I'd rather have 32 root canals, one right after the other, without anesthetic, than to get married again. Some of us have no business being anything but alone.It does not say married couples are to only 'fornicate' to make babies. It says quite the contrary. But many many many married couples, especially the ones that have kids have very hard lives. If you are single enjoy your freedom. If you want to get married for companionship only, I am sure you can find someone who wants the same
I'd rather have 32 root canals, one right after the other, without anesthetic, than to get married again. Some of us have no business being anything but alone.
Yes, chemistry is a thing, but it figures more in initial stages of attraction.
A good marriage over many decades requires commitment and unselfish love in action.
Fireworks, chemistry, and all of that can come and go - especially when someone gets sick, when tragedy strikes, during lean years, and so on.
When I'm lonely I will read this again and maybe that will calm me down at least temporarily lol.I'd rather have 32 root canals, one right after the other, without anesthetic, than to get married again. Some of us have no business being anything but alone.
I'm getting to the point (39, almost 40) where I'm no longer sure if I want kids, and that is a disincentive to marriage, but my sex drive is so high that while I do abstain, my mind is still obsessed with sex, but with marriage comes the "danger" of getting pregnant, so I really feel in a bind...I am in my 40s, and while I was once married, I was fortunate in that there were no kids. I never wanted kids ( long story but I have my reasons).
For me, in my life now, since I don't want kids there is no reason to pursue a relationship of any kind. Companionship is fine, but crossing the line to fornicating with no goal other than gratification is just not compatible with my morals. No kids, no marriage, no sex. Seems a simple formula, but I am prone to oversimplify things to justify being a stubborn jerk from time to time to make myself feel better about a life of poor choices that led me to where I am.
I'm getting to the point (39, almost 40) where I'm no longer sure if I want kids, and that is a disincentive to marriage, but my sex drive is so high that while I do abstain, my mind is still obsessed with sex, but with marriage comes the "danger" of getting pregnant, so I really feel in a bind...
You know, I've never encountered a child-free couple who were so willingly. I've met two who had been trying for kids for years with no success and got railroaded by the adoption process. Not trying to be argumentative but just saying I have not seen any of these child-free couples your post eludes to.I can still have children. But a first time trip to Ikea made it clear those days are behind me. The noise and screams were too much. I don’t have the patience or stamina.
I realized later I rarely encounter children. I shop during the day in stores where they’re never present. I’d forgotten what its like.
Marriage needn’t necessitate children. There are many child-free couples.
You know, I've never encountered a child-free couple who were so willingly. I've met two who had been trying for kids for years with no success and got railroaded by the adoption process. Not trying to be argumentative but just saying I have not seen any of these child-free couples your post eludes to.
Indeed it is; and it is taught AGAINST in some churches.Trust me, compatibility / chemistry is a thing.
Married couples cannot "fornicate."It does not say married couples are to only 'fornicate' to make babies.
There are ways of avoiding pregnancy. Like a vasectomy or tubal ligation.I'm getting to the point (39, almost 40) where I'm no longer sure if I want kids, and that is a disincentive to marriage, but my sex drive is so high that while I do abstain, my mind is still obsessed with sex, but with marriage comes the "danger" of getting pregnant, so I really feel in a bind...
There is an entire book of the bible (Song of Solomon) which, at its most basic literal level, is a series of erotic poems about a married couple with all kinds of sexual and relational expressions, but without any mention of children or procreation.I will marry if and only when I find a man who is a passionate Christian and is okay with having no kids.
That exact scenario happened to me. The reason I agreed to marry the woman I was married to was that we agreed to not have children. She changed her mind a few years later. I did not. She thought she could get me to change my mind. She could not. She started cheating on me, so I divorced her.To all who are saying they want to be married but do not want to bear children. I have a question for you all. Let's say you get married eventually, and agreeing beforehand with your partner that you both don't want children. Then years later, one of you decide they want a child. How would you resolve this issue? What would you do? Perhaps, the question to ask is, "What would love do?" The best way I find to always resolve any issue is to ask yourself this question, "What does God want?" You may never know what God plans are, it might be that God wants to bear a child through you who is going to turn this world upside down for the sake of the kingdom of God. Would the clay say to the potter, "what are you moulding?" It's good that we have our plans and desire, but above all else, we should conclude and surrender all our plans to the Lord and say, "Father, thy will be done, not mine."
That exact scenario happened to me. The reason I agreed to marry the woman I was married to was that we agreed to not have children. She changed her mind a few years later. I did not. She thought she could get me to change my mind. She could not. She started cheating on me, so I divorced her.
If my decision to not have children offends the Lord, then I'll deal with those consequences when the time comes. I'll never change my mind though, nor will I ever again put myself into a position where the possibility ever exists.
Marriage is the capstone of the family and the building block of human civilization. God said, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth..." A society that fails to honor and protect marriage undermines its very existence.
One of God's designs for marriage is to show the next generation how a husband and wife demonstrates reciprocal, sacrificial love toward each other. When husbands and wives forsake that love, their marriage fails to be what God intended. When marriage fails, the whole family falls apart; when the family fails, whole societies suffer. And stories of societal suffering fill the news headlines every day.
Now, more than ever before, is the time for Christians to declare and put on display what the Bible declares: God's standard for marriage and the family is the only standard that can produce meaning, happiness, and fulfillment.
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