Hi. I have been married to my beautiful wife for 18 years now, and I loveher very much. We are not perfect people, and I'm not sure what went wrong in our relationship, but I must have done or not done something? We have 4 amazing daughters that have brought me closer to my relationship with her, but it seems the older they all get, the more alienated I become.
I am big on a structured day for them, so I believe they should have chore responsibilities along with all their school obligations. It seems whenever I have tried to implement this into their lives my wife shoots it down. She feels as though her and I are the ones that should do it all. To serve like Jesus. I can see what she is saying, but where do they learn? We were all put here to serve I thought, and help each other. Needless to say I'm out numbered when it comes to keeping our house a home.
I am an electrician so my day to day is usually not easy and very taxing on my body. Still I come home to clean house and sometimes cook dinner. She has just finished college after 15 years off and on, and being a stay home mom, and is now teaching at our daughters' school. Through all this my wife shows no affection and hasn't for quite some time now. Years. I have to ask for any kind of contact, and I can count on 1 hand how many times she has initiated sex in all our years of marriage. I feel like I have been very patient but how long do I keep going. I'm at my wits end.
I broke my knee recently and have been dealing with those stresses and being out of work. My wife wants me to be up on my knee cleaning and driving errands. The doc told me not to drive. My main thing though is not feeling loved in any of this. My younger daughters let me know they love me, but my older daughters struggle too now and it tears me up inside. My heart is just so heavy because now my wife tells me she is no longer "in love" with me. I know she's not a cheater, but what I don't know is why has she stopped loving me? I have been the same guy she married. Maybe that's the problem. I will tell you that I have made changes and sacrificed a lot of who I am to be with my wife. I don't really want to keep changing and trying if she isn't going to. Just don't know what to do because I love her so much and want our marriage to work. Thanks for reading this long note. Any input would be appreciated.
I am big on a structured day for them, so I believe they should have chore responsibilities along with all their school obligations. It seems whenever I have tried to implement this into their lives my wife shoots it down. She feels as though her and I are the ones that should do it all. To serve like Jesus. I can see what she is saying, but where do they learn? We were all put here to serve I thought, and help each other. Needless to say I'm out numbered when it comes to keeping our house a home.
I am an electrician so my day to day is usually not easy and very taxing on my body. Still I come home to clean house and sometimes cook dinner. She has just finished college after 15 years off and on, and being a stay home mom, and is now teaching at our daughters' school. Through all this my wife shows no affection and hasn't for quite some time now. Years. I have to ask for any kind of contact, and I can count on 1 hand how many times she has initiated sex in all our years of marriage. I feel like I have been very patient but how long do I keep going. I'm at my wits end.
I broke my knee recently and have been dealing with those stresses and being out of work. My wife wants me to be up on my knee cleaning and driving errands. The doc told me not to drive. My main thing though is not feeling loved in any of this. My younger daughters let me know they love me, but my older daughters struggle too now and it tears me up inside. My heart is just so heavy because now my wife tells me she is no longer "in love" with me. I know she's not a cheater, but what I don't know is why has she stopped loving me? I have been the same guy she married. Maybe that's the problem. I will tell you that I have made changes and sacrificed a lot of who I am to be with my wife. I don't really want to keep changing and trying if she isn't going to. Just don't know what to do because I love her so much and want our marriage to work. Thanks for reading this long note. Any input would be appreciated.
