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Hi there; God bless you guys.My husband is military and when he is in a place where he doesn't like the job he is in or the course he is taking he brings home that negativity..... I pray for him but is there any other advise ???? anything else I can do for him to ease his mind???
Thank you for this!Hi there; God bless you guys.
There are sometimes many, many stresses in connection with the military, but often in military families there is also a lot of solidarity.
Prayer and Scripture reading together can be a great blessing for military couples and families. Psalm 46; John 14; Ephesians 6 (about the whole armour of God), etc. can be great, strengthening passages.
Remember also that some military wives identify very strongly with the military, to the extent even of getting patriotic, family and faith tattoos; a military guy was on another thread her a while ago saying that other military wives have urged his wife to do it. (I would not myself urge anyone to do it; it's ultimately an individual responsibility.)
YWThank you for this!
Hi, Sir; I know that sometimes there is a conflict or at least a creative tension from some satisfying aspects that there may be in a professional role with a public service aspect, and on the other hand the relative isolation that one may go through also because of a lack of close Christian fellowship. I'm Canadian and among members of the Canadian military (unified Canadian Forces, organized differently and much, much smaller than the US military) there can be all sorts of hidden stresses, some of them on the surface nothing to do with the active military environment; but, even excluding those who are serving overseas, for military personnel Canada as a vast country with a relatively small population does indeed sometimes mean a lot of isolation from family and friends and - for Christians - fellowship. I do love John's First Epistle, which has fellowship as a major theme, linked in the Epistle with walking in the light and with the Father and His Son Jesus Christ.I don't that I can offer you any advice really, but I was active duty for 8 years (Reservist now) and truly hated my career field. It was a dark time for me, spiritually. We were stationed overseas and the church was very small there, we didn't get to meet outside of worship very much at all so we didn't have that face to face/heart to heart kind of relationships we needed. Not blaming anyone of course, except maybe myself for not making a stronger effort to make those get togethers happen more often.
Anyway, I do understand the stress of military life and work. It can be really hard to keep your mind out of the negativity and general immorality that sadly is part of the military. But I think @faroukfarouk's advise is wise. Stay prayed up! Have you shared your concern with your husband? Is he also a spiritual person?
Tell him to get out of the infantry and transfer to cavalryMy husband is military and when he is in a place where he doesn't like the job he is in or the course he is taking he brings home that negativity..... I pray for him but is there any other advise ???? anything else I can do for him to ease his mind???
Yeah we are starting that now. Thank you very much for your words!I wouldn't mistake similar tattoos for solidarity. There is a lot of gossip, backbiting, one-uping, etc. in the military spouse world. That's not to say there are no good aspects of the military spouse life, but my wife avoided working with other spouses in the various units I served in for these reasons.
@Valpal1123, where are y'all stationed right now? I would expand on the prayer advise, and find a good church to attend. A lot of churches around military bases have a military ministry/outreach that understand the issues y'all are going through. I'd get involved with a local church rather than in the military spouses groups, same for your husband. There are usually many military members who attend churches around bases.
Yeah we are starting that now. Thank you very much for your words!
From your description, I just assumed...
What about YOUR mind's ease? Frankly IMO it's selfish if not whiny of him to come home and dump it all on you. It's one thing to be understanding and supportive in tough situations, but if he's doing it all the time, he should suck it up and realize life can suck sometimes and get over it. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but sometimes pampering people isn't the answer. Plenty of people not in the military have to be in places or jobs etc they don't like too.My husband is military and when he is in a place where he doesn't like the job he is in or the course he is taking he brings home that negativity..... I pray for him but is there any other advise ???? anything else I can do for him to ease his mind???
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