Married people...

[FervidPrincess]

I find this Marriage forum very depressing...I come on here everyday looking for that other person that says they love their spouse and are happy. I know there are lots of people that need help with their marriages for one reason or another, but I am in shock how many people are unhappy in their marriage. Why dont we see praising of spouses on here? I constantly see "He did" "She did"...

Is there anyone else out there that loves their spouse unconditionally, spends every moment they can with their spouse, tell their spouse they love them every day, shows their spouse they love them every day?

I just feel there are so few married people here that are happy. Or, do only the unhappy ones post here. Maybe, a new forum for those of us that have good things to say about oue spouses is needed.

I would like for one time to come to the Marriage Forum and have alot of nice things to read about.

Just curious as to why all the negativity...

 

[Wide-eyedWithWonder]

I think it's just so easy to see what's wrong. Also, even if you are happy with your spouse, you're probably gonna post something if there's a problem. Doesn't mean you're not really happy with your spouse.

 

[LN]

Might be an oversimplified answer, but those of us who are happy have nothing to post about? If I started a post with "I'm happy with my spouse!" everyone might reply with "um... good for you?!" lol.

Is there anyone else out there that loves their spouse unconditionally

yes

spends every moment they can with their spouse

no. We enjoy having our own interests and activities apart from one another, as well as together.

tell their spouse they love them every day

yes.

shows their spouse they love them every day?

hmm... that would be up to him to determine. I hope so!

 

[HeatherJay]

I love my hubby...and he loves me. Yay!

Love, Heather - yes, he snores, but I still love him

 

[FervidPrincess]

I am glad to know you do love your husband... even though he snores.

 

[sioleabha]

I occasionally make posts about how happy I am in my marriage, but I generally post them on my journal rather than on message boards. I think when I post to a message board about my marriage, it's usually because I am looking for advice. And when I am happy, I don't need advice! (Well, I always need God's advice, but I get that from my Bible every day.)

But allow me to say how happy I am in my marriage. My husband is an amazing gift from God. The Lord used him and my children to bring me into a relationship with Christ that I would have thought impossible even two years ago.

I spend virtually every waking moment with my husband, and I never tire of being near him. He works from home, and I homeschool our children, and I love our situation. We rarely run out of things to talk about, and if we do, it's ok. We just enjoy being quiet together.

I love my husband completely without condition, and that love has been tested. But I know in my heart that with the Lord's help we can survive anything. I show and tell my husband these things often.

And the best part is that all of my feelings for him are reciprocated. Love and marriage with God in the middle... what could be better?

 

[Flipper]

I find this Marriage forum very depressing...I come on here everyday looking for that other person that says they love their spouse and are happy. I know there are lots of people that need help with their marriages for one reason or another, but I am in shock how many people are unhappy in their marriage. Why dont we see praising of spouses on here? I constantly see "He did" "She did"...

Is there anyone else out there that loves their spouse unconditionally, spends every moment they can with their spouse, tell their spouse they love them every day, shows their spouse they love them every day?

I just feel there are so few married people here that are happy. Or, do only the unhappy ones post here. Maybe, a new forum for those of us that have good things to say about oue spouses is needed.

I would like for one time to come to the Marriage Forum and have alot of nice things to read about.

Just curious as to why all the negativity...

That's exactly what I've been finding here as well, and it isn't just talking about how a spouse does this, or a spouse does that, but all I'm seeing seem to be very serious problems affecting whether a person should stay married or not.

At first, it made me realize how blessed I really am, but after leaving for a while, then coming back and seeing the same, it is almost as though there is something wrong with me because I am in a happy successful marriage.

I understand that there are people who need help and advice and this is a great forum for that. However, even though everything is going great in my marriage, I still feel I need encouragement because marriage is a lot of work, and I just don't seem to get that here, because the emphasis here is on the serious problems.

 

[Yitzchak]

I was married before to an abusive spouse who eventually had an affair and left me. So I can understand that there are few things more painful or confusing than having a spouse turn on you or even having marriage problems. This forum is a valueable resource for those struggling and I wish I had known about it when I was going through my struggles.

Now I am happily married to a spouse who loves me and there is nothing better in life than a happy marriage and family. I wouldn't mind seeing some positive threads.

 

[sarahbug]

I am pretty happy in my marriage, and I absolutely love and adore my husband. He is my best friend. But, I did post here recently about some problems we'd been having because I needed some advice and just a chance to vent and have some shoulders to cry on. That may be what a lot of other people are doing. Just because my dh and I may be having problems on a particular day doesn't diminish my love for him at all.

 

[mamaneenie]

I am mostly happy in my marriage. We have been married for almost 3 years so there is still a lot to learn about each other.

 

[Svt4Him]

My marriage was hell for the first six years, now I couldn't imagine a better marriage, even though we had seperation papers filled out six months ago. So now we've survived the worst, are better for it, and happily married.

 

[dldeskins]

My wife and I have been married for 5 wonderful years.

 

[PollyAnna]

I'm so very much in love with my husband. We've been together for 13 years and rarely have fights. But there are occasions when we do and during those times I hope that my friends would be there to offer a shoulder if I needed it.

My husband is wonderful, he cooks, he cleans, he runs me a bath, he's a wonderfully dedicated husband and father and I wouldn't trade him for anything in this world. Even on our worst days I'll suffer through to get back to all the wonderful days we have. And yes, we love to spend every minute we can together, but we do spend time apart occasionally.

 

[desi]

My wife and I had a hard first 4 to 5 years of marriage. We were almost divorced, filed, several times. Now we're getting along great and have for the past 4 years or so. It's not something I'd go to a forum to bragg about but it is something beautiful and special between her, me, our children, and God.

 

[Christi]

I love my husband, lots, FervidPrincess. I've been very blessed. Our marriage is real life, but it's happy, and the good by far outweighs the bad.

And yes, Heather, he raises the roof with his snoring. But, of course.

 

[Sappy]

I find this Marriage forum very depressing...I come on here everyday looking for that other person that says they love their spouse and are happy. I know there are lots of people that need help with their marriages for one reason or another, but I am in shock how many people are unhappy in their marriage. Why dont we see praising of spouses on here? I constantly see "He did" "She did"...

Is there anyone else out there that loves their spouse unconditionally, spends every moment they can with their spouse, tell their spouse they love them every day, shows their spouse they love them every day?

I just feel there are so few married people here that are happy. Or, do only the unhappy ones post here. Maybe, a new forum for those of us that have good things to say about oue spouses is needed.

I would like for one time to come to the Marriage Forum and have alot of nice things to read about.

Just curious as to why all the negativity...

 

[Sappy]

Marriage is a beautiful covenant. And it sounds like many are taking it for granted. I want you all to remember..Trash to you treasure to others....
If you invest the time in your marriage that you spend complaining you will see results and if you mix that with alot of prayer you may see that the change could be in you.
Now I am not being sarcastic, just extremely real...Some of these complainers need to spend time in the Word and meditating on the blood of Jesus. The change could be in you. God Bless

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Six years of awesomeness so far.
Marriage is better than I ever imagined.

 

[Whitestone]

I have been married almost six years, I love my wife imeasuably, and think our marriage is wonderful.

Pre bliss, 1st year of marriage pretty much whomped, 2nd thru 4th were hard and took some work to get through. But over the last couple of years my wife and I really focused on God, Scripture, and our roles in marriage. With our willingness to work together and stay Christ centered we have made some of the best lemonade I have ever tasted.

 

[Tangnefedd]

I have been married for nearly 35 years. If I had my life to go over again I would still marry the same guy, whom I love to pieces.