- Apr 20, 2020
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- Faith
- Catholic
- Marital Status
- Married
Hello,
I'm new to this forum. I sought it out to help me cope with my marriage issues. Perhaps that is best for another thread for me to open up about those issues but I am here because I love my wife and wish she was more comprehensive of my concerns of her Facebook use and the comments she has made and the friends she keeps there, particularly male friends. I don't think I'm alone in having issues with a spouse's use of Facebook. I just would like an outlet of faith to help me cope to keep my marriage alive. We have 2 young kids, both under 5.
I recently discovered a comment where a female friend of hers made a comment on a post of a male friend about he would leave a big hole in her (you can imagine what). My wife's female friend is the one that made the size comment. This is a post where the males friends several thousand other friends were also likely following. It wasn't a private comment. This bothered me quite a bit
Another instance is of the same male friend (who is married) who, although speaks of God every now and then in his FB post, posted 2 incredibly sexual posts:
1 post said "women don't have a sixth sense, they have a male friend that wants to have sex with them".
2nd post said "if an ugly guy such as this (pic of ugly male) can have sex with these 2 women. (included pics of 2 beautiful women) then why can't I havesex with you?"
Now, I understand these are post but the question that comes to mind are the following:
1) Is this guy indirectly wanting something with my wife?
2) why is my wife friends with this person?
I personally would never post such a vile post for the following reasons:
1) I'm married, what would my wife think.
2) What would the husband's of my female friends think if they saw me post something as vile as that on Facebook? I would expect said female friends to block me immediately without question.
3) if my wife is okay with this person posting such vile posts on Facebook, does my wife think it would be okay for me to do the same or if a female friend of mine posted something like that?
I brought this up to my wife and now she says that they were just joking about the comments and that the male friend just has a "dark" sense of humor. She now says that I'm insecure and that it shows I don't have confidence in her. She cried the whole evening basically when I expressed my concerns.
The last few days have been emotionally horrible for me, she doesn't acknowledge me as she used to. She says the least amount of words, keeps conversations short as if she doesn't care. She also said she now see's me differently. Why?
I cannot speak to this with my family so this is why I I need this outlet and if I'm wromg I'm willing the accept that.
She says that I should trust her just like she trust me. That she would put her hands through fire for me.
How do I cope with this? I am now thinking my wife would rather move on n, get a divorce and be with someone who is okay with her Facebook habits. She has started dropping hints of a divorce such as that her uncle divorced his wife and are on good terms. It's like she is emotionally beating me up.
I'm new to this forum. I sought it out to help me cope with my marriage issues. Perhaps that is best for another thread for me to open up about those issues but I am here because I love my wife and wish she was more comprehensive of my concerns of her Facebook use and the comments she has made and the friends she keeps there, particularly male friends. I don't think I'm alone in having issues with a spouse's use of Facebook. I just would like an outlet of faith to help me cope to keep my marriage alive. We have 2 young kids, both under 5.
I recently discovered a comment where a female friend of hers made a comment on a post of a male friend about he would leave a big hole in her (you can imagine what). My wife's female friend is the one that made the size comment. This is a post where the males friends several thousand other friends were also likely following. It wasn't a private comment. This bothered me quite a bit
Another instance is of the same male friend (who is married) who, although speaks of God every now and then in his FB post, posted 2 incredibly sexual posts:
1 post said "women don't have a sixth sense, they have a male friend that wants to have sex with them".
2nd post said "if an ugly guy such as this (pic of ugly male) can have sex with these 2 women. (included pics of 2 beautiful women) then why can't I havesex with you?"
Now, I understand these are post but the question that comes to mind are the following:
1) Is this guy indirectly wanting something with my wife?
2) why is my wife friends with this person?
I personally would never post such a vile post for the following reasons:
1) I'm married, what would my wife think.
2) What would the husband's of my female friends think if they saw me post something as vile as that on Facebook? I would expect said female friends to block me immediately without question.
3) if my wife is okay with this person posting such vile posts on Facebook, does my wife think it would be okay for me to do the same or if a female friend of mine posted something like that?
I brought this up to my wife and now she says that they were just joking about the comments and that the male friend just has a "dark" sense of humor. She now says that I'm insecure and that it shows I don't have confidence in her. She cried the whole evening basically when I expressed my concerns.
The last few days have been emotionally horrible for me, she doesn't acknowledge me as she used to. She says the least amount of words, keeps conversations short as if she doesn't care. She also said she now see's me differently. Why?
I cannot speak to this with my family so this is why I I need this outlet and if I'm wromg I'm willing the accept that.
She says that I should trust her just like she trust me. That she would put her hands through fire for me.
How do I cope with this? I am now thinking my wife would rather move on n, get a divorce and be with someone who is okay with her Facebook habits. She has started dropping hints of a divorce such as that her uncle divorced his wife and are on good terms. It's like she is emotionally beating me up.