Marriage... I want it.

[JFitz]

Here it is... in all cheesiness, I'm laying it out there for you to hear.

I found him

My boyfriend and I met in college two years ago and started dating. He is 20 and I will be 21 in July. He is a Christian and has been for all his life. We are very much in love. He's brought up marriage in the future... I know we;re super young and I admit we won't be ready for a bit but I was wondering what age people have gotten married at and how you coped being young. I tend to worry about my future waayyy too much.

I thank God everyday that I found him and I pray that it is in His will to keep us together forever.

God Bless!

 

[avi8tor]

I don't know about anyone else but I have changed and grown up a ton since I was 20, so I don't know how being married would have played into all that.

I guess it depends on where you both are in life. I would say if you both have careers and settled into decent jobs then go for it. But if you're still in college and not even close to finishing then I wouldn't even mess with it. My cousin and his wife got married at 20 and then tried to do the whole college thing while they both worked full time. That lasted about a semester...lol

 

[mahlalie]

Yeah, my gf dumped me when I was 21 lol. I think she was too young to know what she wanted to do or who she wanted to be. That's not the case with everyone, I guess, and I certainly hope it's not the case with you two. From my absolutely zero experience in the marriage department, know where you want to go in life. Know that settling down is really what you want to do when you decide to go for it. Know that you will never leave each other no matter how you feel about each other. Remember that love is a decision that trumps feelings.

 

[NiobiumTragedy]

My wife was 19 when we got married. Simply put, she was ready for it at that age. Provided you are mentally, financially, spiritually, and emotionally ready for it, then age is simply a number. I know people in their 30s who aren't there yet and shouldn't get married.

Just keep in mind that even if you are ready, he may not be. So don't try to pressure him into it.

 

[Wedjat]

I think being stable financially is really important. Get yourself through college and set up in a job before you go get married. If it's going to work, then your relationship isn't going to disappear while you work your way through school. If something happens and it doesn't work out, at least you didn't rush into marriage. However, it sounds like you two have something lasting, so a little patience can't hurt.

 

[Luther073082]

I was 27 when I got married.

I recommend waiting until you are about 23.

You arn't that far off and discussing marriage isn't a bad idea right now. (presuming you are about the same age) Heck you could get engaged soon. But I think waiting for another 2 years would be a good idea.

How old are you?

I don't know about anyone else but I have changed and grown up a ton since I was 20, so I don't know how being married would have played into all that.

Thats precisely the reason I recommend waiting til about 23. IMO for the average westernized young adult, more growing and maturing and discovering yourself happens between 18 and 23 then any other 5 year stretch in your life. You still grow, mature, and discover yourself later on and will your whole life, but not nearly to the extent that you will in that 5 year stretch. And I think if you are going to get married you want to at least be on the tail end of all of that.

 

[married0116]

I was 20 when I met my husband, and we knew the day we met we were getting married! He gave me a promise ring 6 weeks after we met (like a small engagement ring) and then 6 months after we met, he proposed. We got married 1 year later (I had to finish my education down at school). We just celebrated our 1 year wedding anniversary this past Sunday...! It has been wonderful to be married -- and I would recommend you listen to your heart and listen to God (that's the MOST important). No one can tell you what is right for you, because only you know! There are challenges in any stage of life, but building that solid friendship and grounding your relationship in the LORD is absolutely key. Let me know if you want to talk or have any questions! . It's worth it to marry young (so I think!) and totally worth it to wait too! Soul mates, husband/wife, and best friends for life~

 

[RobertMerton]

I want it too.

as for age, as previously discussed above it really depends on the person for 'what they want from life'.
I think that is a question i will ask anyone new i meet. (particularly those i am interested in)

For me presonally i would want to get married after i graduate from uni (in 4 years), and get a decent job, and having been in that job for around a year to two years. (so when i am 24/25).
of course that will depend on me having had met the girl and courted her..

which is probably the 'hard-er' part.

 

[Fatally.Yours]

Be careful and make sure it's what you really want. I got engaged when I was 16, it didn't end well at all. So be very careful.

 

[RobertMerton]

Be careful and make sure it's what you really want. I got engaged when I was 16, it didn't end well at all. So be very careful.

can i ask what happened?

 

[Lord Herdsetk]

I want marriage, but i'm not sure if i want the woman that comes with it XD

...yeah let's just say i'm a ways off myself.