote" button at the bottom of your post, and then I get your post in my edit window with <quote=Oneofthediaspora;49392800> at the beginning and </quote> at the end (with the <>s replaced with []s). The number after the semicolon is the post number. I could omit the post number, and just type <quote=Oneofthediaspora> before your posts, but then the little arrow after "originally posted by Oneofthediaspora", that links to the post I quoted, won't be there.

If you want to put your own remarks between different parts of someone's post, put </quote> (with square brackets instead) after the section you want to address; type your comment after it; and then at the beginning of the next quoted part, cut and paste the <quote=Oneofthediaspora;49392800> from the beginning to the beginning of that part. Wash, rinse, repeat. :)

If you want to quote several posts in one post, you can hit the multiquote button - the one marked "MQ" at the bottom of posts - on every post you want to quote (the button turns red when it's been added to the quote list), and then on the last one, hit the "Quote" button as usual. You will then get an edit window with all of the posts you selected, in the correct quote tags.

An example of what a post should look like, quoted correctly, with comments in between:

<quote=cantata;49392683>Well, obviously, me being me, my answer to this question sums up my response to your whole post:</quote>

La la la.

<quote=cantata;49392683>"The feminine" is considered much less valuable, important, difficult, worthwhile, praiseworthy, &c. than "the masculine".</quote>

La la la laaaaa.

<quote=cantata;49392683>I wonder what your understanding is. :)</quote>

Tadaaaa.
 
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If our value judgements are subjective in what way are they valid?
Or are you saying that they are only valid to you?

If value judgements are a product of a determined system then in what sense are they "our own"? You didn't choose them by any meaningful concept of the verb "to choose".
 
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If our value judgements are subjective in what way are they valid?
Or are you saying that they are only valid to you?

Value judgements have validity in a narrow sense, insofar as they cohere with the rest of our worldview. But I don't consider them to have any absolute validity.

I find that the arguments which move me are those which are centred on the notion of suffering. I tend to think of actions which cause suffering in a negative way. I express my value judgements about those actions in the hope that other people will be moved by my arguments and come to similar conclusions. That's all there is to it. I don't believe that I am right and someone else is wrong (although I may use the language of absolutes to make my position seem more forceful). I know that I have a certain set of feelings about an action X, and others have a different set of feelings about X, and I feel that it is in my interests, albeit indirectly, that they share my feelings about X. That's how I believe ethics works, and how I believe value judgements work.

If value judgements are a product of a determined system then in what sense are they "our own"? You didn't choose them by any meaningful concept of the verb "to choose".

You're right; they are not "our own". We did not choose them. They happen to us.
 
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Wow. I'm going to tread carefully here because I would not like to misrepresent you. If I do that forgive me.
Here's how I'm interpreting your position:

By a series of genetic and environmental accidents over which we have little or no control we develop our ability to evaluate ethically. In very much the same way that a person may develop a preference for tea rather than coffee.
That renders value judgements not merely lacking in absolute validity but lacking in ANY validity except that they satisfy their own arbitrary ethical framework.
That is rather an extreme form of solipsism.

As such, a person has the right to hold such a worldview but it becomes intellectually dishonest for them to try and persuade someone else by means of rational argument even if you do feel that is in your best interests if someone else shares your completely arbitrary feelings about action X. Physical violence would be a bit more honest than rational argument.
 
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Please try to talk sense, PC_F. Nope, still irrelevant; try again. Wow, out of the left-field.

Still meaningless babble, though. I look forward to a day when you respond to what a post actually says instead of what you'd like it to say.

You know you understand my positions perfectly. Women are women and men are men. The 60's feminist movement is a failure.
 
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Wow. I'm going to tread carefully here because I would not like to misrepresent you. If I do that forgive me.
Here's how I'm interpreting your position:

By a series of genetic and environmental accidents over which we have little or no control we develop our ability to evaluate ethically. In very much the same way that a person may develop a preference for tea rather than coffee.
That renders value judgements not merely lacking in absolute validity but lacking in ANY validity except that they satisfy their own arbitrary ethical framework.
That is rather an extreme form of solipsism.

