Married Students

[Cordy]

Both my husband and I are students who decided to get married in the middle of our university education.

I was just wondering if there are other married couples out there who are students (one or both) and how you enjoy married student life.

What are the perks of being a married student?
Does this situation bring any difficulties?

I thought this might be an opportunity to share.

 

[katelyn]

I think being a married student is often easier for the husband than it is for the wife. I'm not saying it's that way all the time, so please don't get mad at me anyone! This is just my experience and what I've observed in some other couples as well.

My husband and I got married right before our senior year (Aug. 2002). I have yet to graduate, and I think it's partly due to being married. It can be hard to balance all the responsibilities, as getting married is a big adjustment. For me, I felt the need to take on most of the household responsibilities as the wife, which meant that my husband had more time for studying (now that he doesn't have to do his own laundry! ) and I had less. And of course, you still have to make time for having fun and just enjoying being married. That's vital in the first year.

I know I'm not painting a very pleasant picture here, but it's not all bad. It's just...a lot to take on.

I'll come back if I can think of anything more positive to say...lol

 

[SomeRandomGuy]

I think that when a couple gets married and both are students, BOTH of their educations are paramount. Not just the husbands and not just the wives. If the wife, or the husband, decide they want to stay at home and take on all the household duties, I don't think there's anything wrong with that at all.

However, I think that both the husband and wife should have equal responsibilities around the house. Both of them are studying very hard, why should one have to do more house work than the other? When my wife and I got married, we both had educations that were important to each of us. We've both taken on the responsibilities of the household chores.

I have found being a married student is a whole lot easier than being a single student. When it's study time, we both are quite and we both encourage and support each other in our studies. When I was single, there were way too many temptations with friends to go out and see movies, go mountain biking etc.

Those are just my thoughts

 

[selune]

My husband and I were married in my sophomore year, and we also encouraged each other with studies, fewer distractions (well, fewer outside distractions). The only thing we really found difficult was that we did have our first child while students, so scheduling classes to make suer one of us was with her was not the easiest thing in the world. Also, it seems now there are more nontraditional students than when we were in college, only 10 years ago.

 

[katelyn]

Okay, a positive thing:

I am glad we didn't wait until we were done with college. Once you are absolutely sure that you want to get married, not being married and trying to schedule time together and stuff can be a huge distraction. And once you are married, studying can kind of count as spending time together.

 

[Cordy]

I really enjoy being married as a student. Sharing responsibilities has really lightened the load of being a student.
Not only household wise, (ie. Helping each other with grocery shopping, cooking cleaning), but also the handling the stress of school. It is so nice to have my husband there cheering me on in my studies.

 

[chriso]

My son & daughter in law got married after high school graduation and they are both going to the University and seem to really be enjoying it. They both have jobs and both do the housework, laundry ect. It seem to be working out really well for them.

 

[katelyn]

I hope no one misunderstands me and thinks that my husband made me do all the housework or something. That's not the case at all - it's something I personally wanted to do. He is good about helping out - I just try to get to it first.

I just wanted to point out all the responsibility and adjustment that's involved in getting married while in school. There's also the matter of being able to afford to get married in school. It's easier for some than others. There are just a lot of things to take into consideration when you are thinking about getting married while in school.

 

[Manna]

My husband and I have only been married for 6 months, but I absolutely love the fact that I am a student. Because of legal difficulties with his last job (long, nasty story), he is a stay-at-home hubby. He is also much more of a neat freak than I am, and honestly enjoys doing housework. We absolutely love each other and love spending time together, but also love the fact that we go two days a week where we are not having the same exact day that the other has. I can come home and tell him stories about things I experienced at school while he can tell me things he experienced at home...it breaks up the monotony, and we both thoroughly enjoy it!

Anna

 

[Cordy]

Because of legal difficulties with his last job (long, nasty story), he is a stay-at-home hubby. He is also much more of a neat freak than I am, and honestly enjoys doing housework. We absolutely love each other and love spending time together, but also love the fact that we go two days a week where we are not having the same exact day that the other has.

Yes, my husband is the one that likes to be neat, clean and tidy too!
For us, the financial responsibilities of living alone and being students has lightened since we have been married. We have found it more cost effective to be married because our costs are shared, ie. Bills, rent and groceries. Even more so that with a roommate.

 

[Svt4Him]

Both my husband and I are students who decided to get married in the middle of our university education.

I was just wondering if there are other married couples out there who are students (one or both) and how you enjoy married student life.

What are the perks of being a married student?
Does this situation bring any difficulties?

I thought this might be an opportunity to share.

My wife and I met in Bible college.

I enjoyed married student life. The perks? Well, we could have sex. Difficulties? No, student life is fairly structured, so there's less stress, family wise, then any other time.

 

[selune]

My wife and I met in Bible college.

I enjoyed married student life. The perks? Well, we could have sex. Difficulties? No, student life is fairly structured, so there's less stress, family wise, then any other time.

Love the comment on the perks! And oh the free time that was available then...So few obligations compared to now. My favorite time? Walking on campus together in the evening counting the bunnies that we saw. Such simple enjoyment...