beaverpond
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We have had a similar situation with my in-laws...both him and her. They have wanted their granddaughter to spend the night in less than clean living conditions. But that is not the reason why we have said no to them as we are trying to keep things fair.
Our daughter does not stay at my parents either and their house is spotless as my father likes to walk around the house with a white glove and look for dust. So you go from one extreme to the next.
We do not allow our daughter to stay with either of them as she is our daughter and it is our responsibility to raise her. The in-laws live over an hour away and my parents live just 10 minutes away. Now my daughter has stayed at my parents house twice in nine years due to a family emergency because my father-in-law was taken to the hospital and because we did not know how long he would be there, my parents volunteered to take her for that night and get her off to school if need be.
This has led to some heated arguments at times. But recently things have gotten much worse when the in-laws totaled their car and for over a year we have been trying to talk my father-in-law into turning his license back into the state. He has backed into ditches, mailboxes, hit guardrails, sidewalks and curbing, and the list goes on. Then the doctor still gave him back his license after all this and the accident. We even begged the state not to give it to him. They gave him an eye test and a written test. We wish they had given him a road test. Anyway, they had this so called friend who was verbally and emotionally abusing them. So they started begging us to help them find a car and they would do away with this person forever.
At a lot of reluctance and feeling like we were caught between a rock and a hard place we said we would help them not only get proper insurance but also find a decent car that is not to big unlike the other thing they had that was the size of a Crown Vic Wagon. So we found something the size of a Chevy Cavalier for them...he liked it she hated it. She complained about everything that day, the way the car rode, the way my truck rode, how hard it was to get in and out of my truck, how uncomfortable she was in both vehicles, I had to spend 4.5 hours with her in my truck. I called my wife and told her what was going on and told her that I was going to go for a long walk when we get back to the house. I was so sick of the complaining and arguing from her that I pulled over to the side of the road on the way back to their house and put the truck in park disengaging the door locks on my GMC and I said to her something my father used to say to us kids...walking ain't crowded... She said what does that mean. I said that means I have had enough of your mouth and your yelling. If you can't keep quiet, then you can get out and walk the rest of the way. My father-in-law never said a single word, he just looked at the floor and never looked up. I added that next time I am bringing a blindfold, handcuffs, and duct tape.
After looking at the car they wrote a check for the purchase of the car, they then did a stop payment on the check, then they wanted the car again, then they changed their minds again, now they want it again. After they did the stop payment, I told them and the garage that whatever happens next it is between him and them. I have nothing to do with it. I am done with this mess. My in-laws have begged for my help a few times and my exact words have been "you burned that bridge, you are on your own". They have then asked how they are going to get the car and I said "again not my problem." We also cancelled our plans for Thanksgiving with them. We wanted them to realize that there are consequences for their actions. My wife is just as infuriated as I am and is embarrassed by her mother's attitude as well as her father's because the garage they are trying to deal with is a friend of ours.
Our daughter does not stay at my parents either and their house is spotless as my father likes to walk around the house with a white glove and look for dust. So you go from one extreme to the next.
We do not allow our daughter to stay with either of them as she is our daughter and it is our responsibility to raise her. The in-laws live over an hour away and my parents live just 10 minutes away. Now my daughter has stayed at my parents house twice in nine years due to a family emergency because my father-in-law was taken to the hospital and because we did not know how long he would be there, my parents volunteered to take her for that night and get her off to school if need be.
This has led to some heated arguments at times. But recently things have gotten much worse when the in-laws totaled their car and for over a year we have been trying to talk my father-in-law into turning his license back into the state. He has backed into ditches, mailboxes, hit guardrails, sidewalks and curbing, and the list goes on. Then the doctor still gave him back his license after all this and the accident. We even begged the state not to give it to him. They gave him an eye test and a written test. We wish they had given him a road test. Anyway, they had this so called friend who was verbally and emotionally abusing them. So they started begging us to help them find a car and they would do away with this person forever.
At a lot of reluctance and feeling like we were caught between a rock and a hard place we said we would help them not only get proper insurance but also find a decent car that is not to big unlike the other thing they had that was the size of a Crown Vic Wagon. So we found something the size of a Chevy Cavalier for them...he liked it she hated it. She complained about everything that day, the way the car rode, the way my truck rode, how hard it was to get in and out of my truck, how uncomfortable she was in both vehicles, I had to spend 4.5 hours with her in my truck. I called my wife and told her what was going on and told her that I was going to go for a long walk when we get back to the house. I was so sick of the complaining and arguing from her that I pulled over to the side of the road on the way back to their house and put the truck in park disengaging the door locks on my GMC and I said to her something my father used to say to us kids...walking ain't crowded... She said what does that mean. I said that means I have had enough of your mouth and your yelling. If you can't keep quiet, then you can get out and walk the rest of the way. My father-in-law never said a single word, he just looked at the floor and never looked up. I added that next time I am bringing a blindfold, handcuffs, and duct tape.
After looking at the car they wrote a check for the purchase of the car, they then did a stop payment on the check, then they wanted the car again, then they changed their minds again, now they want it again. After they did the stop payment, I told them and the garage that whatever happens next it is between him and them. I have nothing to do with it. I am done with this mess. My in-laws have begged for my help a few times and my exact words have been "you burned that bridge, you are on your own". They have then asked how they are going to get the car and I said "again not my problem." We also cancelled our plans for Thanksgiving with them. We wanted them to realize that there are consequences for their actions. My wife is just as infuriated as I am and is embarrassed by her mother's attitude as well as her father's because the garage they are trying to deal with is a friend of ours.
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