As such, a person has the right to hold such a worldview but it becomes intellectually dishonest for them to try and persuade someone else by means of rational argument even if you do feel that is in your best interests if someone else shares your completely arbitrary feelings about action X. Physical violence would be a bit more honest than rational argument.

You represent my position quite well, but I disagree with your conclusion.

There is nothing dishonest about engaging in rational discussion about problems which are frequently classed as ethical.

I find that a lot of people actually agree about some things that often get classed as ethical issues. Most of us agree that we want to be safe and happy, and that we want our friends and families and those dear to us to be safe and happy also. Since most of us agree about these ends, there is nothing silly in discussing ways to achieve them, especially since most people agree that we can achieve these ends more efficiently if we endeavour to maintain a society which is conducive to them.

Therefore many ethical discussions boil down to discussions of prudence. I say that I feel the most prudent way to deal with the problems of sexually transmitted infections and teenage pregnancy is to teach comprehensive sex education at a young age and allow young people free and non-judgemental access to contraception. Another person might say that they feel the most prudent way to deal with these problems is to teach young people to be abstinent until marriage and strive to retain their innocence with regard to sexual matters for as long as possible. We agree on an end - we all think that it would be best if the instances of teen pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases were reduced. What we disagree about is how to achieve our shared ends. Hence, I would not class this as a strictly ethical discussion, although that's usually what it gets called.

I believe, as I think David Hume did, that each of us has what might be called a subjective motivational set. This is a set of principles, feelings, and inclinations that give us our value-responses to different acts or events. Part of my subjective motivational set is empathy; it upsets me to see other humans being harmed or upset. If someone does not have empathy in their subjective motivational set, there is absolutely nothing that I can do to put it there. No rational argument will get you from a position of not having any empathy to a position of having empathy. The same goes for a sense of justice, a sense of loyalty, &c. These experiences are just feelings. They are not rational. So in a sense, you're right that it's certainly a pointless exercise to try to convince other people that they should have empathy or loyalty or justice if they don't already have it.

However, most ethical discussions start from the assumption that we share the majority of our subjective motivational set with everyone else participating in the discussion. So most of the time, our discussions boil down to prudence.

You know you understand my positions perfectly. Women are women and men are men. The 60's feminist movement is a failure.

But this has Nothing To Do With The Post You Quoted.

Why do you use the quote function if you don't intend to say anything relevant to what you're quoting?
 
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Originally Posted by Polycarp_fan
You know you understand my positions perfectly. Women are women and men are men. The 60's feminist movement is a failure.​

But this has Nothing To Do With The Post You Quoted.

Why do you use the quote function if you don't intend to say anything relevant to what you're quoting?

Men are men and women are women. This is the masculinity thread is it not?

Men are tough and hard and women are soft and curvy.

And if not, that desired outcome is sought most often.

Like I wrote, feminism is a failure.

One death I rejoice.
 
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You know you understand my positions perfectly. Women are women and men are men. The 60's feminist movement is a failure.

So, then you believe in inherent behavioral differences.

Also, you're referring to second wave feminism. It is gone, the third wave has replaced it. You're behind the times.

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Also^2, your definitions are not biblically based, but cultural. Women in biblical times were not usually soft and curvy, as you put it. They would have been tough and weather-beaten, and harder than most men in modern times.
 
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I don't actually know what it means. Possibly a lump of earth or soil.
I don't think it's a profanity.
I hope I didn't offend you.

Mike.

Not quite. I don't insulted too easily in cyber space.

It is profanity of a sorts.

I've been in bands with several British musicians. Sod, bugger, it's rather politically incorrect when you do the historical study.

It's not about a lump of dirt.
 
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So, then you believe in inherent behavioral differences.

Also, you're referring to second wave feminism. It is gone,

The first was a miscarriage, The second was stillborn.

the third wave has replaced it.

You're behind the times.

Of course I'm not. I voted McCain-Palin.

Guns, lipstick and lots of kids.

Yeah baby.
 
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