Manipulation Tactics?

[MERCY@GRACE]

The ladies who manipulated come to mind: delilah,jezebel,& eve. I'm sure there are examples of men manipulating too, but it's more prevalent w/ women. MBAMS-you make a great point I also think in some cases men are more physicial w/ their emotion,even to the point of physical abuse. Maybe b/c women cannot compete or have a chance in that manner they succom to MT!


For me, I'm not much of a cryer, so when I do cry dh STOPS and pays INTENSE attention. I think if I cried EVERYTIME we got into an argument, he' would be like.. here we go again, here comes the waterworks lol!

 

[Cordy]

The ladies who manipulated come to mind: delilah,jezebel,& eve.

Eve? Hmm… why do you think she was manipulative?

 

[mostie]

Ok, Ok, i'll fess up-lol....there are times I do manipulate a tad, funny thing is, I wasn't even aware that's what I was doing--I have to admit, im a 'cryer', just can't help it- bottom lip starts trembling, eyes fill up and im a goner-lol. Thing is, it usually takes a lot to make me that way, but when it happens, it's because im feeling hugely dejected by whatever he happens to be saying--or im frustrated, but usually it's the other one. However, when im manipulating (sheesh)....I have a tendency to suck up-lol.

 

[Yitzchak]

Oh, I agree with you! I don't think the Bible sets out the power hierarchy that the man has the final say and the woman submits to it. I think the best way to show love, respect and submission toward each others is for the husband and wife to put the other before themselves and come to an agreement together. But I don't think that is really what is taught in much of the Christian culture, and I think that negative things happen as a result. One of those is increasing manipulation.

There is a verse which says that the scripture is like a sharp sword which divides spirit and soul and discerns the intents of the heart. Sometimes I think that the way a certain passage is read is more an indication about the person reading it than about the passage itself. One of the primary struggles which people deal with is control and power. Whether it is in marriage or between parents and children, bosses and employees. It doesn't seem to take much to tempt people into wanting the upper hand in decision making. Even in "mutual" relationships it is a struggle for people to respect one another and not cross the line of using some kind of leverage , espeacially when strong emotional needs are on the line.