Married couples dance?

[Neogaia777]

I and my wife used to wish there was a place to just dance to music, besides some bar... What do you think about having a dance night somewhere for married people, not young punks or singles.

I think the couple that dances together has something special that can help hold a marriage together.

I would like to find a place to rent for a night a week especially for married couples, do you have to discriminate to do this though

 

[All4Christ]

Would you be willing to go somewhere like swing dancing and dance as a married couple, despite others being there that may not be married? That type of dancing isn't always about hooking up with others. I honestly can't relate to needing a married couples only dance night weekly, since you can easily dance with your wife in a non-threatening, non-pushy dancing venue without limiting it to married couples. You can dance just the two of you. But, to each his / her own. I'm not sure whether or not that would be considered discriminating legally.

 

[mkgal1]

I'm curious as to what your definition is of "young punks" and why you have an issue with including singles (maybe they'd also appreciate a place to dance besides a bar)?

 

[riona]

I think sometimes churches will host things of this nature. Might be worth checking!
and if you word it right... "Couple's night out" ... it wouldn't necessarily be considered discrimination. Plenty of "moms only" or "dads only" or "singles only" events happen all the time and nobody complains.
You could even host a BBQ/dance in your back yard!

 

[grasping the after wind]

I think it all depends on what sort of dancing you want to engage in. If you set up a venue for dancing polkas or waltzes you won't get too many young punks clamoring to be part of the action.

 

[WolfGate]

A lot of the cities in North Carolina have active swing dancing communities. They would fit what you're looking for if that style is fun to you. Regular dances, which are really pretty cool. Pretty well spread across generations from high school to older adults, but since there is no alcohol and a strong positive culture, there are no worries. Singles will show up, and many people will dance with several - but it's about dancing not finding a date for the night. You can dance with just each other and still fit in just find. Might check to see if your area has the same.

 

[sdmsanjose]

years ago our local community college offered a Line Dance and Country Swing course and we did both. If they ever bring it back I will join again. Check your local community college.

 

[Neogaia777]

Would you be willing to go somewhere like swing dancing and dance as a married couple, despite others being there that may not be married? That type of dancing isn't always about hooking up with others. I honestly can't relate to needing a married couples only dance night weekly, since you can easily dance with your wife in a non-threatening, non-pushy dancing venue without limiting it to married couples. You can dance just the two of you. But, to each his / her own. I'm not sure whether or not that would be considered discriminating legally.

I was thinking about a place where married couples are free to dance with each other on a dance floor, with appropriate music (DJ) free from singles being there. Would that be discriminatory? It would probably be crossing the line to ask for a marriage certificate at the door, huh?

If a place had a married couples night, and didn't ask for any proof, do you think you'd have too much of a problem with singles coming in, and what would they do if a single person did get or want to come, in?

God Bless!

 

[Neogaia777]

Thank you guys for your replies!,

some very good ideas, Thank you!

God Bless!

 

[Dave-W]

Married couples dance?

Not if they are from a Wesleyan Holiness congregation.

 

[All4Christ]

I was thinking about a place where married couples are free to dance with each other on a dance floor, with appropriate music (DJ) free from singles being there. Would that be discriminatory? It would probably be crossing the line to ask for a marriage certificate at the door, huh?

If a place had a married couples night, and didn't ask for any proof, do you think you'd have too much of a problem with singles coming in, and what would they do if a single person did get or want to come, in?

God Bless!

I honestly don't see the draw of making sure it is free from singles, but to each his / her own. I do see the draw of making sure it isn't a place where people try to 'hook up', but I don't think it is synonymous with being free from singles. I probably would skip a married only dancing venue because of that. Perhaps others would enjoy it though.

Refusing people because they are single or worrying about them lying about being single would be something I would avoid. I think most people would respect the request for it being married only and would feel uncomfortable if they were the only single person (or one of a few) at the dance venue. It would be awkward to ask everyone to make sure they are married in my opinion. You could do that if you really want to though. You would probably need to assign someone to be at the entrance to check.

 

[Hetta]

If the idea of excluding singles is to prevent any straying from one partner or the other, I don't think that would really work. Married people can stray with other married people just as easily. But yes, what everyone else said - there are all many dancing opportunities, so long as you aren't too exclusive. If you're really that exclusive, you could just fire up the iPod and dance in your own house.

 

[mkgal1]

If the idea of excluding singles is to prevent any straying from one partner or the other, I don't think that would really work. Married people can stray with other married people just as easily

I do see the draw of making sure it isn't a place where people try to 'hook up', but I don't think it is synonymous with being free from singles.

That was my thought exactly.

If you're really that exclusive, you could just fire up the iPod and dance in your own house.

There you go! Problem solved

 

[contango]

If the idea of excluding singles is to prevent any straying from one partner or the other, I don't think that would really work. Married people can stray with other married people just as easily. But yes, what everyone else said - there are all many dancing opportunities, so long as you aren't too exclusive. If you're really that exclusive, you could just fire up the iPod and dance in your own house.

This, very much so.

I really can't see the issue with having singles present. I can tell you that any venue that expected me to present a marriage certificate at the door would be told in no uncertain terms that it wasn't going to happen. I'm not going to carry my marriage certificate to an unknown venue just to satisfy an arbitrary desire to see it any more than I carry my passport to bars to prove I'm old enough to drink.

OP - why not focus on the kind of people you want to attract rather than whether they've got a bit of gold on their finger or not? Some people have the piece of paper that says they are married but have a very liberal attitude to sharing their spouse with others. Some people are single and not seeking "someone, anyone" to go home with for the night. It seems to me you'd be better off looking to attract the kind of people who will respect their partner (whether single or married) and deter the kind of people who regard a dance as little more than a chance for a quick grope.